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So, since I’ve talked about all the aspects of my wedding attire, let’s talk about what I’m not wearing. I’m not wearing a veil.
That’s right. I’m not gonna do it. My hands are on my hips, my heels are dug in. There will not be a veil.
Source (slightly altered by me)
Now, most of you think, “So what?” And if you’re one of those people? I hug you. So what indeed. I mean, I’m not getting all high and mighty and saying no one should wear a veil ever. In fact, quite the opposite. I think people should do whatever they want. If a veil fits into your bridal vision? Then I totally think you should wear one. If you’re super excited about wearing one? I’m super excited for you. Really, I truly am. And I know you’ll be beautiful.
So why, then, is there this group of people who seem to think that it is some kind of bridal sin not to wear a veil? I mean, honestly, I have been told that without a veil I won’t look at all like a bride. I mean…really? Will there be some other gal in a fancy white dress exchanging vows up front with my man? No? Then I’m pretty sure I’ll look like the bride. I’m just sayin’. You may apply the same defense for people who wish to wear colored dresses, short dresses, or anything else unconventional that you’d like to add. You have my full permission.
Anyhow, I feel better having gotten that off of my chest. Or my head, as the case may be. Thanks for letting me have a moment there.
Have you run into criticism of an “unconventional” decision you’ve made? Let’s share!
Eh, I think you are good. And w/ a hair flower complimenting your dress, fantastic. Sometimes, I think a veil can be overkill or at least obscure a beautiful headpiece. Kudos to keeping it simple.
I took alot of heat about not wanting a veil even after a family member offered to order/pay for one. I just don’t think that they fit my personality or my dream wedding hairstyle.
I’m right there with you.
My mother flipped when I told her I was not going to be wearing white at all. In fact, I wore a sweater and skirt for our wedding (green dress was the day of the reception). Everyone got over it, no one died, no one forgot I was the bride. I didn’t wear a veil either and am actually glad I didn’t.
Ugh, right there with you. My dress has very beautiful details on the back and I don’t think it’s good to wear a veil and block those details. Everyone is definitely worried about my decision.
Actually…I had never planned on wearing a veil until time had gotten closer and I changed my mind. I figure this..at least I have one short and one long and when February 26th gets here I can decide to or not to do the veil. I litterally spent next to nothing for my veils.. so if I don’t wear them its not that big of a deal. I say..do whats right for you doll! = )
I’m choosing to not wear a veil because I think it will just be overkill. I tossed around the idea, but with feathers on my dress, hooker shoes, blinged out earrings and a hair comb I think a veil might just push me into another catagory of tacky. Not that other ppl, who don’t appreciate my style, won’t think I’m tacky anyway.
I’ve heard it! When I told my grandma I absolutely wasn’t having one, she said: ‘Well, you still have time to chaange your mind.’ 
There’s very few outfits out there that are really “incomplete” without a veil. In fact, I can’t think of a single one! Totally optional accessory.
That said, I’m pretty sure I’ll wear one. Just because. 
It’s way more important to be comfortable and reflect the true you on your wedding day. I loved my veil for the ceremony but took that baby off as soon as I left the church. It would have slowed me down for the big party…
No veil for me either. Luckily, no one I know has given me even the tiniest bit of flack for that. Luckily for them, I mean. They would rue the day. 
So I fall into the category of “as long as you’ve tried it before making up your mind - so what?!” For me, and many others the veil was a bring it all together in a manner that is truly once in a lifetime - because while I might wear a white dress to a b&w ball, I’ll never have occasion to wear a veil again. So it was a unique experience and beautiful feeling accessory for me. Enough so, that I think EVERY bride should try one on. Still don’t want it? No worries! Informed decisions are the best kind because they are easy to stand behind.
I am not wearing a veil either! When I was purchasing my dress the saleswoman had me try one on and I just laughed and said “I look like a ghost!”. I could not wear one with out feeling silly. I am wearing a crystal headband.
No veil here either. And you know what? Your posts are really fun to read, you’ve a great writing style!
No veil here either. The only person to criticize me was my FMIL. When I showed her my dress, head piece and necklace the only thing she said was “oh, no veil?”
Definitely ran into the same problem. I knew from the start I wasn’t going to wear a veil (just a silk flower for me!). It hasn’t really been a problem except for when I was trying on dresses. The saleswoman, even after comments from me about not wanting a veil, kept trying to stick them in my hair when I was trying on dresses. She didn’t seem to understand even when I told her directly. Finally I just pulled it off myself.
The veil is not for me either. Instead I will be wearing a silk flower. Although my dress is quite feminine, the veil is just too ‘blushing bride’ for me.
I can’t actually think of a single wedding decision that I’ve made that HAS been considered socially acceptable. Let’s run through the reactions, shall we?
Apparently, wearing a short wedding dress is some sort of older-generation kryptonite.
“What’s your venue?” *says venue* (insert apalled look from asker)- “Why?”
Not having flowers may lead to relatives spitting on my grave.
Alas, the life the progressive, veil-less, toms wearing, money saving women is wrought with nay-sayers. Fortunately, I am pretty sure we can all handle it.
Every time I tried on a wedding dress, a veil would materialize on my head, and I would shudder. Veils were just “not me”. On our wedding day, I didn’t wear anything in my hair, and I am so happy that I made that decision! Instead of worrying about how my hair looked during the ceremony and reception, I was able to focus on my husband and our guests
I don’t remember receiving any criticism; in fact, several people mentioned that they loved how I looked like myself on my wedding day.
You need to feel like the best version of yourself on your wedding day, and if that is sans veil, then go for it!
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Mrs. Lox, Baltimore Age and Occupation: 33, Government Worker Fiance's Age and Occupation: 35. IT Consultant Engagement Date: May 8, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Vandiver Inn About Me: I’m an East Coast gal born and bred and a suburban brat turned city rat for the last year. Now Mr. Lox and I enjoy walking all kinds of places, having the coolest things around in our backyard, and especially our garage parking. I love gadgets, toys, Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby ice cream, monkeys, and our insane cats. I’m a blonde by birth and a redhead by choice. I’m that girl in the cubicle farm with all the cool toys and the file cabinet covered in magnetic poetry. I still use smiley faces in my emails, whether people like it or not. This is not the first rodeo for Mr. Lox nor me. And together, we are planning an intimate afternoon wedding on a budget we can afford by ourselves.
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