Engraved in My Heart? Or Not?

Engraved in My Heart? Or Not?

February 15th, 2011 @ 10:11 am by Mrs. Lox
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So remember when I ordered Mr. Lox’s wedding ring? Just in case you didn’t, here’s a reminder…

That’s me holding the ring, for the record. That being said, I got a call a little while ago. His ring is in. Now we need to go make sure it fits and possibly pick it up. And of course now that it’s here, I remember the obsession I’ve always had with engraving a ring. I mean, you’d think since this is the third time I’ve bought one of these bad boys that I’d have satisfied my engraving urge before. But…well, I never have.

So now the ring is here. And I’m wondering, do I want to engrave it? Or is the existing detailing enough stuff already hidden inside of his ring? And if I decide I do want to engrave it, what will it say? And how do I keep it as a surprise for him?

I mean, I always imagined it would be a secret message from me to him. One that he would see eventually, but not something he would be involved in picking. I never even imagined him knowing I did it before our wedding day. But logistically, that seems like a nightmare. I mean, if we go down to try it on, he’ll know something is up when I don’t walk out with it in my hand, right?

And all of this doesn’t even take into account the fact that I haven’t asked the jewelry store if this is even possible. So, truth be told, I’m leaning toward not engraving. Do you think I’m giving up too special of a detail? Or is this one of those things that only weird people like me obsess over?

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19 Responses to “Engraved in My Heart? Or Not?”

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Gerbera (message) 4,481 posts, Honey bee

I’d wanted to engrave our bands as well when we got them. But my husband wanted to wait till our first anniversary to engrave them. I thought that was real sweet.
We’re thinking Love in German on my band and in Chinese on my ring. We also did that for our ring bowls, etc.

2/15/11 @ 10:21 am (reply)

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Gerbera (message) 4,481 posts, Honey bee

omg. I meant Love in German on my hand and in Chinese on HIS band. I’m Chinese and he’s German.

2/15/11 @ 10:21 am (reply)

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,479 posts, Honey bee

We had ours engraved, but I really wanted to put our code word for “I love you” inside our rings or at least his. He didn’t like it, but now, we both kind of regret not doing it. We just have the date.

2/15/11 @ 10:22 am (reply)

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Gerbera (message) 4,481 posts, Honey bee

I’m an idiot. :X Band. Not hand. Band!

2/15/11 @ 10:22 am (reply)

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Lips (message) 78 posts, Worker bee

the sentiment of a secret message or just a message no one else can see is very sweet. My parents had their rings engraved when they got married and my mom said it wore off and away within the first 5 years of being married. I guess it would serve it’s purpose of a message he finds later, but to me it isn’t something I’d spend extra money on just to have worn away with so quickly!

2/15/11 @ 10:22 am (reply)

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2PeasinaPod (message) 4,359 posts, Honey bee

We engraved our bands when we picked them up, and we decided on what went in each others’. He knew what was going inside of his, but it’s not like it was supposed to be a secret. I think you can still engrave it and it be special for the two of you, but he can know about it before the wedding!

2/15/11 @ 10:23 am (reply)

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CantWaittillMAY (message) 768 posts, Busy bee

I plan on surprising my FI with an engraving in his ring.

2/15/11 @ 10:29 am (reply)

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ChillyBear (message) 175 posts, Blushing bee

We had them engraved prior to the wedding and we chose them together - his band says “love is patient” and mine “love is kind” that was also one of our readings during the ceremony and it serves as a reminder to always be patient and kind to each other

2/15/11 @ 10:30 am (reply)

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Jenn

I don’t think you have to give it up if that’s what you want. Who says you have to leave it THEN to get it engraved? Pick it up, take it with you… then take it back some time when you are alone if that’s what you want to do!

2/15/11 @ 10:32 am (reply)

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Miss Treble (message) 58 posts, Worker bee

I love the idea of engraving it as a surprise! FI’s ring was a Christmas gift, and while I mentioned possibly engraving it, we haven’t discussed it since. And knowing FI, he will have forgotten all about it. Hmmm…the wheels are turning! I’d love to get mine engraved too, but the band is too narrow. Ahh, such is life.

However, Lox, for your ring, I completely understand why you’d be hesitant about engraving it. It already has so much detail on the inside! Let us know what you decide!

2/15/11 @ 10:33 am (reply)

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Emily

We had our’s engraved and didn’t tell each other what they said. Then after the ceremony we walked off to take some pictures and read our rings. His band says “Until my heart stops beating.” and mine says “Grow old with me.” I loved the way we did it, it was a nice surprise and a sweet moment.

2/15/11 @ 10:37 am (reply)

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dgb2010 (message) 192 posts, Blushing bee

i was born in sweden and i’ve heard its customary to engrave your engagement date in your e-ring and wedding date in your wedding ring so i intend to do that maybe for our first anniversairy

2/15/11 @ 11:10 am (reply)

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Miss OBG (message) 1,272 posts, Bumble bee

I sort of want to get matching engravings in ours, but I don’t think my fiance will care one way or the other. Both our names start with the same letter, so I think it would be cute to do X <3 X (with a real heart obvi) so it can be read both ways. I might just do it anyway and surprise him with both.

2/15/11 @ 12:58 pm (reply)

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glamfish500 (message) 262 posts, Helper bee

You could always take the ring with you the day you go to see it and take it back later or take it elsewhere to be engraved. He would have no clue that you did it since he won’t be wearing it until the wedding and you should still have plenty of time to decide what to have engraved on it.

2/15/11 @ 2:26 pm (reply)

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lynsiex (message) 86 posts, Worker bee

you’re not weird! I totally love the idea of a surprise engraving. maybe you should ask if they can do it, take it home so as not to be obvious, and then take it back for them to do it! just a thought.

2/15/11 @ 8:27 pm (reply)

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red_pepper_gal (message) 795 posts, Busy bee

I engraved my fiance’s wedding ring. He’s tried it on a couple of times, but he knows that I want it to be a surprise, so he hasn’t looked.

2/16/11 @ 12:45 am (reply)

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Miss Jaguar (message) 4,656 posts, Honey bee

You could totally still engrave it & it wouldn’t encroach on the patterning at all, I don’t think. Keeping it a surprise would be so cool. Just make sure your handwriting is clear, not like in ‘Licence to Wed’ - Never to Part, became ‘Never to Fart’. HAHAHA. love it!

2/16/11 @ 2:19 am (reply)

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violarulz (message) 142 posts, Blushing bee

I say engrave it! We just got the date stamped into ours. My husband didn’t want anything in his, but I argued that if he somehow lost it at the pool or something, I wanted something easily identifiable about it other than “gold ring with textured outsides” to put in the community newsletter.

2/19/11 @ 9:29 pm (reply)

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