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I love my mother. And my grandmother. And my best friend’s mom who is my second mother. And now with Mr. EB’s mom, I get a third mother. And his grandmother as well. And I’d really like to honor them in some way at the ceremony, but I’m not really sure how.
See, from what I understand, the traditional way that those women who are special to the bride and groom are honored is by gifting them with corsages. And I don’t think we’ll be doing that. Both because we’re only planning on having fresh flowers in the bouquets (which means no flower boutonnieres or corsages), and because I asked my mom about it and she didn’t particularly want one. Which is fine with me because whenever I see them (particularly wrist corsages) I can only think of prom. And I’d really rather not compare our wedding to prom!
But this doesn’t really solve the problem of what we DO want to do…I’ve heard of giving the moms a single flower that they can carry, but meh; I’m not really sure what I think about that option either. We could go with a nosegay (or tussie mussie—I honestly have no idea what those terms technically refer to, but my understanding is that they are smaller bouquets of flowers that the moms hold).
I guess I’m just not really feeling any of these options, but I still want to do something for the moms. Does anyone have any non-floral options? Or should I just suck it up and get them some flowers already?
My mom does not want anything, and I am fairly sure my fiance’s mom wouldn’t either. I hear that the whole corsage/nosegay trend is becoming less and less popular. Which is fine with me, because it saves a few more bucks! I am just getting the mom’s a small gift and probably going to pay for their manicures right before the wedding. I think they would appreciate that more than having some little flowers to carry around all day.
what about some sort of special bracelet for the moms? I’m sure you could find something cute on etsy that would say “hey! i’m special to the bride and groom” without being a corsage!
I really wanted to go without honorary corsages, but it was important to my mil so we had them. What about a broach, some other piece of jewelry or a corsage made of something unique like ribbons or buttons.
We totally bailed on the whole flower thing and got family tree pendants for them. We got them customized with each families birthstones along with adding our own. That turned out SOOOO cute!
We are making corsages out of fabric flowers and tying them on a with a pretty ribbon. The flowers are really unique and something they can keep for later.
I also like the idea of sentimental jewelry or an embroidered hankie 
No matter what I am sure they will love it.
I got custom embroidered handkerchiefs off of, you guessed it, Etsy! They’re really beautiful, and they lasts a lot longer than flowers!
I’m doing brooches… of course that is in addition to brooch bouquets and boutennierres, so no one is getting flowers.. But they had some really cool ones that were appropriate and a good cost at New York & Co.
When I got married, both of my grandmothers and both of DH’s grandmothers were able to attend- we thought that was pretty cool, and wanted to honor them, so we had all 4 of them come up and light candles at one part. It’s pretty easy to integrate some candle-lighting into any ceremony!
I haaated the idea of corsages for the mothers because (as you mentioned) to me it screamed ‘prom date’. But, hey, my mom insisted so we caved. I like the idea of doing a smaller fabric flower tied around the wrist though, like another one of the bees did.
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What about some sort of broach? That way they can keep it afterwords and it would always be special.
I’ve always liked the idea of embroidered handkerchiefs with a personal message or poem.
We had the florist tie two extra white roses onto my bouqet. You couldn’t tell they were separate when walking down the aisle, but they came loose easily. During the ceremony, my MOH untied them, and I gave one to my MIL while my husband gave one to my mother as a gesture of our families joining.
It depends on the purpose of what you are doing:
Do you want them to feel special? OR Do you want others to know that they are special?
If you want them to feel special then perhaps you could invite them all along on the day before (or sometime just before the wedding) and have your nails done together. Or give them a present, or jewelery as suggested.
Finding something which publicly shows they are special is much harder. Perhaps shawls? Or parasols if they are outside.
I was completely unprepared when the florist asked us what we were doing for the moms. Wrist corsages did = prom. Pin-ons would get smooshed. Perhaps mini-bouquets are the way to go so Mom has something to fiddle with if she gets nervous.
Interested in seeing what you end up doing for tha layyydeees.
How about a nice pin or brooch that you can present to them that day? I’m thinking of doing something like that.
I like the brooch idea! Idk if you are Catholic, but they could hold rosaries. Donald Trump’s wife carried her family rosary at their wedding and in the pics (in People) looked pretty nice!!
I don’t like wearing corsages, personally. When I asked all the grandma’s and Moms if it was OK if we didn’t have any they breathed a sigh of relief. Apparently, I’m not alone. Mini bouquets would be cute, as would the rosary that a PP suggested.
You know, I don’t think my mom had anything. If anything I think she had a less formal, smaller bout? I also like the idea of a brooch or bracelet!
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Mrs. Eggs Benedict, Seattle Age and Occupation: 29, Attorney Fiance's Age and Occupation: 35, Attorney Engagement Date: December 5, 2009 Wedding Date: February 2011 Venue: IslandWood About Me: I'm a Northwest girl who spends my time goofing around with Mr. Eggs Benedict and our dog, hiking, traveling, drinking wine and planning a wedding that will showcase the best of what the Pacific Northwest has to offer. I also love photography, beating Mr. Eggs Bene at Mario Kart, and watching the most ridiculous natural disaster flicks you can think of (seriously, how can you deny the awesomeness that is The Core or 2012?? That's right, you can't). We are planning our weekend wedding adventure at an environmental educational center, and I can't wait for the fun to begin!
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