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All my life I’ve heard the expression: “Better safe than sorry”—and I am a firm believer in it. I think preventing something negative is much better than having to deal with it. But when it came time to choose a ceremony location, I did not really follow that maxim.

After deciding that we would not go for a religious ceremony (we’re not churchgoing people or strong believers, so it felt hypocritical), we checked out civil-wedding options on Lake Garda.

Our favourite options were:

1. The outdoor terrace on the castle in the town of Malcesine
2. The lemon grove in the castle in the town of Torri del Benaco (closed on the sides but open above)

Malcesine images: 1.) via Melsinea Viaggi, 2.) via We Do Weddings, 3.) by Imag1ne
Torri del Benaco images: 1.) and 3.) via L’Amour en Rose, 2.) via Viaggi Scoop

I loved them both but, as my mom preferred Malcesine, I picked the terrace. We booked the date and that was that.

But…I started having doubts. I started getting really anxious about that decision and constantly questioned it. Major doubts were:

• Accessibility to the terrace is poor, as it requires a five-minute walk on a cobblestone road up a hill.
• The reception location is 30 kilometers away—which is pretty far when you consider that it’s a highly touristy area on a Saturday.
• The indoor option in case of rain is not so nice and would still require that walk.
• On average in the last five years it’s rained 10 days out of 30 on the lake. Last year it was 13.

This is what was going through my head: cobblestones and rain and heels, oh my!

Image of Malcesine road via Trip Advisor, image of umbrellas via sk31k’s Flickr photostream, image of bridesmaids by Maggie Lambert via Trek Earth

It took me a long time to admit it, but I’m simply not the type that can trust in things aligning her way because I will them to (like having good weather on my wedding day). I’m the type that hopes for the best but prepares for the worst.

So, in agreement with Mr. Caro, I cancelled the reservation in Malcesine and decided to look for a ceremony location that would work just as well, even in case of rain.

Did you let your anxiety about things out of your control influence your wedding decisions?