Compromise: A Couple’s Best Friend!

Compromise: A Couple’s Best Friend!

April 14th, 2011 @ 5:43 pm by Mrs. Seal
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Mr. Seal and I are a great duo. I know I am seriously biased, but I mean it. Most of our arguments are about the same things (I’m messy, he’s stubborn), but we understand the key to a successful relationship: compromise!

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I will share my wisdom with you:

1. The one thing I despise, more than anything else in the world, is laundry. Mr. Seal, because he loves me that much, almost always does our laundry. In return, I regularly provide him with breakfast in bed. See how that works?

2. When we decided to make my checking account into a joint one, we were faced with a problem. The bank lady informed us our debit cards had to have the same design. Seeing as how my debit card at the time was Hello Kitty themed, we were in desperate need of a compromise.

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Sealman’s suggestion? A double compromise! If we nixed Hello Kitty, he would voluntarily use a San Francisco Giants debit card (and continue sporting his Giants T-shirt and hat with me to games), so long as I made the Yankees my American League team and rooted for them alongside him on the couch.

Done!

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3. We watch Sports Center and the MLB network every night. Don’t get me wrong—we’ve established I love baseball, but I don’t need to hear detailed discussions about it every night during the off-season. But I do it anyway. Why? Because Mr. S watches Say Yes to the Dress and My Fair Wedding with me every week.

4. I let Mr. Seal tell me how hot Katy Perry is. You know why that is? Because she IS hot. The trade-off here is that I speak my mind in return. I can tell him that I think Alex Rodriguez has a cute butt without him getting jealous. Just because we are in a committed relationship with one another doesn’t mean good-looking people stop being good-looking—there is absolutely no love lost just because he notices that Eva Mendes is, in fact, gorgeous!

5. I drive everywhere. Growing up in New York he didn’t have to start driving until he moved to California in 2004. I’ve been driving since I was 15 and truly don’t mind the task. I do know that, even if I hated playing chauffeur, I would still do it because the pay-off is so unimaginably amazing. He massages my hands or feet (my choice!) until I fall asleep. No lie. I will never understand how I got so lucky.

All right, before I further disgust you with our cuteness, I will end it here.

What kind of compromises do you make with your boo? Do you think this strengthens your relationship?

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23 Responses to “Compromise: A Couple’s Best Friend!”

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Miss Hyena (message) 1,882 posts, Buzzing bee

Our biggest one, whoever cooks doesn’t have to do the dishes! I hate dishes, but he enjoys them, and luckily I enjoy cooking!

4/14/11 @ 5:49 pm (reply)

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Lizziemom (message) 42 posts, Newbee

You’ve got the right attitude Miss Seal! Compromise is one key to a successful relationship! I was always the deferred to driver because I had a sales job and drove 60,000 plus miles a year - it was second nature to me. Plus I’ll be honest, I preferred it!

4/14/11 @ 5:50 pm (reply)

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Miss Ostrich (message) 1,948 posts, Buzzing bee

*HIGH FIVE* Me and Mr. O also watch MLB network EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. I participate in fantasy baseball and football leagues with Mr. O because it’s something we get to do together….and he watched So You Think You Can Dance with me every week! Compromising is FUN!

4/14/11 @ 5:55 pm (reply)

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Miss Magic (message) 628 posts, Busy bee

Vomit. Just kidding! I love your compromises!!! Might have to think about something that warrants more hand massages!

4/14/11 @ 6:02 pm (reply)

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My boyfriend and I totally do the hot people thing! He tells me when he thinks someone is hot, I tell him when I think someone is hot. Just because someone is very good-looking doesn’t mean that either of us wants to go cheat on the other with that person! We are very secure in our relationship and love each other very much, and we have no problem giving credit where credit is due
As an added bonus, he thinks one of my girl crushes, Natalie Portman, is gorgeous! And she is! We go on about her together

4/14/11 @ 6:07 pm (reply)

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Margaritachka (message) 196 posts, Blushing bee

Fi watches stocks EVERY.SINGLE.MORNING. and talks business nonstop. In return, he turns on KTLA News for me when he showers, and will put up with my Gossip Girl and other girl shows of that sort

4/14/11 @ 6:11 pm (reply)

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xtatic1 (message) 778 posts, Busy bee

I need to find a way to get more massages! Score on your part! We do compromise on household chores though, I do laundry and he mows the lawn. And I grocery shop (alone usually, he costs me more $ when he comes). I usually clean but I enjoy that most of the time. Oh and Katy Perry is HOT, I told my FH she would be my celebrity GF if I played for the other team

4/14/11 @ 6:27 pm (reply)

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mpine (message) 31 posts, Newbee

hahaha… I let my guy talk about Katy Perry as well.. but some of our friends think it’s weird that i don’t care when he does… whatev- I have celeb crushes too.

