Backtrack! I have realized that I started my little invite journey without talking about how the most important part of the invites came to be: the wording. It’s one thing to design something pretty and breathtaking, but it needs words!
The date, time, venue, and address were all pretty self-explanatory. We also knew that we wanted our wedding website right on the main page of the invite, too. We’re actually planning on that being on every piece of the invite suite, just to hammer it home a little.
The sticky part was the wording at the top of the invite. In my defense, back in July I hadn’t read any books yet on how stuff is generally done, and hadn’t realized that the ones funding the majority of the shindig should be given credit on the invites. At that point Cinnamon Buns and I were thinking of “Together with their parents” because that was way less sticky than trying to figure out how to list both sets of his divorced and re-married parents.
When I mentioned that to my mum in a casual phone conversation…there were tears. And maybe hanging up on each other. I couldn’t understand why she didn’t like the sweet wording that I’d seen on so many invites on Etsy. She couldn’t believe that she and dad were going to be left off her only child’s wedding invites. I tried explaining that it did have ‘parents’ on there, isn’t that enough? She told me what the ‘done’ thing was. When we talked later in the week, she’d looked it up in some books, and asked a friend with a recently married daughter what they did. The verdict was that whoever’s paying for it (or most of it) get top billing. Okay, fine, I agreed. (In this research, she also found out that as MOB, Cinnamum is technically the ‘hostess’ of the party. I’m not sure what those duties entail, but I do still think of it as Cinnamon Buns’ and my party…)
Once we settled on the fact that my parents were going to be on there, up at the top, Cinnamon Buns thought it only fair that his parents be mentioned. His mum and his step dad are basically the ones that raised him, but he couldn’t leave off his father and his wife without expecting even more fireworks than we’d already had over invites. We soon realized (and accepted) that we’d have a lot of text on our invites! Three pairs of parents, one invite! Plus, the “…request the pleasure of your company etc. etc. etc.”
Was it a struggle to word your invites? Did you accidentally offend anyone?
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