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We’re about to pass the 40-day mark and I have this nagging feeling I can’t seem to shake. I feel like I haven’t done enough! I feel like I should be covering candle holders with lace or making more pennant banners. I feel like I should doing something.
This feeling sucks because I know the clock is ticking and while part of me wants to do a bunch more stuff, the other part of me is pretty worn out. It’s not that I’ve been DIY-ing day and night, but the projects I have done have been pretty time consuming (and sometimes very frustrating). There’s a lot that I wanted to do in the beginning, and haven’t done. But that’s OK, right?
I’m definitely at a crossroads.
I can either accept what I’ve accomplished or organize these nagging thoughts and looming projects, and get to work! Ironically enough, I’m sooo drawn to the latter! What happened to the days when we left it up to the vendors? Don’t get me wrong, I loved being able to craft things and personalize our wedding, but I’m not sure I’m the type that knows when to call it quits.
The weird thing is that I shouldn’t want to do more. Just two weeks ago we visited our venue and I seriously felt like the space spoke for itself, and my attempts to fill it are simply ridiculous! The place is so grand and vast. It really doesn’t need anything and I don’t know why I feel so compelled to DIY until the very last minute!
At least I know I’m not the first bride to feel this way. Mrs. Lace wrote about this here and reading how she let go of some of her DIY projects was pretty helpful. Mrs. Beagle also wrote about this here and Mrs. Pretzel wrote about it here as well. I don’t know guys. I’m trying to push through this quickly because there are so many fun things coming up (my bridal showers and bachelorette party) and I want to enjoy it all.
Do you feel pressured to do more?
How are you dealing with it?
I feel this way and im 6 months out! I have been so well prepared that when I week goes by and I havent done anything ‘wedding’, I panic! Shouldnt I be running around liek a headless chicken doing stuff? I thought that was supposed to happen? Just relax and enjoy what short time you have left of being engaged- you wont have this time again! Maybe jot downa ll the otehr ideas you have and pick a few that you think are not too time consuming and something you know how to do eaily- so it wont stress you out! I know EVERYONE says this- but time will fly by!
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Good luck 
Take a deep breath with me? Zen breathing… I’m all abuot it lately.
Now, look at your list and think of all the wild things you’re thinking of adding. Are they in your original plan? Is there something in your original plan that you couldn’t get to that now maybe you can? What will it add to your wedding day if you complete a certain project?
If something passes all of that scrutiny and you *truly* have time and evergy for it, then have at it. But all of those criteria have to be met before you start. And if you need a friend to come be silly with you, let me know. 
Lol I love the “shouldn’t I be covering candle holders with lace or something” part!!
As you are still 40 days out, you should probably take a weddingless week and just relax! Everything is coming together and all that’s left are these small details… If you can’t get that itch off, then get to work and get those candles done, as evidently it’s important for you. But if the itch passes, then maybe it’s just that you have not allowed yourself yet to relax…
I’ve felt that way for a while now that the majority of my projects are complete. The remaining project depend on getting the rest of our RSVPs. Sometimes it’s nice just to do nothing
You’ve already accomplished so much! Maybe because you’ve been running in overdrive your mind/body hasn’t quite adjusted to a more relaxed pace? I totes agree with Lox’s suggestions.
Oh Brooch! I feel ya! What you’ve done so far is a LOT; give yourself some credit and take a few days to enjoy the experiences. When you look back, would you rather have regrets over axed DIY projects or wonderful moments you can never replicate? (Remind me of this when I am freaking out 1.5 months from now.) *hugs*
Just let it go… I’m at the same point and I don’t think my anxiety will decrease until I tell myself everything is organized and done…
Prioritize the projects you have left from the most important to you to the least important to you. Then look at #1 on the list of your projects and decide if you have enough time to actually do it without stressing yourself out. If it’s more stressful than fun, I’d say cut it out. I think at 30 days out, I decided no more projects. Good luck!
