Weddingbee Blog

Let’s talk about complaining.

Sometimes, a girl needs to complain, but I never ever want to be this person, on Facebook or in real life:

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And it gets worse when you are a bride-to-be. If you complain too much while planning your wedding, often you get saddled with that dreaded “Bridezilla” moniker, and we all know how I feel about THAT term (hint: I hate hate HAAAAAAAAATE ITTTTTTT!!!!!!).

I also have complainer’s guilt sometimes.

I have my health, a fiancé who I love and who loves me, a job, a roof over my head, a supportive family, good friends, an adorable kissy beagle pup... what right do I have to complain?

But guess what? I’m cranky and I feel like complaining right now. So I’m going to do it! But I’d like to invite you, hive, to complain right along with me! Let’s have a big ol’ bitchfest and get it out of our systems, ’mkay?

Commence whining (in list form, no less):

1. We found out recently that two of Mr. S’ family members can’t attend the wedding because they are too elderly. His grandmother and his great-aunt just aren’t up to traveling, and definitely aren’t up to spending the day at a big, sprawling outdoor botanical garden. Mr. S has such a small family (no aunts or uncles, no cousins, no living grandfathers) that the absence of these two women is making a big impact. We both understand why they can’t make it to Philly, but we feel that if we’d chosen to have our wedding at Mr. S’ parents home, they’d be able to attend. We are sad that we won’t get to spend our wedding day with these ladies, and we feel guilty.
2. After researching methods to delay, stop or skip my period on my wedding day, I tried the Diva Cup last month. It leaked like a mofo, so I decided to go back on the pill, just for the next two months. I’ve been on the pill for eight days now, and you guys? I am so freaking nauseated. Constantly. I remember now that this happened the first time I went on the pill, and it got better with time, but I can’t remember how long it took for this vommy feeling to go away.
3. In addition to being on the brink of barfiness, I have been absolutely exhausted and worn out. I literally can barely keep my eyes open. Getting out of bed has never been hard for me, but now it’s a major chore. I don’t have the energy to do anything, my muscles ache, my head hurts, and all I want to do is sleep. And this is the worst time for this to happen, because in addition to having a wedding in six weeks…
4. …we are moving in two weeks. Yes, we are the geniuses who decided that moving into our new house a month before the wedding is a totally awesome idea. Meanwhile, our current house looks like a tornado hit it. We are completely unorganized and are packing up our house at a record slow rate of about one box every two or three days. And we are stressed.
5. My depression is back, full-swing. Usually, when I’m busy or stressed, I’ve got too much going on to sink into a depression, but this time, instead of tackling all of the things we need to do, all I want to do is crawl under the covers, avoid everything, and cry.
6. There are plenty of other little things (I’ve lost all faith in our DOC, we got a rude “jokey” comment back on one of our RSVP cards, etc.) but I don’t need to go into all of them individually.

So that’s that. I’m sure that some of these things are interrelated (the fatigue is probably due to the depression, which is probably due to the stress), but it doesn’t make them any easier to deal with.

And you know what? Now that I’ve typed this all out, I actually feel a little bit better! The next six weeks are going to be rough, but we’ll get through them. We WILL.

Yay for catharsis!

Okay, now it’s your turn? As your wedding approaches, what’s bothering you? What do you need to get off your chest? What is making you want to pull your hair out?

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Let’s hear it, hive!