Lovely Tonight: The “Typical” Traditions

In the midst of the dance party, we were informed by the DOC that it was time to cut the cake! Um, yes please! Since everyone was already on the dance floor, they walked a few steps over to the cake to watch (and get a slice of the goodness)! Mr. Buttons and I had to consult with one another on our game plan. No”¦wait”¦lets be honest: I told him what to do.

“Be careful”¦don’t ruin the pretty lace design. Don’t cut too big of a slice. And don’t cut too small of a slice ”“ I want a considerable piece of that cake!”



After a little bit of finagling, we managed to get a slice of the bottom layer—chocolate Kahlua creme! Drool. There hadn’t been any conversation about whether or not we would smash cake in each others’ faces; we both knew that we didn’t want to. Boring, I know. So, we fed each other a small bite of cake and then allowed the Carlouel staff to begin slicing up our beautiful masterpiece of a cake (single tear) for our guests. I might have snuck in a few extra bites before they could get their hands on it though”¦I was starving!


When it came to some of the “typical traditions” like the bouquet and garter tosses, I wasn’t exactly on board for them. When we originally drafted our guest list, it seemed as though there wouldn’t be many single folks attending. However, as time went by and the guest list morphed slightly, we realized that there might be more single attendees than originally expected! So, in a last minute time line adjustment, we added them!

Up first, a little bit of Devo’s “Whip It” for the bouquet toss!





It looks like BM L caught the bouquet!


Then, it was time for a music change, as it was Mr. Buttons’ turn to remove the garter! He selected this particular tune:




And, to give you an idea of how rowdy it really was”¦here’s a really short clip. Listen to everyone hooting and hollering! Sheesh. Also, can we say “paparazzi?!?”

Grandma had to look in to see what all the ruckus was about!


It was a little more difficult to get the single guys out on the floor for the garter toss than the ladies. Go figure. Some of them had to be physically coerced.



”¦annnnd it was tossed onto the floor, as none of the men were willing to catch it. Thanks a lot guys! However, it did land in between the feet of my friend J’s boyfriend, so he was a good sport and claimed the garter.


Let’s go you two!!!




Now that the single folks had had their fun, it was time to turn the spotlight over to the married couples!

What are your feelings on the “typical traditions” at a reception? Did you want to include them?

*photos courtesy of Pilster Photography*



Mrs. Buttons

Clearwater, FL
Wedding Date:
May 2010
After "I Do" - Disagreements
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    Kate, Guest @ 4:48 pm

    Great post! Had me smiling all the way through – and that pic of your grandma looking on is hilarious! Love it. :-)

  2. earrings Member
    earrings 2611 posts, Sugar bee @ 4:52 pm

    Those are some really fun photos :) And I have said it before, but I will say it again- i LOVE your cake!

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    MrsP-to-be 109 posts, Blushing bee @ 5:09 pm

    Pics are PRICELESS, especially gramma and scaredy drunk guy. I also really like your cake but your dress (and you!) are STUNNING.

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    katiedee 635 posts, Busy bee @ 5:09 pm

    HAHAHA!! I LOVE the pic of grandma looking in the window!! Looks like a great time =)

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    kayakgirl73 2593 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:21 pm

    I did the same thing, i.e. took a couple of extra bits of cake.

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    sarahd07 485 posts, Helper bee @ 6:44 pm

    I’m LOVING the photo of grandma!!! Too funny!

  7. barrettes Member
    barrettes 913 posts, Busy bee @ 6:50 pm

    Love it! So happy you added in the tosses! That photo of grandma is ah-mazing. And oh, that CAKE. So so so pretty.

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    NJForever 147 posts, Blushing bee @ 6:52 pm

    This was such a fun post- thanks for sharing!! Your dress & cake are GORGEOUS- the dress looked perfect on you! And the pic. of grandma was too cute!

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    mariewest 304 posts, Helper bee @ 7:39 pm

    I’m torn on wedding traditions, I’m afraid that no one would want to participate. Glad some of your guests got into it. The pictures are wonderful.

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    cardigan 8645 posts, Bumble Beekeeper @ 7:41 pm

    Love how much fun the tosses looked! And I’m so in love with your cake – it’s amazing!

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    jaguar 6491 posts, Bee Keeper @ 8:38 pm

    Haha, love it! We don’t have many young single guests at our wedding, so we’re sparing the awkwardness of a toss. I’m not even sure I WANT to wear a garter!

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    brooch 1760 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:51 pm

    Love how you played Johnny Cash!! Love it!! The toss looks like it was so much fun!!

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    tartlet 3227 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:25 pm

    Your grandma’s expression is priceless! It looks like everyone enjoyed the tosses, and your cake design is so amazing.

  14. knitting Member
    knitting 1072 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:34 pm

    Your cake sounds so delicious!

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    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 9:52 pm

    Is it wrong I’m LOL-ing at the pic of Grandma peering in?? That was one rowdy crowd – wow @ the flash bulbs.

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    biscuit 627 posts, Busy bee @ 10:18 pm

    I wish we had more single friends to do this, but I think the dance floor would be populated with kiddies!

    Your pictures always make me swoon, Buttons. So pretty.

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    ostrich 2402 posts, Buzzing bee @ 11:15 pm

    Holy guacamole, ribbons – your cake is EXQUISITE. I cried a little bit when I saw this pics of you cutting it. :)

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    diamondscan 138 posts, Blushing bee @ 7:00 am

    I think the garter toss has always been a bit much for me… especially with who winds up putting it on the gal who catches the bouquet. Glad you made it work! It’s just too much for us though… and I doubt we’ll be having lots of single people at our wedding. My FI is Swiss and I think he would be really uncomfortable with that wedding tradtion.

    I will still do a bouquet toss though. I think I want to do the kind with a giftcard so that the women want to catch it for more than just tradition. I sure would want to catch a bouquet with a target giftcard on it!

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    superplannerbee 745 posts, Busy bee @ 9:03 am

    Looks like fun! I hope mine goes that well.

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    kittybean 486 posts, Helper bee @ 9:22 am

    we’ll have a bouquet/garter toss but where my SO comes from, they do a couple of others that we will NOT be doing. they do the whole cling and clatter on our glassware to make the bride and groom kiss (not having any of that! and i hope the ambiance and general feeling of the event will deter his side of the family from doing that), and the bridal dance, which i had never heard of until i attended a couple weddings out in his area. that’s just not my speed, and SO agreed he didn’t want any part in it either.

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    msbuttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 10:05 am

    @kayakgirl73: Dude, the cake was the food I was most excited about, you best believe I was getting some of that action! 😉

    @mariewest: To be honest, that is what I was initially worried about, and why I wasn’t going to have them at first. It was a total last minute change, and I’m glad I ended up adding them! But, everyone is different!

    @Miss Jaguar: I totally forgot to mention this, but I actually wasn’t wearing it all day! My DJ gave me a heads up when we were about 10 min or so out from the garter toss/bouquet toss, and I ran up to the room with my handbag and grabbed it/put it on! I only wore it for a really short time…it would have been to awkward to be wearing all day!

    @Miss Ostrich: I’m actually Buttons 😉 Haha…just giving you a hard time 😉

  22. taffy Member
    taffy 3081 posts, Sugar bee @ 8:51 am

    The cake looks so delicious!!!!!

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