Weddingbee Blog

“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.”

{My Valentine’s Day card to my favorite guy}

Who says every day can’t be just as sweet and spicy as Valentine’s Day?

After being together for as long as we have, we’ve seen how, sometimes, the length of your relationship doesn’t necessarily mean the fire (cough–in the bedroom) is burning stronger than ever.

Sometimes, if we let the stress of our careers, the day-to-day events and everything in between take over, that fire can be forgotten. And after years of being together, the comfort and routine can transform from what was once a thrilling part of a relationship into a duty.

But we can prevent these sometimes from becoming real. And after a lot of trial and error, Mr. O and I have found ways to live life and keep the fire burning after all this time.

1. Break out of the ordinary - It’s pretty tough to feel sexy when we’re doing the same thing every single day. Even date night. Remember the rush and the fluttering feeling in your belly during those first few dates? I don’t know about you, but for me, the thrill of the unexpected (and Mr. O’s smokin’ good looks ) were the catalysts for my warm and fuzzy first date feelings. Walking around, getting ice cream and rediscovering our charming city, an unexpected road trip or cooking a fabulous dinner together at home—these are the things make me swoon and feel like it’s our first date all over again.

{Beer tasting @ Bear Republic}

2. Check your work at the door - This one is a biggie for us. If our heads are still stuck at the office, it’s impossible for us to relax and focus on each other, right? So we have this rule. When we enter the door to our little home, all the stress of work stays outside. No talking about it! No thinking about it! All eyes, ears and hearts are on each other.

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3. Just dance - …or play your favorite music that makes you sing out loud and groove along to the beat! Mr. O and I spent many  late nights twisting the night away and music is what makes our world go ’round. So whenever we’re in the car, we blast a new or old “mix tape” of our favorite songs that we’ve made for each other over the years. And every now and then, we’ll just dance—bopping around in our living room or full out twirling, hands swaying at our favorite ’80s club. And just like that, I’m falling in love all over again.

{”I don’t wanna lose your love…to-niiiiiight”}

These three little things have helped us keep the sparks flying after all this time, instead of being consumed by drama or stuck in the rut of routine. And after our I Dos, they’ll be more important that ever.

Now it’s your turn, bees: what tips do you have for keeping it sweet and spicy in your relationship?

Happy Valentine’s Day!