The Grass is Always Greener

The Grass is Always Greener

January 27th, 2011 @ 10:38 am by Mrs. Bacon
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Green. Green like an apple. Green like grass. Green like envy? Oh, yeah.

Why am I pining over a green dress? I’m not, but the idea pretty much sums up a little something I haven’t been totally honest about yet. I’m not sure if my dress is THE ONE. I spent the month after putting down the deposit doubting my decision. OK, not just doubting, but actually having dreams about the other dresses. Specifically, Mila from Priscilla of Boston—she’s like the one that got away. The one that cost a bit more and I liked a bit more, but did I like it that much more? I mean, I just wear it for a single day, just 10 short hours. That’s shorter than how long I wear my $30 jeans at work each day.

Priscilla of Boston: Mila

Hmm, but maybe I did like her that much more? Maybe I miss the way that Mila hugged each curve and propped the girls up just so and the way she sashayed behind me and….sigh. This little lady has been a dream dress since before I was even engaged. I’ve seen her in magazine after magazine and all over Say Yes to the Dress, so I’m a little bummed that I won’t be seeing her on my wedding day.

What is that you’re saying? Go back to the salon? Try her on again? Exchange the dress I purchased for this one that I really truly love? I’m sorry friends, but it’s just too late. I put down a 50% deposit at a salon that does not carry Mila, so I’m stuck with Elaine. Elaine, whose color, fabric, neckline, and beading I’ve changed. Maybe changing so much is a sign that she wasn’t the right one from the start? A sign that I should have gone with Mila?

Enzoani: Elaine

I’m terrified that I am going to go and try on my dress this spring and feel nothing when I put it on. I am so freaked out that we spent all this money on a dress that was only second best. A dress that we bought because I so desperately wanted to have the mother/daughter moment that we see on every wedding show where we both cry and hold each other. A dress that we bought simply because WE bought it during a time when my mom was in town. But who knows? Maybe I’ll try it on and Elaine will be the one. I might have to fly MOH Bacon to Chicago along with my mom to hold my hand in case I can’t keep the tears back and end up bawling on the floor of the salon dressing room.

We’ll just have to wait and see. Is anyone else having second thoughts about their dress?

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14 Responses to “The Grass is Always Greener”

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kdane (message) 168 posts, Blushing bee

I have had second thoughts, especially when the dress I tried on didn’t fit, it was too small. I just received the call the dress is in and I’ll pick it up tomorrow. I am so scared I could vomit. What if I hate it, what if I feel awful it what if my FI hates it… what if, what if, what if. I am so frightened, I am going alone so I don’t have anyone there to influence my opinions. Good Luck, I know just how you feel

1/27/11 @ 12:06 pm (reply)

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xtatic1 (message) 778 posts, Busy bee

I was in the exact same boat, 50% deposit and had major doubts after buying my dress. I vowed not to try on more as I would never waste $600. My dress finally came in and I love it, would I have loved others if I had tried on more? Sure, but I picked my dress that day for a reason, even if I felt like I had to choose one because my mom and MOH were there. Everyone has dress doubts, and the Elaine is beautiful! My dress is an Enzoani too!

1/27/11 @ 12:10 pm (reply)

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MsBrooklynA (message) 2,681 posts, Sugar bee

That vera wang is a beautiful dress! I wouldn’t necessarily wear it in green but in an ivory or a mocha would be amazing!

1/27/11 @ 12:11 pm (reply)

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mightywombat (message) 3,311 posts, Sugar bee

Having looked at the pics, I can say that Elaine does great things for your girls as well.

1/27/11 @ 12:11 pm (reply)

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Mrs Grape (message) 3,526 posts, Sugar bee

I love that green dress! Then again, I love green and may be a bit biased because I wore a bottle green one.

1/27/11 @ 12:18 pm (reply)

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Miss Lox (message) 1,128 posts, Bumble bee

I kind of want to drive to Chicago and reassure you in person. I think to some extent we all go through this. I FREAKED OUT after buying my dress because I thought it was too plain. I mean full on panic. And yet it’s clearly the right choice. I mean, that’s what I tell myself at least.

