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A few months ago, I hit a major wedding block. Basically, my wedding inspiration had been looking like this:
Why? Well, I think it all stemmed (pardon the pun!) from a meeting with my florist. Why is she my florist? My grandmother has known her for years. What is adjacent to her flower shop? A cemetery.
Yup, I’m serious. Anyway, I am not a big flower person, and I have very unconventional ideas. When I told my florist my ideas, she basically laughed in my face.
What else did she do? (Warning: there are a lot of sentences beginning with pronouns coming up!)
1.) She visibly winced when I said I was probably going to have a light gold dress.
2.) She made fun of what I wanted for centerpieces, then told me it would be way too expensive.
3.) She tried to talk me into a unity candle. I DON’T WANT A FLIPPIN’ UNITY CANDLE.
4.) She had never heard of some of the flowers I wanted to incorporate into my bouquet.
5.) She belittled my sister’s high school. (OK, to be fair, she didn’t realize my sister was currently a student there, but she had to have realized that’s where I went to high school.)
I left the meeting with a horrible taste in my mouth. That, along with my apprehensions about my day not being “special” enough, etc. had really worn on me. Mr. Biscuit has been great and has offered to go with me to the next meeting, as he is better at getting things done than I am. But I had still been hit with a big case of the wedding blahs.
Did anyone else have issues with overbearing vendors who gave you the wedding blues? Are you trying to get through a wedding rut?
That’s terrible! I hope you go with a different florist, despite the family connection. No one should treat you that way.
Can you change florists or if not can your grandmother talk to her and get her to play nice and be open-minded to new things?
I think that’s really unfortunate that she made you feel that way. I had a similar situation with a jeweler while shopping for my wedding band. She told me, repeatedly and in front of other customers, that she felt I was making a mistake and knew I would be back to buy a new one in a few months. We walked out of her shop and didn’t look back, which is a shame because she had beautiful pieces but she won’t be getting my business.
I’d get out of using this florist if you can, might be tough since she knows your grandmother but no one should belittle your ideas for your wedding day.
Sorry you had to deal with that. 
My florist was a piece of work, as well. I told him 3x I hate roses and he scoffed at me…and put roses in the corsages and on the tables at the reception. We had words on my wedding day…My Mom spent two hours of my wedding day banging on florist doors and hollering at him on the phone to pick up, while she looked for orange flowers to replace the roses with…
Suggestion - get EVERYTHING in writing. That way, if she screws something up or intentionally puts something in that you said no to, you can get your money back.
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Aw, I’m sorry, Miss Biscuit. As wedding bloggers, I find that our ideas about flowers tend to be pretty different from what most brides use. But the bottom line is, a professional should be able to do whatever you want to do, within reason — if your centerpiece ideas are too expensive, for example, she should be able to suggest small changes that would make them fit into your budget. I’d give her one more chance and if she’s still a jerk, kick her to the curb! Vendors are supposed to make your life easier, not harder.
@Miss Panther: That’s the plan. The real kicker here is…we didn’t even discuss a budget. I just told her some stuff I was interested to see how much it would cost. She just automatically wrote off what I wanted to do as too expensive.
I ran into something similar with a totally unhelpful travel agent. It got me really bummed out about this supposedly awesome honeymoon I’m supposed to have. She didn’t even mention budget so I left thinking we couldn’t really go any where.
The next weekend I tried a different agent and actually booked right then within like 30 minutes. Turns our we afford each place we looked at and could totally make it all happen.
My advice to you is to find a new florist :).
Just because your wedding is different and unique, some vendors can treat you like you’re being difficult or silly. In the end, it’s your wedding, it’s your money, and NO ONE should make you feel like your wedding isn’t special. You have awesome ideas and if she can’t see that, dump her. Remember you’re doing your wedding the way you and your fiance want, and that makes it the most legitimate and special day ever.
Yikes. I’d find someone else, asap, who will actually listen to you. Nobody needs any rude surprises on their wedding day, and this florist sounds like she might pull the same thing as jillocb’s and just do what she wants with your arrangements.
And the fact that she hasn’t even heard of some of the flowers you’d like to use? Alarm bells…
Eek. Do you have to use her because of the family relationship? If at all possible, I would run for the hills - as far away from this “florist” as you can get!
Luckily my mom worked with a gay guy. His female friend who had a floral boutique, gave me everything I wanted in flowers! Nix grandma’s buddy or the church and hall will look like a funeral parlor.
Ditch that florist if you can! You don’t need the stress! Maybe try to mention your awful encounter to granny (tactfully!), if you can. I don’t care how long I’ve known someone, if they treated a family member of mine like that I’d be angry. I’m sure she’ll understand.
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Ugh. That’s how the woman at the dress store was for me. If I said I didn’t like something about a dress, she would say “Well that’s just how its supposed to be.”
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Mrs. Biscuit, Morgantown, WV Age and Occupation: 24, Dental Student Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Chemist at a pharmaceutical company Engagement Date: April 2010 Wedding Date: July 2011 Venue: Catholic Church, Lakeview Golf Resort and Spa About Me: I'm an engineer who decided to trek back to my hometown three years ago to become skilled in the arts of drilling and filling. I'm engaged to a pretty awesome guy who tests your assorted benzodiazepines by day and home brews by night. Together we have two fur children, Tsali and Tobias N. Fünkat. I'm a lazy perfectionist and eternal sorority girl who enjoys running, crafting, string cheese, good beer, and bad reality TV. We are planning a Big Fat Italian/Sicilian/Polish wedding filled with DIY details and are expecting 300 +/- 50 guests. Our whimsical summer affair is themed "Alice attends the Mad Hatter Vintage Garden Tea Party in a Ballroom. She Thinks That The Venue is Odd for a Vintage Garden Party, but is Tripping on LSD, so She Doesn't Really Care." Yes, I am the Dickens of themes.
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