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Miss Oatmeal, Fresno, CA Age and Occupation: 25, Medical Device Sales Representative Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Police Officer/Captain in the US Army Engagement Date: February 16, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Private Residence, Fresno About Me: I am a toast-loving, list-making, occasionally crazy California girl getting dangerously close to marrying her crime-fighting, patient, man's man fiancé. I’ve never left our hometown of Clovis, CA, I love Anthropologie so much it almost hurts, appreciate promptness, love that our 4lb. Chihuahua, Murphy, smells like Fritos, am irritated by windshield wipers that move too fast for the amount of rain, love me some cold weather, have an unhealthy obsession with boots, and wholeheartedly think that my family is everything. Mr. Oatmeal is, oddly enough, my brother's best friend. He's also the best thing that's ever happened to me, and together we are planning a vintage chic, backyard, spring wedding with a few nontraditional touches while trying to keep up with our crazy lives.
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Monkey, Part 2

January 14th, 2011 @ 3:54 pm by Miss Oatmeal

I was thinking about something the other day when Mama Oatmeal and I were watching Four Weddings on TLC. A bride started crying while saying her vows. That’s not uncommon, but for some reason this was the first time I actually gave some thought to what a problem this is going to be for me.

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You see, I’m an emotional person. To give you an idea of what I’m talking about, I’ll admit that I probably cry at least once a day. Now before you start thinking about my terribly sad life, I’m not always sad. In fact, I hardly ever cry because I’m sad or upset. I cry when I’m happy. A lot. Examples below.

  1. I hear a song whose lyrics I like = cry.
  2. Any SPCA/Humane Society commercial comes on television = cry.
  3. Pretty much any movie (it doesn’t even have to be sad…I’ve been known to cry during ANY lame chic flick, and not even the touching ones. Princess Diaries, anyone?) = cry.

Yikes, I know. Mr. Oatmeal is convinced that there’s something wrong with me.

So here’s the thing: I’m not a pretty crier, as evidenced by this previous post. But it is what it is. This post isn’t even supposed to be about my ugly crying. The real issue is my veil and how I’m going to reach my tears during the ceremony with it on. I’m not wearing a traditional veil, so I can’t just reach under with a pretty hankie to catch the inevitable tears. Here’s what I’m working with:

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Isn’t she pretty? Her name is Wendy, and I fell in love with her the instant we met. Sara Gabriel is the designer behind this beauty, and all her pieces are equally stunning. You should most certainly check her out if you’re in the market for some wedding accessories. I was able to find her at Madeleine’s Bridal in Clovis, which is also where I found my lovely dress that I have yet to show you for obvious reasons.

But enough teasing. Here’s a good look at her.

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Oh, she takes my breath away. Anyway, do you see the problem this poses as related to my uncontrollable emotions?

Any suggestions on how to cry prettier/not cry at all during the ceremony/be able to reach under the veil to wipe my tears away? I could use some help.

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tall_jenny
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tall_jenny (message)  452 posts, Helper bee

I’m a crier too. I cry ALL the time. Long distance calling commercials, spca commercials, happy children…. oh man. I totally know how you feel.

Hmm… can you do a test of the veil to see if you can reach under it? I think you could maybe reach the outside corners of your eyes at least.

 
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KLloyd1 (message)  814 posts, Busy bee

your veil is stunning!

 
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Carla @ I Run, You Run

You know, I’m a crier big time. And I wanted to burst into tears as I was heading off to the church, and walking to the church and it was really hard to keep it in, but I did, and once I went in to the church I looked at my groom, and boom, I burst into a smile. Not one single tear at all that day.

I was actually a bit disappointed… I really thought I would cry, but I was just so happy!

 
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Moffy
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Moffy (message)  200 posts, Helper bee

I’m like you, I cry at everything! It’s actually kind of ridiculous — I feel and cry for inanimate objects, seriously. Anyway, with all that said, I ended up not crying at our wedding until my dad’s welcome speech and the father-daughter dance. Everything else at the ceremony was happy things! Our vows were even on the goofy side because that’s how we are. That helped!

 
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Mrs. Trail Mix (message)  6,328 posts, Bee Keeper

I’m a total crier and while I shed a few minute tears walking down the aisle and my throat did catch a bit at the beginning of my vows, I managed to hold it together pretty well…I think there’s something about being YOUR wedding that somehow helps the tears situation…But otherwise, you might not be able to wipe them off until they’re below your veil…Hmmmm, a dilemma!

 
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sctigergirl81
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sctigergirl81 (message)  356 posts, Helper bee

lol this totally cracked me up! because i cry at everything also. i did cry at my wedding, but i found a way to combat it!
so i’m walking down the aisle and i hear crying…every. one. of my damn bridesmaids. lol. I’m a wise acre as it is, i love making people laugh. I made the ceremony entertaining…in a tasteful way, mind you. I was wearing a birdcage veil and my husband says “nice hat” lol. which made the pastor crack up too. I did cry, but I didn’t ball like I was afraid of, because I kept it lighthearted, fun, and the best moment of my life. I had my bridesmaids giggling by the end of it. The pastor is praying and im trying to get tissues from the MOH and she’s shaking and couldn’t get me one in time, which some of the guests saw, and it was just a funny moment. It didn’t help when the husband started tearing up as well.

