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When I read wedding blogs, it sometimes seems like Mr. Hyena and I are the only engaged couple who isn’t living together prior to the wedding.
We had the opportunity: right after we got engaged, we purchased a house. We talked about moving in together, since it would only have been about a year before we would be married. Both sets of parents were on board, but for some reason it didn’t feel like the right order of things for us. So we passed. I maintained my current residence with my kitty-boo, while he moved into the house and got a roommate for the school year.
Personal photo, text added by moi
This arrangement works out fine for us. Sure, it’d be nice to not have to drive back and forth to see each other. Sure, it’d be nice to have the DVR at my house. And sure, I would really like to be able to go ahead and decorate our house the way I want. Of course I’m already slowly moving things in. (”Honey, I’m helping you by moving all my books in now. That means you won’t have to lift so many heavy boxes later!”) But for the most part, I’m enjoying the last months of having my own space.
Some of my favorite things about having my own space:
On the other hand, I will also be glad for the moving-in-together phase when it comes after the wedding. I’ve heard it is difficult to make all these transitions simultaneously, but I guess that’s a challenge we’ll face as it comes.
Anyone else not living with your fiancé before the wedding? What is your favorite thing about living on your own? Any advice on how to make all these transitions easier?
We aren’t living together until 2 weeks before! I like it, it feels like my last chance to do my own thing! Although, the logistics are starting to get on my nerves…..good thing we only have a couple months to go!
We did not live together prior to the wedding, and I liked the simultaneous transition. It was definitely a change, but it was nice to have ‘our’ place, not just ‘his place’ or ‘my place’.
While I love living together, I miss two things. One, being able to watch MY stupid television shows whenever I want. Sure, he lets me indulge in the occasional reality show while he’s around, but he’s not a fan. We’ve compromised, and it works well enough, but I still miss having complete control over the TV.
Another thing I miss is cereal for dinner. I had cereal for dinner often in college, and now that we’ve been eating ‘adult’ meals, I miss it. I know we could eat different things, but right now, as newly weds, I like eating homemade meals together. We’ll see how long that lasts. 
And feel free to decorate as girly as you’d like!
We don’t live together yet either. I’m excited but also a little sad that I won’t have any more girl roommates to be silly/girly with and watch trashy reality tv!
We’re not living together. I’m currently finishing my last semester in College Station and then I’ll be moving to Galveston where he is
We’re in a similar situation. We recently bought a house and he’s moving in now, but I’ll wait until after the wedding. At times it feels like we’re the only ones not living together before the wedding, but it was the right decision for us.
We didn’t live together before we were married - well until 1 month before. I really enjoyed having my own space that was all mine - no roommates. It was a good time for me. It was a pain driving back and forth but it was worth it in the end.
can’t make girly stuff any more?! i have glittery crafts and a painted-pink hallway that say otherwise.
i also continue to be as clean/messy as i want and to spend my money however i want. hahaha…best live-in fiance ever.
My fiance and I do not live together either and we never have. We believe that you should be married when you live together. But I am very excited about moving in together. I know we will get on each others nerves at times. Besides the wedding, that is what I’m the most excited about afterwords is living together. It will be an adventure. And I’m sure I’ll miss my quiet time, but it will be worth it.
While I have my own apartment, FH calls his apartment “ours”. I’ll be moving in there then as I’m in university housing but I’m slowly making it mine. Helps that while his mom now has excellent taste in furniture- and that she changes it our frequently and gives him the hand-me-downs. There is a distinctly feminine touch to the apartment, including the WWII homefront posters and the front bookshelf being full of MY anthropology books.
My situation is a twist on living together: We both decided to go to grad school at the time and to manage, we moved in with his parents. Separated bedrooms though. It’s been a challenge, but worth it, and we will have our own place just before the wedding. Same bedroom.
@Miss Prairie Dog: Heh, i was going to say, I’ve definitely girlified our place.
Zeb and I moved in together 5 days before he proposed. It took a lot of adjusting but now that we’re married nothing feels different. I sometimes wonder if it would feel different if we had waited to move in together. Not that feeling different is any better or any worse, it’s just something I wonder about. Will you promise to update me once you’re all settled after the wedding? :0)
My fiance and I dont live together either. We actually dont even live in the same City…but we do live in the same state. I am in law school in one city and he is working in another. I am excited about living with him after marriage but I am also a little apprehensive. Since I moved out of my parent’s home, I have always lived alone. Never even had a roommate. So I guess it will be really hard to adjust to having someone else in my space but Im sure we will be just fine.
My FH and I don’t live together either, and we aren’t going to until after the wedding. I’m only slightly nervous about the transition, but I’m far more excited to finally get to share a home with him. I would hate to live with him first, get married and come home and feel like nothing’s changed! Moving in together afterwards is part of what makes the transition to marriage so exciting! 
@Rebecca: We didn’t believe in living together before marriage as well. Also, we waited for marriage to be intimate, so it all went hand in hand. I moved into our condo first, but he was there in the evenings making dinner and helping get things moved in.
I absolutely cherished my last moments alone. Not that I don’t enjoy him there with me now, but there’s just something about not having to consider someone else in all the silly stupid decisions you make everyday. Now that we are married and living together, it’s a whooole new world 
But we have mutual understanding that we are adjusting, so it’s more fun than frustrating. Hopefully it stays that way! haha
We don’t live together either. We also bought (built) a house right after we got engaged and FI lives there now. We decorated it together (okay, I decorated most of it) but it doesn’t feel like home when I go over there. I can’t wait to move in..I feel like I’m missing out on adjusting to everything new!
We didnt live together either. I miss my stupid TV too. I also miss be able to decorate my way and eat whatever. I think my eating habits were better when it was just me.
We’re not living together. It’s hard because his brothers both lived with their significant others, so have told us we are “rushing” because we aren’t living together. Also they don’t understand why we wanted a “short” (to them!) engagement of 8 months because we really wanted to be married and then live together, and we’d like the rest of our lives to start as soon as possible, as Harry says. I’m planning on getting an apartment big enough for both of us the month before the wedding and then he’ll move in after the wedding. It’s also saving my mom from killing me.
We’re not living together until after the wedding, as well!
We aren’t living together, but we wish we were. We still might be able to next year sometime, after I’m graduated, but we’ll see. *crosses fingers*
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Mrs. Hyena, College Station, TX Age and Occupation: 23, Marketing Specialist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, Aerospace Engineering Grad Student Engagement Date: January 8, 2010 Wedding Date: May 2011 Venue: Downtown 202 About Me: I'm a Texas girl who met my future hubby in high school, then headed up to Oklahoma for a college education (BOOMER SOONER!) before moving back to the Lone Star State to be with him. I love reading and recycling, Photoshop and reality TV, making lame jokes and then laughing at them, quoting movies, and Mr. Hyena most of all. I'm perpetually early and I like to get things accomplished. When my cat meows at me, I meow back. We're planning a laid-back, unintentionally DIY wedding with a cocktail-party vibe, and can't wait to celebrate our nuptials with our nearest and dearest!
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