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Most of my conversations go like this:
Friend: Hey Miss Bacon, How are things going?
Me: Oh you, know, the usual. You?
Friend: I’m pretty good. So, tell me, how’s wedding planning coming along?
Enter a twenty minute discussion on the drama of picking long tables vs round
Is it just me or does it seem like 90% of conversations since you got engaged start like that?
Maybe it’s because I work in an industry that is built on relationships with sales representatives and clients so we do our best to know the business of the person that helps pay our bills, but it’s not just limited to work.
Friends I haven’t seen in a couple weeks immediately ask what the latest decision we’ve made is. Guy friends of the Baconator even ask if they end up on the couch next to me when we’re hanging out. Do I have a big sign over my head that says “Wedding lingo only?” Do people think I no longer have interests in literature, my furbabies, world politics or Jersey Shore??
Nah, I think it’s because people generally recognize that this is the biggest event that’s happening in my life at the moment and nothing I have going on at work or in any other area of my life is this exciting. It’s like when someone gets a new puppy; all you want to do is talk about the puppy for the next few months because you know that they will always have a great story to tell and they will love telling it. It’s like momma pride, but for the day I finally get to marry the fabulous bearded fellow you’ve come to know as the Baconator.
People love talking about the things that interest them and right now weddings interest me (and hopefully, all the poor saps that have been asking me about planning ours). But what about after the wedding is just another Saturday in the fall and the honeymoon is just a collection of photos? What will we talk about then? The weather?
I had a very long conversation about my wedding with a guy who was trying to sell me insurance. He helped me figure out what to do with my guests between the church and reception… it happens
So true! Although I always gave people the option of moving on to a different topic with a half-apology along the lines of “Just a warning, I will talk your ear off on this subject so let me know if you get bored and I will happily move on to ‘not-wedding’ talk”…
Haha! I completely agree. I have also noticed a sudden influx of people who I haven’t talked to in years suddenly interested in hanging out again…perhaps suckering up for an invite? Or maybe that’s just my pessimism. 
After you get married all people will ask you is “How is married life”? In the 3.5 months I have been married, I think I have answered that question about 637 times. It’s easier when you are planning and have actual updates!
Oh my gosh, I’m so glad to know I’m not the only one who’s doing this! My professors just casually ask how wedding planning is going and I just go on and on! I’m relieved to know I’m not a crazypants who can’t seem to talk about anything but one day!
haha! too funny, I actually been trying really hard not to let wedding planning take over our conversations with friends - since i vivdly remember FIs sister during her engagement and it was ALL she could talk about - even if two people near her where talking about something else, but i have to admit it is really hard - maybe that is why i love the bee, that way i can get all my wedding-crazy-obsessions out here! 
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You could just say “you know, busy, so many tasks to do, just gives me a headache sometimes! So, did you see the last episode of Jersey Shore?” I think ppl are trying to be polite.
Ha! I thought this was the exact reason we blog Bacon! Just Kidding. Sort of.
I DO agree with you that most (maybe not all) of our friends/family who inquire REALLY do want to hear about our wedding planning adventures though.
I think I had friends who were actually MORE excited to talk about our wedding than we were, lol.
You must seek out those friends and let yourself go crazy! That’s my advice!
I hear ya, I found myself doing the same thing and had to stop myself from chatting about the yawner borecore stuff. Steer the convo to just about ANYTHING else! It totally works.
I try not to talk about wedding planning with people who ask beyond the standard “It’s going well. Very exciting” kind of thing. Mostly because I have heard so many people complain about annoying brides to be so I’m very paranoid about it.
But luckily I have two good friends who are also engaged. Our weddings are May, June, July. So I save all my wedding talk for these girls. And boy we can talk for HOURS! Hehe.
Cute post! Maybe you can hook up with a good surgeon who will give you a rebate, just in case you talk anyone’s ears off.
If they ask, you might look at your watch and ask them if they would like the long version, or the short one. Then if they ask again about something regarding the wedding….you are free to plunge right in with the entire first three chapters.
I sometimes annoy myself I think/talk about wedding SO much. oi
Haha, I know how you feel. I’d elaborate, but you have inspired me to write a blog post about my experience :).
haha. You’ll go back to talking about the same things you did prewedding planning. When people asked me that I generally would say 1 or 2 things then move on to ask how things are going with THEM. I really doubt others who are not planning weddings really care if we went with white or red tablecloths!
I have the same thing happen all the time, typically I just give a quick sum up recent things we have done or I tell them all of the big things are booked so I am not stressed.
Honestly, it seems like everyone is just excited to hear about the wedding! People always ask me how planning is going, and sometimes all you can say is “nothing new since we last talked”. I agree though that many people figure your entire life stops when you are wedding planning, but no! Life does still go on. It’s just a bit busier than before!
@Kathyf1323: I’m sure the insurance guy was happy from the monotony
@TokyoBlues: Pretty sure I laughed out loud at your comment. I might need to get a group discount b/c I am SUCH a talker
@JB: I try to keep it short and sweet if they don’t seem too interested. I don’t want it to turn into “Blah Blah Blah”
I know people mean well when they ask me how everything’s going, but sometimes I just feel like … running. Like, I’m either going to talk about it TOO much and sound like the crazy-uber-organised freak that I know I can be sometimes, OR I haven’t done ENOUGH.. agh. I’m with you: let’s talk about Jersey Shore instead.
It’s weird, I’m the opposite. People ask how planning is going and I just say “I LOVE it! We’ve got most things booked now.” And end it there. It’s not because I don’t want to tell everyone everything about my wedding (hello, WEDDING BLOGGER!) but I’m terrified I’ll bore them. There’s a couple friends that I’ll go in to full details with, but apart from them, people have to ask me more specific questions to get answers.
I’m like Cinnamon Buns, I hardly talked to anyone about the planning, even my friends. I guess I just figured nobody was as interested as I was-plus, I talked Mr. PC’s ear off plenty.
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Mrs. Bacon, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Digital Advertising Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, IT Client Services Engagement Date: June 17, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Ravenswood Billboard Factory About Me: I'm a Midwestern girl that can't seem to commit to staying in one place for too long and is constantly daydreaming about my next adventure. I am an aspiring foodie with a weak spot for the unusual and I love semi-reality food television. My other loves easily include laughing as a form of exercise, a book that I can't put down, summer baseball games, espresso with whipped cream, couch potato days and nights with the ridiculous Mr. Bacon, and our two kitties, Lincoln and Sawyer. We're planning a faux-destination wedding for 150 of our closest friends and family in the city we've both adopted as home that has a modern, yet whimsical twist and as many personal touches as we can manage.
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