The point is. Elaine looks fabulous on you. And I think the changes are fine. And I think your choice is going to turn out to be the right one.

1/27/11 @ 12:28 pm (reply)

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mdarrah (message) 1,205 posts, Bumble bee

I went through MAJOR second guessing (even looked into selling mine and buying another etc). But it arrived, I put it on and felt like a beautiful bride. It wasn’t a choir of angles singing this is “THE ONE”, but I was beautiful and stopped second guessing right then because it wasn’t worth the stress. Refocus on what matters to you, if you will be miserable in Elaine and will never be happy until its Mila - its time to look into options and not jsut fretting. If you’ll feel beautiful and happy in Elaine, stick with the choice you’ve made and stop stressing about it - its not worth the effort.

1/27/11 @ 12:48 pm (reply)

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culby cheese (message) 193 posts, Blushing bee

I had second thoughts on just about everything for my wedding but the groom. We all make the mistake of continuing to look after we’ve picked something out and drool over what we can’t have!

The dress is right up there with the big-ticket expenses for weddings, and I think it leads to a lot of second guessing and indecision.

I think that once you see your dress with the changes you made, you will feel so much better about it. It’s the most surreal feeling to try on the dress once it’s fitted for you and not 30 sizes to big or small.

1/27/11 @ 12:50 pm (reply)

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Sarah

I bought my dress my first time shopping in my hometown. It was very spur of the moment. My mom and I had only gone shopping for fun. My mother was bouncing off the walls with excitment when I put the dress on and I felt like a princess. It was the exact opposite of what I thought I wanted.

I had always dreamed about getting a designer dress and some fancy shmancy place in NYC. After my impulsive non-designer purchase I had major doubts. My mom went shopping again and tried on tons of things at Amsale and Kleinfeld and I was still happy about my purchase. Checking out other gowns reassumed me that I had made the right choice.

Sorry this is getting long. Point is, people always say to stop looking once you have bought something but I kept looking and it made me feel better and not worse. There was a reason you bought your dress. Maybe if you allow yourself to have the doubts and try something else on you will realize what brought you to buy it in the first place.

1/27/11 @ 12:55 pm (reply)

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Melissa

Yep. I’m picking mine up on Saturday and I’m terrified that I won’t love it. I picked it on the first day because my BFF was with me and I didn’t know when I would have someone else to go with me to look some more. I did love it…just afraid I’ll get it and realize I don’t love it enough.

1/27/11 @ 1:13 pm (reply)

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G baby

I too am having major doubts about a dress my mom and sister loved that was twice my budget. It is a Reem Acra and I am so afraid I got caught up in the moment even though I slept on in and ordered the dress the next day. I am dying to go try it on again to make sure it was the right decision. I know how you are feeling.

1/27/11 @ 2:40 pm (reply)

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eleroo02 (message) 116 posts, Blushing bee

I went through the same and still occasionally second-guess my decision, maybe because it is such a large decision and purchase. But then I have to remind myself that I bought it for a reason, it’s the one I felt the most comfortable in, the most bridal in…etc. Remember why you got it, how you feel in it. There were changes made to the dress you got, do you really think you wouldn’t make changes to the Mila? Is it really that perfect? Hang in there girl, I know it’s a tough “thought process” to go through.

1/27/11 @ 4:11 pm (reply)

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mebless (message) 512 posts, Busy bee

Ooooo I love your dress! I think it’s absolutely gorgeous and is similar to the Mila!

1/27/11 @ 10:54 pm (reply)

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dez091011 (message) 63 posts, Worker bee

Don’t worry; you’re not alone. I have second thoughts about everything. Today it’s the church. All I do is think about my FH and remember that it’s about us getting married. (Also, one of his on-going tasks is to keep me from changing my mind.) Good luck!

1/28/11 @ 9:48 pm (reply)