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Oh hush, not that word. This word is Children.

We’ve already covered that despite our love for kidlets, there won’t be any at the Bacon Big Day. So what am I writing about them for this time? Have I changed my mind? Have I figured out a way to include the kids without them being there? Nope.

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This is about the after.

The time after the wedding when we are seen as a family, a household by the law. This is about one of the promises I made to myself when I was still in high school: I will adopt at least one child in addition to having at least one of my own. From the beginning, I knew that I had to be open about this promise to the Baconator once things started to become serious because he needed to be on board. You can’t really adopt a child if both parents aren’t on board.

So one day back in England, when we were having a “don’t you just hate when kids crawl around on the ground at a restaurant” kind of conversation, I just snuck it in. I don’t remember if we were in the dorm in the mid-afternoon or if we were in the city having coffee, but what I do remember was holding my breath and thinking to myself that this is a make or break topic. Then the Baconator just smiled and agreed that he thought adopting kids was a great thing, and he loved that I wanted to do it.

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Sure, this was ages ago, when we were just babies of 20 and 21 years old, but now that we are real life adults, we still talk about it, and are actually planning that next stage of our lives little by little. We won’t be having kids for at least a good few years after we’re married, but it comforts me to know that we’ve talked about raising them and caring for them. Beyond a “no kids on restaurant floors” rule, we also have discussed what it would be like making sure the Grandparent Bacons don’t spoil them too much, why a Good Cop/Bad Cop strategy is usually not a good solution, and that we would really need to take turns cleaning Bacon baby diapers.

Have you and your FI talked about life after the big day?