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Am I the only one that though The Go Go’s said “long as I see you”? Yeah, I didn’t think so. But I digress.
This post isn’t about my annoying habit of mishearing song lyrics. No ma’am. Today we’ll be discussing my annoying habit of under-sharing.
Back in my very first post I mentioned that no one in my office knew that we were planning a wedding, which probably left a lot you scratching your heads! The reason for that, friends, is that I’m a notorious under-sharer. You’ve heard of an over-sharer? Well, I’m the opposite.
The intimate details of my personal life are on a need-to-know basis, and I very rarely offer up information about myself and my life to people I’ve barely met. I’m the type of person who will sit with a coworker at lunch and listen to them share details of their weekend, but when questioned about my weekend my response is usually a brief “fine, thank you.” It’s a personality quirk that has often gotten me labeled as cold and unfriendly, but those who know me best accept this quirk and understand that when I do confide in them and share details of my life it means I have 100% trust in them.
Now you’re probably thinking, Cotton Candy, you do realize Weddingbee is public for anyone to read, right? And what the shiz does this have to do with weddings? My answer to that is blogging provides a veil of anonymity that real life doesn’t. A hundred people can read this blog and I never have to meet them or hear their opinions about our wedding. Our wedding day on the other hand will put a big ol’ spotlight on Mr. Cotton Candy and me and our (very) personal life.
Weddings by nature, and especially DIY weddings like ours, are meant to be a personal reflection of the couple; the best ceremonies are crafted to reflect the couple and provide guests with an intimate glimpse into their lives together. See the problem? I’m a little anxious about not only being the center of attention on our wedding day, but also putting Mr. Cotton Candy’s and my relationship and private life out there for all to see. Lucky for me, we’ve come up with some wedding-day strategies to help ease my anxiety and make our day feel more personal for us and our guests.
So tell me, are you an information hoarder like me? Do you have any other personality quirks rearing their ugly heads as you plan your wedding?
I’m a total oversharer, but I feel the same way about having a small wedding. Our rule was that every guest had to be close one or the other of us. (With the exception of spouses/partners)
I have a weird mix of over- and under-sharing. I had a *difficult* childhood through early adulthood. Because of this I learned - well, I feel - that certain shared details get things in the open and therefore no one can hurt me with details they just *found out*. Generally the people around me, when they ask, will get an honest answer.
I do not, however, have a large group of people I socialize with. My time is spent with the very small group I completely trust and love. Enter our small wedding, Mister’s best friend officiating, my daughter/his son serving as our only attendants. Perfect for us 
I tend to over share, and I had to learn to cut back on the over sharing with some co-workers because I wanted them to be surprised at the wedding.
I think it’s wonderful that you are sharing with us your wedding (and not only) - there’s a lot of good stuff there! My quirky trait that’s coming out during the planning is that, underneath it all, I’m a total people pleaser and it’s so hard to accept that we cannot take into consideration everyones desires and wishes and travel plans and requests for our wedding! I usually avoid organizing parties or dinners because I always end up worrying too much about the guests, much easier to be a guest myself!
I’m an under-sharer, for sure. It takes me a long time to open up to people, and especially when it comes to the wedding my lips are pretty tightly sealed (outside of Weddingbee, of course!).
I’m an under-sharer too and I’ve actually had people think I was rude or stuck up because of it before. I’m very nervous about how it will effect the wedding, so thank you for sharing your tips!
*raising hand* hi, under sharer over here! while i am definitely a social butterfly, i’ve also been incredibly private my whole life…weird huh?
YES. Under-sharer here. And introvert (which I know is slightly different).
I do (if I may humbly suggest) think that we are….smart for being this way. Think about it: we observe, reflect, think about what we say, rather than just “running our mouths” all the time.
Our society seems to reward extroverts (reality shows…), and think introverts are “weird.” Whereas other societies seem to think that introverts are wise (think the monk/guru at the top of the hill).
There’s nothing wrong with being either an introvert or an extrovert, but I am just saying - you aren’t weird .
Total undersharer (great word!).
I always heard “Islands, I see you,” which makes even less sense.
@mightywombat: @Miss Elephant: I wish i was an over sharer I think it would be easier to work to keep my mouth shut rather than try to open up more to people! @Miss Carousel: Thank you! I feel your pain Its hard to balance other people vision for your wedding with your own.
@Miss Tartlet: Thats exactly how I am I even have a hard time talking wedding to close friends and family but i think thats because i dont want them to think that all i ever talk about is wedding!
@Miss Ostrich: In a social party setting im very much a social butterfly but i think thats because you can keep acquaintances at arms length and not get to close and personal. @JB: interesting theory!
@rzblna: OMG I totally hear “island I see you” too!
I totally agree with the small guest list. The feeling of it on our wedding day was amazing. It was like having a party with some of our best friends.
we decided to have a much smaller wedding when my mom passed. she was the most excited about our wedding and when she passed i threw all my wedding stuff in the closet and said screw it we’re eloping. mr c told me no get your crap out of the closet and get back to work. it was the best kick in the butt i’ve ever gotten. he knew how hard i had worked and how proud i was of the wedding stuff ive done and for me to not be able to show it off would have been devistating for me and he knows it.
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Mrs. Cotton Candy, Riverside, CA Age and Occupation: 29, Field Coordinator Fiance's Age and Occupation: 34, Process Server Engagement Date: July 5, 2007 Wedding Date: June 2011 Venue: Riverside Art Museum About Me: I’m a girl in love with her best friend planning a small mid-century modern inspired wedding that’s been a long time coming. I love all things design, sewing, flea markets, and a good book. I’ve been known to swoon over a well-designed chair and often find myself craving a new addition to my chair collection regardless of the lack square footage in our home. I’m Mexican American girl who hates all things spicy but loves her rowdy Mexican family and her Latin roots. My wedding muses may not be your typical wedding superstars, but with a lot of DIY, a dash of offbeat style, and lots of love and laughs, Mr. Cotton and I plan to create a day that is unmistakably us.
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