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Well, it happened. I mean, I didn’t think it would, but it did. Oh no, I thought I was such a cool, laid-back bride. And only smart cool people are coming to my wedding. That is the joy of a small affair later in life. It’s all cool and laid back and made of awesome. Until today, that is.
Today, a wedding guest lost her mind. See, it started when she got our STD (*snicker*), apparently. She promptly visited the website and signed our guestbook there. “We have saved the date, now we just need to find a room.” I may be all calm and stuff, but I know passive aggressive when I see it. And I know this woman…have for all of my life. I was frustrated. Before the STDs (*snort*) went out, I got a list of recommended places to stay from the B&B where the wedding is (theirs being at the top of the list, of course). And I added said list to our wedding website to get the news out to our guests. So I was irked. But, you know, I just let it go. I’m cool, so that’s how I roll.
See how chill she is? I can’t even do yoga in sweatpants, let alone a gown. (Source)
Then my mother e-mailed her. And she responded. She was all upset because the inn had told her we had them all booked up for Sunday night and they were full on Saturday too. Both things were untrue, but that’s beside the point. My cool bride self is not going to point fingers. The wrong message was received.
Oh how I wish she was acting this kind of crazy. Maybe she’ll oblige on the day of? (Source)
Cool bride me e-mailed my event coordinator and basically said, “What gives?” Apparently they don’t release rooms on wedding nights for individual reservations until three months before the event. (PS: Said guest said she knew that after the fact. I love it.) And after a few minutes of chatting, we had the situation handled. And we had a room for this guest.
Said guest is also annoyed that we changed venues. Apparently the new place isn’t as convenient for her. Whatevs.
Have you lost your bridal cool yet? Or have your guests gone categorically insane? Make me feel better.
I must admit I thought I would remain cool, but alas I have to confess. I have lost my “bridal cool” on a least 2 occasions. LOL!!
We did not send out STDs and invites have yet to go out…so there is room for improvement or total failure. LOL
Glad you are being zen about it. I also feel that venting helps you move on and not keeping it bottled up. On the positive, I guess it’s nice she is trying to do it so far out from the wedding? Compared to most people scrambling when they receive the wedding invite even though they had the STD.
Side note: your comment about yoga in sweat pants let alone a dress was HILARIOUS! I couldn’t agree more.
I Lost my bridal cool almost immediately after getting engaged!
I got so many rude, irritating comments shortly after our STDs. People asking if they could bring so and so, asking the same questions over and over again when it was all explained on the website, etc. Seriously, I lost it after the STDs too. Hopefully things have calmed down after the initial excitement!
I don’t really understand what happened here (maybe I’m missing something about how your venue works), but I think it’s good that you handled it calmly. No need to get worked up at people–they will act stupid no matter what you do.
I haven’t quite yet, but our STDs are about to hit the mail and I am SURE we will get a lot of “can I bring a guest” questions. Our venue is small and only holds so many, if the envelope only had one name on it then that is who is invited. I am sure people will love that 
ugh, I’m worried about this kind of thing also! I have already had people asking about hotels and flight info, 8.5 months out! on one hand, it’s great they are excited and want to be proactive - on the other, it’s like, wait one week for your STD to arrive and it will ALL be on the website! I’m not planning a destination wedding only to leave you guests to your own devices, obviously. sigh.
I’m impressed by your bridal cool. I’m working on keeping mine…I have had my moments!
I’m so glad I can come to the “‘Bee”when I need to vent and get some perspective from outside my family and friends.
Wow, I still think you handled it really well. I don’t think I’ll be mailing out Save the Dates though for this reason. I see my family doing things similar to this. I’ll just send the invitations and perhaps attach a link to a wedding website or a list of accomodations.
I can totally relate! I sent my save-the-dates out WITH the wedding website address listed on it and I’m still getting the stupid questions about hotel, flights, etc. I’m so over being polite, I’m now responding with: “Have you checked out our wedding website?” Argh!
Ooh you’ll probably get a lot of responses to this! I lost my cool. A work acquaintance (we didn’t work together at the time of the wedding tho) signed the guest book and said she was bringing her sister in law as her date because she was nervous about taking the subway by herself (same city commute!). I said that I was so sorry but because of space/budget constraints, we couldn’t accomodate extra guests who weren’t explicitly invited. She emailed me back and challenged that, citing spouses who weren’t invited and so forth. Then we got in a huge email fight and I didn’t end up sending an invitation. (Bad, I know. But I stand by it.)
I know people have different ideas about the “+1,” but I think if the bride tells you how it is, you should just complain behind her back (haha) not blow up her email with bitching and moaning.
Hey, this was our first guest snafu too! Our guest was good about it but still managed to work up my mom who thought the hotel was sold out. Turns out the guest just wanted to arrive a day early and there wasn’t a room block that night. Oy with the poodles already!
I almost lost my bridal cool when my un-dated, un-married 54 year old Aunt informed my fiance and I that we hadn’t known each other long enough to be engaged.
#1 She didn’t even say ‘hi’
#2 She didn’t even congratulate us
#3 Where does she get off giving us advice on love when the woman has never even been kissed?
I was more Bride-Shocked than Bride-Cool. I’m pretty sure I would blow up if she said it again. lol Thankfully, my Mom and my Dad blew up at her for me. Gotta love supportive parents!
Lose my cool? My sister in law got engaged and decided to get married on 11-19-11… 8 days after us. And as most relatives live out of the state 8 days is really a day or two too long to travel out of town.
Also means we have to postpone our honeymoon. But all is good. Just lost it for a hot second there!
Booo.
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Mrs. Lox, Baltimore Age and Occupation: 33, Government Worker Fiance's Age and Occupation: 35. IT Consultant Engagement Date: May 8, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Vandiver Inn About Me: I’m an East Coast gal born and bred and a suburban brat turned city rat for the last year. Now Mr. Lox and I enjoy walking all kinds of places, having the coolest things around in our backyard, and especially our garage parking. I love gadgets, toys, Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby ice cream, monkeys, and our insane cats. I’m a blonde by birth and a redhead by choice. I’m that girl in the cubicle farm with all the cool toys and the file cabinet covered in magnetic poetry. I still use smiley faces in my emails, whether people like it or not. This is not the first rodeo for Mr. Lox nor me. And together, we are planning an intimate afternoon wedding on a budget we can afford by ourselves.
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