That Little Kick in the Pants I Needed.

That Little Kick in the Pants I Needed.

February 18th, 2011 @ 2:41 pm by Mrs. Biscuit
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Hive, wedding planning can be freaking stressful sometimes. When combined with the stress I have put on me with school and other commitments, I sometimes fall into a great funk that no amount of cute pet photos can surmount. Oh, and I’m currently battling the flu virus, so that’s not helping anything.

I don’t want to sugarcoat anything. This stress, along with the stresses Mr. B’s life brings to the table, added to the stress of attempting to combine both finances and tangible stuff into one home at times snowballs into this crazy stress ball that constantly follows me. And sometimes, if I don’t run away fast enough from that ball, I get run over.

I put no fault on Mr. Biscuit, but I do feel that these stresses have put a strain on our relationship. It’s difficult to really put effort in a relationship when you have everything else looming in your head. It also doesn’t help that Mr. Biscuit and I are extremely comfortable together. So, as different life stresses have consumed both of us, we have fallen in a nasty place: relationship purgatory.

I knew where we were, but I wasn’t sure how to climb out of limbo and back into relationship bliss. I have always been happy with Mr. Biscuit, but our love flame was missing a spark to ignite the wick.

That all changed the evening of February 14th. I came home from a long day, my sinuses draining and making me a super cranky pants. What did I see when I walked in the door?

The wine was a nice touch. The candles? A pretty little detail. But the real winner of the evening was the handmade card which elaborated on different reasons why Mr. Biscuit loved me. It was especially touching, because I often ask Mr. Biscuit that very question, and I get this:

He has always said he’s not good at verbal expression, and now I can believe him. You can also see where I got my drawing prowess.

I still have stress from school. I still have stress from the wedding. I am still extremely comfortable in my relationship, and do not see butterflies floating around Mr. Biscuit whenever I see him walk into a room. But that little card was enough to remind me of why I’m so comfortable with Mr. B and why I truly do want to spend the rest of my life with him. And maybe I’ve been seeing a few more butterflies in sporadic intervals.

Have you ever had your fiance do something small but sweet that helped you reaffirm your love?

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17 Responses to “That Little Kick in the Pants I Needed.”

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,484 posts, Honey bee

Stress balls suck! As far as my husband, he took care of me yesterday as I had a preggo, emotional moment. Love him!

2/18/11 @ 2:51 pm (reply)

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ssoblit (message) 54 posts, Worker bee

awww…yes my fiance showed me why I am with him…he made me dinner, got me roses and chocolates and then we watched a half season of Dexter- not on the couch like normal but curled up with a blanket on the floor with our doggie. It was super cute!!!

2/18/11 @ 2:51 pm (reply)

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Lozza (message) 568 posts, Busy bee

I’m glad to hear that someone else’s SO totally blanks on the “Tell me what you like about me” question, because my DH fails at it every time
(I’ve been asking for almost 6 years now, you’d think he’d think ahead and have a better response prepped!)

2/18/11 @ 2:55 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Twinkletoes (message) 48 posts, Newbee

I also got a handmade card My FH made one of those folded in half heart cutouts, and then drew squiggly line inside to represent the 2 puzzle pieces that we are! Even after working at Hallmark for years in my younger days and seeing many very beautiful cards, the handmade one wins “hands down…” ahh can you tell I had a crazy week?! I teach middle school kiddos with Autism and honestly wedding planning has been my only reprieve from stressing about work all weekend!

I took this past semester off of grad school so I could plan, but begin my final practicum in April. This little break has been blissful, but also I am super nervous for the quarter to begin… I know it will be here before I know it, and then it is full speed ahead. I will get my Masters in June and get married at the end of July.

Hope you feel better, Miss Biscuit!

2/18/11 @ 3:14 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Locket (message) 2,837 posts, Sugar bee

Aww what a sweet thing for him to do. I think it’s completely normal for things like this to happen (at least it does on occasion with us). I too was blessed with a love reminder on V-day and on other sporadic days too. We both tend to know when we fall into the mild married state and do sweet or spontaneous things to snap out of it. I can see where all the tv married couples get their inspiration lol!

2/18/11 @ 3:14 pm (reply)

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Miss Brooch (message) 1,721 posts, Bumble bee

I’m in the same boat!! I definitely tend to take some things out on my Mr. B, and he takes it like a champ, and like your guy still reminds me why I love him AWW!! Glad you shared this, and I love your stress ball illustration, too, btw! Haha!

2/18/11 @ 3:23 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Meerkat (message) 3,216 posts, Sugar bee

Awww! What a sweetheart! I came home to find a bottle of champagne and Mr. M. cooking a dinner for us.

2/18/11 @ 3:24 pm (reply)

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Miss Fish (message) 1,463 posts, Bumble bee

Your drawings make me smile every time I’m so glad Mr. B was so thoughtful!!

2/18/11 @ 3:34 pm (reply)

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Miss Oatmeal (message) 221 posts, Helper bee

He loves you, Biscuit. That much is entirely obvious. Mr. O had flowers and the most ridiculous looking Chihuahua card with the world’s sweetest words inside, waiting for me on the front door for my birthday yesterday. It sure doesn’t take much for us to get out of that little funk we often find ourselves in.

2/18/11 @ 4:04 pm (reply)

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Miss Tartlet (message) 3,207 posts, Sugar bee

What a sweetie! I think I’m the “man” of the relationship when it comes to answering the “why do you love me” question. I usually give a lame answer like “um, because you’re…awesome-sauce?” Something I’ve been trying to improve on over the years.

2/18/11 @ 4:10 pm (reply)

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DianaLynn (message) 197 posts, Blushing bee

I love the card. Aren’t the smallest things the best?

My bday is a few days before Valentine’s day…that morning when I was in the shower before work (at 5am, ew) my FI snuck out of bed and made me bacon, toast and scrambled eggs. Nothing says love like bacon before sunrise

2/18/11 @ 4:51 pm (reply)

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Miss Biscuit (message) 625 posts, Busy bee

Awww, everybody’s SOs sounds awesome! I should add, he also made dinner, but that isn’t so special because he makes dinner every night. I fail at cookery.

2/18/11 @ 5:27 pm (reply)

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dddd89 (message) 491 posts, Helper bee

Ha ha, I love that he’s thinking about a pepper! Same thing for me on valentine’s day. My FI bought me a card with a frog magnet on it. 7 years ago on our first valentine’s day he bought me a stuffed frog so I thought that was cute he remembered.

2/19/11 @ 4:45 am (reply)

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Sapphire MOH

Stress SUCKS! But that’s an uber sweet card!!

I know what else you need to de-stress.
You need cake.

http://noms.icanhascheezburger.com/2011/02/18/funny-food-photos-tiny-tea-party/

have a cake. <3

2/19/11 @ 3:03 pm (reply)

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Lexsy (message) 537 posts, Busy bee

How sweet!! It also happens to us that we fall in a comfortable state and pattern for a while without realizing it. But then one of us does something to shake things up (in a good way), and I feel so full of love for my FI that I could burst. It’s such a wonderful feeling! I am also super lucky with him, as he’s so patient with me when I’m stressed and snappy… That alone sometimes reminds me of how much I love him- and why!

2/21/11 @ 11:12 am (reply)

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