4/14/11 @ 7:51 pm (reply)

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Miss Snow Cone (message) 1,026 posts, Bumble bee

I let Mr. Snow Cone talk my ear off about gears and nuclear energy and pumps and whatnot so that I can blather on about breastfeeding and weddings. I like to think our completely opposite interests make us tick

4/14/11 @ 8:15 pm (reply)

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Crown (message) 534 posts, Busy bee

Compromise is indeed a hallmark of every healthy relationship. Mr. Crown thinks I’m as funny and intelligent as Tina Fey, Reba McIntyre and Sandra Bullock, and Mr. C is a strong, sensitive man much like James Spader, Nate Berkus and Colin Firth. There are no insecurities…in fact, my man happily accompanied me to NYC so that I could meet James Spader in person…and even took a few great photos of us. He’s a real sport. And I would gladly return the favor for him.

4/14/11 @ 8:48 pm (reply)

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Miss Pony (message) 4,175 posts, Honey bee

You guys are so great compromising! I should really be better at compromising, but I really like getting my way and Mr. Pony is usually too easy going to say no to what I want.

4/14/11 @ 9:17 pm (reply)

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MissCasey (message) 214 posts, Helper bee

I threatened my guy with the Hello Kitty debit card to go along with our wedding checking account! :o)

4/14/11 @ 9:18 pm (reply)

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Miss Tartlet (message) 3,207 posts, Sugar bee

OMG - I totally laughed out loud when I read the part about the Hello Kitty debit card! You are a riot!

You and Mr. Seal have such a great and healthy dynamic! Compromises definitely strengthen our relationship and keep us both content. I don’t have to scoop the kitty litter, and Mr. Tartlet doesn’t have to do the laundry.

4/14/11 @ 9:25 pm (reply)

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Miss Candy Apple (message) 1,465 posts, Bumble bee

This is definitely a thing we’re still working on balancing in the CA household

4/14/11 @ 9:29 pm (reply)

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Miss Pain au Chocolat (message) 1,698 posts, Bumble bee

Giggling at the Hello Kitty card. Compromising on the little things is good practice for big stuff. Sounds like you guys are in sync!

4/14/11 @ 10:08 pm (reply)

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Miss Seal (message) 1,179 posts, Bumble bee

@Miss Hyena: I am SO with you on the dishes thing. Yuck! I pretty much despise anything that has to do with cleaning—I’m such a bum! Thank goodness for supportive SOs!

@Lizziemom: Thank ya, lady! It’s nice to hear from another designated driver

@Miss Ostrich: You are my hero, O! Fantasy baseball AND football?! You go, lady. You’re so right though—compromising makes the world a better place, fo sho.

@Miss Magic: YES. Definitely figure out ways to finagle some hand massages—they are amazing and I’m convinced there’s no better way to fall asleep.

@tf: Natalie Portman is totally my actress crush too! She’s so adorable and smart. I want to keep her in my back pocket!

@Margaritachka: Seeee…that’s the perfect example! Stocks sound super boring, but the local news and GG sound amaaazing. Nice compromise

@xtatic1: I LOLed at your grocery shopping comment—Mr. Seal totally costs us more when he comes along. He’s like an adult-kid sneaking mass amounts of t-bone steaks and beef jerky into the cart! (I suppose I need to compromise and cook with more red meat, teehee.)

4/14/11 @ 10:42 pm (reply)

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Miss Seal (message) 1,179 posts, Bumble bee

@mpine: Psh. I dunno why they would think it’s weird! If it’s not weird for you guys then who cares! As long as you guys are confident in your relationship (which it def sounds like you are), then that’s all that matters.

@Miss Snow Cone: Awwe, you Snow Cones make me smile! You little smarty pants with your amazingly intelligent interests!!!

@Crown: You guys sound absolutely amazing! I love hearing about all of you super confident couples—to me, it’s really such an indicator of a healthy relationship. Also…James Spader!? AWESOME!

@Miss Pony: Hehe, there’s nothing wrong with gettin’ spoiled, Pony!

@MissCasey: Lol! Can you imagine how awesome it would have been to see your dude bust out that Hello Kitty card to buy stuff?!

@Miss Tartlet: Very nice compromise! I think I’d personally opt for poop scoopin’ duties—that’s how much I hate laundry! I’m crazy.

@Miss Candy Apple: Practice makes perfect, CA! I bet you guys unconsciously already make tons of compromises.

@Miss Pain au Chocolat: Thanks, PaC! We do what we can

4/14/11 @ 10:52 pm (reply)

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