Wanna Peek?

Wanna Peek?

February 18th, 2011 @ 9:13 am by Mrs. Lox
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This was actually one of the few things Mr. Lox had a firm opinion on when we started our wedding planning. Our photographers asked about a first look, and Mr. Lox was all confused—he’d never heard of it before. Chad said we could get back to him, so I waited until we got home to explain the concept of a first look to Mr. Lox. After he understood, he put his brunchy foot down with a firm no. On the inside, I was a little disappointed. But because he had such a firm reaction, I didn’t try to sway him either way. I accepted his opinion and moved on. For what it’s worth, that was last July. And the concept of first looks has just now resurfaced.

I don’t know how it came up, but we were talking about our cocktail hour recently. (Wait, I do remember how. I was expressing my eternal love for scallops. But that is a story for another day. Back to the topic.) I pointed out we wouldn’t be getting the appetizers we’ve chosen for our cocktail hour because we’d likely be taking pictures for the majority if not all of that time. Mr. Lox seemed surprised. I told him that was the only time we’d have for it since we wouldn’t be seeing each other before the ceremony. He blinked. Then he said maybe we could see each other. I reminded him that the moment of me coming down the aisle was important to him. He told me he might be reconsidering that.

So when we got home, I offered to show him some first looks I’ve loved. Such as this one from Mrs. Poodle…

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(Next Exit Photography)

Or Mrs. Fro Yo’s lovely moment…

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(source)

Or how about the gorgeous Dolphins…

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(Starks Photography)

After seeing these three couples and their beautifully documented moments, Mr. Lox was fully sold. And that is how we came to agree on having a first look. I’m so excited!

For what it’s worth, I would not have pressed Mr. Lox on this issue. I do respect that some things will be important to him, and it’s important to me that he gets what he wants from this day. The man well and truly changed his mind between July and now. Am I thrilled? Yes. But did I bring it up and try to change his mind at any point? No. This one was just a happy happy accident.

Has your other half changed their mind on something like this? Was the end result happy for you?

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11 Responses to “Wanna Peek?”

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Gerbera (message) 4,481 posts, Honey bee

My husband started off as no as well because he’s always thought the first time he would see me is as I walk down the aisle. But. He would already have seen me that day when he comes to pick me up from my parent’s home, a traditional Chinese element.
I think the thing that sold it for him was the fact that (minus the 2 photogs) it will be the only time during the day we will have a couple mins truly alone. And personally I just liked the fact that the first moment he saw me was more private that we can share.

2/18/11 @ 9:34 am (reply)

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juliebeannn (message) 49 posts, Newbee

i think this is one of the pictures that my fiance and i are looking forward to most!! yay!

2/18/11 @ 9:46 am (reply)

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Miss Tartlet (message) 3,207 posts, Sugar bee

Photos of other Bee’s “first look” sealed the deal for Mr. Tartlet, too! I’m super nervous about how ours will turn out, but I like Gerbera’s point that it’s one of the few times we’ll be alone during the day.

2/18/11 @ 10:34 am (reply)

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Miss Crepe (message) 313 posts, Helper bee

Sometimes it just take a little time for an idea to marinate with our guys, huh. I know the same has happened with Mr. C on other things! Glad to hear Mr. L’s on board with a first look.. it can mean a much more relaxed photo session too.

2/18/11 @ 10:34 am (reply)

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Mrs. Meerkat (message) 3,216 posts, Sugar bee

I am so happy for you! I couldn’t get Mr. M. to have one but it still worked out.

2/18/11 @ 12:29 pm (reply)

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Lexsy (message) 537 posts, Busy bee

We will be doing that too! But I don’t get one thing, why are the photos always of the bride’s first look? It’s almost always the bride’s face that gets pictured, not the grooms!
I don’t know if there’s a reason for that but I want my photographer to get my FI’s expression when he sees me for the first time

2/18/11 @ 6:53 pm (reply)

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carol

Lexsy - I always think the same thing. If most couples have two photographers, why isn’t one focusing on each person (bride & groom). The bride already sees the groom, so why not record/photograph the grooms reaction. It seems like that is a shot that is always included in the traditional set when the groom first sees the bride down the isle. Maybe for logistical reasons so the photographer don’t end up in each others shots, but you think that could easily be worked out.

2/19/11 @ 1:57 am (reply)

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Sunlavender (message) 553 posts, Busy bee

My FI is (was) exactly the same way. He originally was opposed to the first look, but at the time gets closer, and he sees the reality of not making it to our cocktail hour, he’s slowing coming around.

2/20/11 @ 7:20 pm (reply)

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Miss Bacon (message) 656 posts, Busy bee

First, Lox, I too LOVE scallops. Second, Mr B ended up changing his minds on tuxes just because it got to be too much of a hassle to look for matching suits. Hooray!

2/22/11 @ 11:34 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Frozen Yogurt (message) 2,685 posts, Sugar bee

I’m so late to this, but I know I’ve said it before and will say it again, the first look was SO wonderful! I highly recommend it! It was one of the best moments of the day! And, he cried! he never cries!

2/23/11 @ 3:39 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Husky (message) 1,754 posts, Buzzing bee

Thankfully we agreed on our non-first look decision, but there were so many things that we would originally disagree about, and then come around to a compromise. So glad this will work out for you!

3/1/11 @ 12:51 pm (reply)