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Mr. Cheetah and I have lived together for years, but we still had a little debate about whether we’d be spending the night together before the wedding.
On one hand, it would be fun to spend our last legally single night apart.
We would say goodnight after the rehearsal dinner and not see each other until we’re all dolled up in our spiffy wedding garb at our first look. Perhaps I could even have a little slumber party with a couple of my bridesmaids, or I could spend the night by myself, relishing in a little alone time before all the wedding craziness. Spending the pre-wedding night apart might also up the romance and suspense of the next day.
On the other hand, why would we want to spend this special night apart? I’d love to spend our last single night together, in our sweet (or suite!) hotel room. We’ll be arriving the Thursday before the wedding, and it’d be easier not to have one of us have to switch rooms just for one night. Plus, I think I’ll sleep better if we are both together, just like normal. If anything exciting and/or nerve wracking is is happening the next day, I have a hard time sleeping. I was so excited I even had trouble falling asleep before my first big wedding dress shopping excursion, so I fully except some pre-wedding tossing and turning. Having Mr. Cheetah curled up in bed next to me would help keep me from counting sheep until the wee hours.
When Mr. Cheetah and I first started talking about where we should each sleep the night before we get hitched we were on different pages. I wanted to spend it together, he wanted to spend it apart. Fast forward a couple months, and Mr. Cheetah is now on my page. He too thinks he’ll get a better night’s rest next to his future bride. 
Are you and your betrothed spending the night before the wedding separately or apart?
We’re definitely spending the night apart. Granted, we are not living together before “the big day,” but we also wanted to have a lot of traditional aspects of a wedding for our day. I think that it’s personal preference, and maybe ask input from the parents to see if this important to them or not.
We will be spending the night apart. I will be at my parents house and he will be at our house. We don’t live together now and wont until we get married so it wont be any different than what we have now. It is understandable that you would prolly sleep better with each other if that is what you have been doing!
I’m struggling with this, too … I think it’ll be fun to have the slumber party thing with my bridesmaids, and to wake up and get ready together, but I don’t know if I’ll be able to sleep without Mr. Panther next to me!
We live together and the mister wants to not only spend the last night apart but maybe the last week apart! He says it will make seeing each other that much more special. I am not quite sure how I feel about the week thing but a night or 2 I would be ok with.
We were already living together when we got married and also spent the night before the wedding together. It was actually really nice — after all the craziness and social activity of the week before the wedding, it was great to have the night before the wedding as time for just the two of us to reflect and share our excitement about what was happening the next day!
I am in the same boat. We currently live together and I originally thought being together the night before would calm me. However, we have chosen the traditional route of me staying at the hotel the night before and he will be at the house. We will not see eachother from after the rehearsal dinner, all the way until the next day when I walk down the aisle. I also thought about having a girls slumber party, but each of my BMs will be with their significant others. In the end, I think the alone time would be good for me, to reflect (and destress) before the big day.
We are staying together the night before, then getting up in the morning and separating for the day before the wedding. I think I will actually get a better night’s sleep that way than if I was having a girl’s sleepover!
We’re also staying together the night before in our hotel suite. 
We haven’t quite figured out where he’ll go the day of while the girls are getting prettified, though!
Ohh man, I’m struggling with this! I’d like to stay together but it’s a little complicated… We live together now but our wedding is back in our hometown. Usually we either have to sleep on couches at his parent’s, or if we stay at my parents’ then I sleep in my old room and he’s banned to the living room couch. Either way it’s not the best for FI!! I’m thinking about getting the hotel room for an extra night but we’re staying at the Casino nearby and FI likes to gamble more than I do… I’m a tiny bit worried he’d want to gamble to blow off some stress but it would actually cause me stress. See the problem? Hmm! Totally torn!
we haven’t figured this one out yet either. i love the suspense, but i know i will miss my cuddle buddy!
We’ll be spending the night together. We both sleep better with each other and I’m certain that it won’t take anything away from the moment we see each other for the first time in our wedding garb. I’m pretty sure my heart is going to explode with joy regardless of the last time I saw him, or whether its before the ceremony, etc.
We live together as well, but we will most likely be spending the night apart. I don’t have bridesmaids, but my mom and I will be decorating at the hotel for the reception late that night, and his mom and sisters will probably come too. He’ll most likely sleep at our house, or at his parents. I think it’s definitely personal preference though. A previous commenter suggested asking your parents for their opinions…I don’t know how your parents are, but if we asked either of ours they would definitely prefer that we stay apart (and/or that we hadn’t slept together at all before we were married), so for me that would be awkward. It sounds like you already know what you prefer, so I might be hesitant to ask for their opinions in case they differed. Just my two cents!
We live together already and since the wedding venue is only 10 minutes away we’re both spending the night at our house. Both of us would prefer to be comfortable in our own bed than either at my parents (where I’d have to sleep on a pull out sofa!) or in the hotel. He won’t see me in my wedding dress until the big moment though!
Since moving in together almost 3 years ago now we have spent less then a handful of nights apart. So my guy is dead set against us being apart (he says he can’t sleep without me by his side). Who am I to fight him on that, lol.
We encountered a few raised eyebrows, but we’re going with our original plan of spending the night together. Seeing as he’s the only one who really calms me, it just makes sense.
We also live together and are spending the night together I say do what makes YOU and MR. CHEETAH happy!! There are a lot of wedding traditions that don’t apply to today’s couples… Getting married is about starting your own traditions, so why not start on the EVE of your wedding?!
We’re spending it apart. I’m having a girly sleepover with my bridesmaids and I’m excited to spend some down time with them, just being silly.
I had a slumber party at our house with the bridesmaids and he and the groomsmen stayed at a hotel. I bought us matching PJs, and we drank wine and played board games. It was awesome.
Together. I had every intention of spending the night with my girls while he hung out with his boys, but then I realized - I don’t sleep well when he’s not there! Even with him there, I’m sure I’ll still be antsy, but I am not risking getting a poor night’s sleep the night before the wedding.
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Ms. Cheetah, Los Angeles/Palm Springs Age and Occupation: 31, Artist, Educator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 32, TV Finance Engagement Date: April 2010 Wedding Date: March 2011 Venue: The Viceroy About Me: I’m a silly, sassy lady with a compulsion to create. I love to sing and dance, despite the fact that I lack any talent doing either. I somehow manage to be messy and organized at the same time. I like to spend my days road tripping, watching '80s movies, reading true crime books, buying things on sale, sending postcards, playing board games, dining at food trucks, snuggling, and drinking ginger ale. I have a weak spot for all things sweet, especially Mr. Cheetah! I’m a Chicago girl and he’s a Nor Cal boy but we love living in the City of Angels. After 10 years as a couple we are planning a fun-filled semi-destination wedding in Palm Springs. Hope you enjoy the ride!
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