Oh lady, I feel like this and I still have double the time left that you do. I think the best thing to do is, take a deep breath, and PRIORITIZE. Let go of the projects that are too time consuming/won’t make a huge difference to the outcome of the day, and focus on the ones that will truly make you smile. You can do it, B! We’re rooting for ya!
I def felt this way near the end. This is likely why you got to see photos of me finishing up some of my last minute projects just hours before my wedding while I had my hair done. I was a nut!! I should have just forgone a few other projects so I didn’t become so overwhelmed. My advice for you is to let the things go that aren’t necessary! You will feel so much better when you have time to relax
Of course I totally feel pressured to do more! Then I breathe…remind myself what I’ve already got in place and what I still plan to do.
I re-check the budget for a reality check and realize I’ve already done what is important and spent the $$ on those things.
I also remind myself how important the honeymoon fund is and that I refuse to go over budget for the wedding and make our trip less than we dreamed.
Kick up your feet and pour yourself a glass of wine….you deserve it, Miss B.
ps - you’re wedding is gonna be so fan-freakin-tastic. xoxo
Pshaw… I felt this at 40, and continue to feel it today at 15 (omg 15!!!!!!!). With everything else left to accomplish, though, I’m coming to terms with the fact that there are a lot of pretty things that I could’ve bought/done/made for the wedding, but they’re not going to all be there. The space will be beautiful with all that I have already gathered/created. And the other projects won’t go anywhere… I can still keep them bookmarked and bring them out gradually to wow my friends at other parties in the future.
(I forget whose advice that was, but its another thing that keeps me going when allllll the inspiration of the wedding world starts to feel like a burden- this wedding is NOT the last party I will throw. Just because I couldn’t have it all at the wedding doesn’t mean I can’t use some of the same inspiration to throw amazing parties later on!)
Looking back, I can definitely say that I could’ve done HALF of my DIY projects and been perfectly happy with my wedding…Don’t worry about going overboard with decor and DIY, your sanity and time is far more valuable!
i feel you - two weeks to go and i just want to let everything happen by itself. hopefully everything that is super important to you is done already, if not call your friends & family and ask them for help, i swear they will say yes.
I’m going to be in your position too.. thanks for posting about it. I totally get it! I’m trying to set a deadline for myself– no more wedding work (or minimal) a month before the wedding. Probably won’t stick to it but I’ve to try..
Your wedding is going to be amazing. Take the time to soak in the anticipation of that day, relax, take care of yourself!! You so deserve it.
Can you send some of that amazing energy my way? I’m going through an “I’m lazy and tired…what projects can I cut” phase right now.
The worries about it not being “enough” continued for me even after the wedding. But keep a good attitude, and you’ll be fine. It’s enough, trust me.
If shipping costs weren’t an issue, I’d totally sell you my lace candles. I made enough lace candles to create the centerpieces for 18 tables at our wedding!
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Mrs. Brooch, Arlington, VA Age and Occupation: 25, Writer/Editor Fiance's Age and Occupation: 29, Front Desk Manager Engagement Date: October 3, 2009 Wedding Date: April 2011 Venue: Oxon Hill Manor About Me: I’m an indecisive girlie-girl with a motor mouth, can-do attitude, and knack for making others laugh. I dream of becoming a best selling novelist like Elizabeth Gilbert or Julie Powell (a girl can dream, right?), and love long road trips, a beautiful countryside, music, blogs, books, and all things vintage/thrift/antique/or homemade. I’m a Virgo, i.e. overly sensitive, emotional, and critical, and there’s no such thing as short and sweet in my world. I want to say and do it all. Mr. Brooch grounds me. I point where to go and he figures out the way. He’s a pragmatic fancy-pants who enjoys video games and movies. We both adore our mutt, Rocky, and spending time with our amazingly supportive family and friends. We’re planning a garden wedding with a formal reception with lots of whimsy and unique, Southern-inspired details.
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