Weddingbee Blog

Hey hive!! I have missed you oh so much, I just can’t even tell ya!

It’s been a while since I posted, but I wanted to come and keep you guys updated with what’s going on in the Handbag world…

The last time we spoke, we had canceled our Jamaica wedding for a bigger wedding in our neck of the world. As soon as we canceled, we went on a weddingpalooza here in search of the venue, photographer, etc. We picked a date and went searching for our venue. We immediately fell in love with one, booked, signed the contract and went about our merry way. I found an amazing photographer (thanks to the hive!!) and booked her immediately, also. Things were fantastic and moving right along. I was so much happier being able to research different vendors and actually seeing things first-hand instead of the long distance, go with what we are given, no options of Jamaica.

About a month after we booked our venue and photog, we hit a brick wall.

Mr Handy was laid off.

We didn’t panic because we figured he would be back to work in no time. He has a college degree, he is one hell of a charmer, and he has amazing work ethic. We had no worries. I put a halt on booking more vendors until our income was back up and running. It was nice to get a little break from wedding planning.

Well, here we are 6 months later, still on that break.

Guys, our economy sucks. Point blank. With corporations closing left and right and people scrambling for jobs, the pickings are slim. With a mortgage and only one income, our wedding savings is at zilch. Nada. 0 dinero. I know I’m not the only bride that is faced with this awful economy, and I just want to let everyone out there know that I understand. It sucks. There is no way  to sugar coat it. It’s nearly impossible to survive with only one income in the household these days, and trying to plan a wedding on top of it  just isn’t possible.

I don’t know what to say to you guys except I feel sorta like a failure at this whole wedding thing. When you get engaged, you’re on cloud-nine, dreaming of what it’s going to be like and spending every waking minute planning your dream wedding. For my reality, that didn’t happen. I feel like I’ve let everyone down. When you get the email from Pengy it’s so exciting and you have all these amazing plans and ideas and you share them and your story with the world, and I just kind of fell off the face of the earth with it.

I know that this is just the circumstance that we are in with our economy, and I know I’m not the only bride that has had to go through this. It’s just so embarrassing even for this open and honest girl. I normally have no problems spilling my guts, but I have hidden from this for a while now because of how embarrassed I am. I’ve planned two weddings, booked two venues, booked two photographers, and didn’t follow through with any of them.

Mr Handy and I are going on seven years of dating, and we know that we will get married one day—it just isn’t in the cards just yet for us. We are continually working on our relationship and communicating our frustrations with our situation. In times of despair, you really learn to pull together, and that is what a foundation is built on.

I hope to come back with good news soon and jump back on this wedding train. I know that when we do pick ourselves back up, it will be that much better and more emotional of a wedding, given what we had to go through to get there. So, thank you hive for allowing me this journey so far…

xoxo,

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