 
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Miss Jaguar
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Miss Jaguar (message)  4,656 posts, Honey bee

You could totally dab the corners of your eyes underneath - but might be worth a bit of a dry run. (HAHAHA, dry run.) Oh boy.

I think crying while saying vows is gorgeous, fyi. And you are NOT an ugly crier!

 
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CLizbeth
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CLizbeth (message)  1 posts, Wannabee

OMG! I have the same problem!… I’m very emotional person… my fiance says I cry at everything and it’s true… I just hope i can hold it in, because i’m not a pretty crier either.

 
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Mrs. Barrettes
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Mrs. Barrettes (message)  883 posts, Busy bee

Cry it all out at the rehearsal so you only have cute little tears to contend with at the ceremony ;)

 
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Miss Tartlet
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Miss Tartlet (message)  3,207 posts, Sugar bee

Princess Diaries was on the other night and I was honking into a tissue at the end! I’m a total softie. I don’t have any good ideas for dabbing your eyes, but I thought the photos of you crying during your proposal were the most touching I’ve seen. :) Totally not an ugly crier!

 
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Mrs. Spaniel (message)  6,792 posts, Bee Keeper

Love blushers like that :) I think you can still reach a hankie up there!

 
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tink4kali
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tink4kali (message)  66 posts, Worker bee

Miss Tartlet is right Miss Oatmeal you are not at all an uglier crier! Those pictures turned out beautiful, may I also add you have exquisite taste in veils. I love the Wendy!

 
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lelo

You know I thought I would cry during our ceremony. I tear up at weddings when I hear the wedding march. But, I didn’t let out one drop on our wedding day. But, my husband started tearing up during our vows. He couldn’t get out “my constant friend.” He had to pause. Some people at first thought he was having second thoughts but then realized he had tears in his eyes. He didn’t want his voice to break. And, he’s not a crier at all. You might be surprised at how together you have it on your wedding day.

 
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KB (message)  169 posts, Blushing bee

I’m a big crier myself. You sound just like me. I’m not even planning on a veil. Not sure what I would do? But maybe like others have said, you won’t cry quite like you think you will. :-)

 
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Miss Lox (message)  1,128 posts, Bumble bee

I’ve got nothing to help with the veil. But you tell Mr. Oatmeal that Miss Lox said you are normal. Because if you’re not that I’m every bit as freakish as you. I declare us both to be unbroken! We’re just very…. sympathetic. Or something.

 
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Emily W.

I thought I would cry all day on my wedding day, because I, too, am a major crier. (I cried at the end of Cool Runnings… haha.) But I had some moist eyes and that was it on the day. I laughed more than I ever thought I would! You might surprise yourself. Just focus on your fiance at the end of the aisle, that’s what I did!

 
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I’m a crier too. I think you’ll be able to fit a hanky under your veil. Or maybe just catch the tears that come out from under your veil and touch up your makeup immediately after. You are not an ugly crier, though, so just embrace the cry! Criers unite! lol!

 
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Lexsy
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Lexsy (message)  537 posts, Busy bee

As previous posters have said above, it might be that you will actually not cry at your own wedding! But if you believe this is a possibility, you should definitely check if you can dab your eyes with that veil. The veil is definitely fantastic, but you don’t want to be stuck with it with teary eyes, I think it could become very uncomfortable!

 
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lynsiex (message)  86 posts, Worker bee

I’m glad I’m not the only one who cries pretty much every day. Those stupid ASPCA commercials are the worst! Also, I cry in at least half the movie trailers I see. If there’s music that builds up in any way, I’m crying. :-P

 
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Miss Giraffe
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Miss Giraffe (message)  4,216 posts, Honey bee

Your veil is to die for!!

I have no no-crying tips, but seriously, those ASPCA commercials are the worst!

 
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Miss Oatmeal, Fresno, CA Age and Occupation: 25, Medical Device Sales Representative Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Police Officer/Captain in the US Army Engagement Date: February 16, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Private Residence, Fresno About Me: I am a toast-loving, list-making, occasionally crazy California girl getting dangerously close to marrying her crime-fighting, patient, man's man fiancé. I’ve never left our hometown of Clovis, CA, I love Anthropologie so much it almost hurts, appreciate promptness, love that our 4lb. Chihuahua, Murphy, smells like Fritos, am irritated by windshield wipers that move too fast for the amount of rain, love me some cold weather, have an unhealthy obsession with boots, and wholeheartedly think that my family is everything. Mr. Oatmeal is, oddly enough, my brother's best friend. He's also the best thing that's ever happened to me, and together we are planning a vintage chic, backyard, spring wedding with a few nontraditional touches while trying to keep up with our crazy lives.

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