Communication is Key

Communication is Key

February 17th, 2011 @ 6:03 pm by Mrs. Elephant
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Drama.

I’m sure that everyone out there has dealt with drama in one way or another during their planning process (and if you haven’t, be so thankful!). Mr. E and I have dealt with our fair share of drama, from the budget, to unresponsive vendors, to family issues. While I would have rather had a blissful, drama-free engagement (who wouldn’t want that?), I will admit that dealing with this drama together has truly strengthened our relationship and solidified how important communication is.

When the reality of wedding costs sunk it, it was communication (and a financial savings plan) from Mr. E that allowed me to realize that we could pull it off with a little more time. The lack of communication from that vendor provided many sleepless nights for me, but showed us that we were better off booking someone else. Family issues blew out of proportion thanks to technology, but picking up the phone and having a real conversation proved to be the only way for each side to voice their feelings.

Communication has always been interesting for us because we are your typical extroverted/introverted couple. I love to talk, and Mr. E is a man of little words. I have witnessed him open up during our years together and it makes me extremely happy. Sometimes I find my self watching him talk and I smile at how much of a better communicator he is now.

When reading The Five Love Languages we laughed at how on point the description of the Babbling Brook and Dead Sea personality types were for us. One of our greatest take aways from that book was the “Minimum Daily Requirement” exercise where we take the time everyday to talk about three things that happened to us and how we felt about them.

We’re not perfect. What couple is? We have our fights disagreements here and there, but being able to open up and talk through our issues is something that will prove to be a lasting benefit to our marriage.

Did you and your SO have to deal with drama during your engagement? What are some ways that helped you to work on your communication?

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11 Responses to “Communication is Key”

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Miss Ostrich (message) 1,948 posts, Buzzing bee

I love that you’re a babbling brook, miss e. communication has been our saving grace through every step of this process, too. really, truly listening has been the most meaningful piece, as it usually contains the meaning behind the words.

you also reminded me that i have to buy this book.

2/17/11 @ 6:35 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Stripes (message) 1,063 posts, Bumble bee

LOL. I’m definitely the babbling brook in our relationship too!

2/17/11 @ 7:49 pm (reply)

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Miss Tartlet (message) 3,207 posts, Sugar bee

I’m adding that book to my Kindle queue. We’re both Dead Seas with occasional monsoons, so I’m extremely curious to read other passages! Good communication is so important, and would have saved us a lot of trouble in the end had we both been better at it!

2/17/11 @ 8:01 pm (reply)

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SandyToes (message) 373 posts, Helper bee

Communication is the KEY to how my SO and I work. I’m beyond a babbling brook! Sometimes I have to remind myself to let him add his two cents. I’m interested to read this book.

2/17/11 @ 8:35 pm (reply)

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FairytaleEnding (message) 52 posts, Worker bee

I am a babbling brook when it comes to the wedding. My Fiance tends to have very little opinions about the wedding. I am trying to get him involve in other aspects other than just the Financial aspects. It seems that we are improving in the communication department. It helps since the stress of finances is becoming more and more apparent.

I have read the 5 Love Languages and loved it. I am trying to get my Fiance to sit down and read it with me. I truly feel it is an amazing book and will help us in the areas that need improvement : )

2/17/11 @ 8:52 pm (reply)

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mak418 (message) 693 posts, Busy bee

I have to applaud the drama llama. Love your posts, Miss E!

2/17/11 @ 8:58 pm (reply)

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Miss Elephant (message) 6,182 posts, Bee Keeper

@SandyToes: That is so me sometimes! When I get on a roll, I have to remember to give him a chance speak up.

I’m glad to see other babbling brooks out there!

2/17/11 @ 9:18 pm (reply)

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Lexsy (message) 537 posts, Busy bee

Lol Babbling Brook and Dead Sea personality types? Great descriptions, I’ll be adding that book to my wishlist as well!
We communicate a lot - perhaps even too much when we talk and talk and talk about the same issues all over without ever getting anywhere! I love that our communication lines are open, and that we can discuss issues and budget, but sometimes we lack on the action part after the discussion!

2/18/11 @ 4:45 am (reply)

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Mrs. Meerkat (message) 3,216 posts, Sugar bee

I have heard so much about that book I think I am going to have to read it now. Maybe out of free that I am the dead sea.

2/18/11 @ 8:32 am (reply)

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My husband and I are both people of few words, but we almost always agree on everything. It’s kinda scary sometimes how we know what the other is thinking and that we’ve never had an argument in 16 yrs of marriage. We are both really good at letting the little stuff go - it’s not important in the grand scheme of things. Good luck to you both.

2/18/11 @ 5:22 pm (reply)

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