Do We Really Need Those?

Like a dutiful bride-to-be, after getting engaged, I immediately began researching what I needed to do and by when. I looked at a whole bunch of checklists and timelines from a couple different sources, eager to make sure that I wasn’t falling behind in the wedding-planning mayhem. Most of the items were straightforward, and I had no problem tackling them right away. Get a church? Sure. Book a reception spot? No problem. Pick your bridal party? Got it. However, one item kind of gave me pause, since I’m not fully convinced it’s a necessary step in wedding planning.


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That item? Save the dates. For those of you who don’t scour wedding blogs like it’s your friggin’ job, save the dates are little cards sent out approximately six months before your wedding date. You send these cards to anyone who is invited to the wedding, giving guests a heads-up of exactly which date they should keep free on their calendars (in case you couldn’t figure THAT one out) and helping out-of-town guests get a head start on booking any travel or lodging accommodations they may need for the wedding.

Sure, sure, they sound practical and nice and all that jazz. However, here’s my dilemma. Pretty much all of our out-of-town guests (now called OOTers) know we’re getting married and where and when it’s happening. Most OOTers are college friends or relatives who are pretty in-the-loop with wedding stuff. Do I really need to shell out the time, money, and energy to create these cards so people can see information on a piece of paper that they already have in their brains? And if they are a bit hazy on the details, is it fair game to just email them and sort it out on a case-by-case basis? Maybe I’m a stick in the mud, or maybe I’m lazy, but a decent-sized part of me sees STDs (hee hee, I have the maturity of a five-year-old) as unnecessary time-suckers and money-wasters.

Buuuuuut on the other hand, I’ve recently discovered that STDs can be really cute and surprisingly not that expensive. If you go with a popular printing site such as Snapfish or VistaPrint, they are quick to make, too, since you pretty much pick a format, fill in the blanks, and *BOOM*—STDs!


Image via Wedding Paper Divas / Photo by Photorange Photography


Image via Style Me Pretty / Photo by Kristin Vining


Image via Brooklyn Bride / Photo by Bright Fizz Photo

Maybe I’m getting sucked in by the wedding industry; while I still don’t think STDs are necessary in our case, I think they could be super fun and a cute little wedding project for me. What do you think? Should I let my clearer head prevail and scrap the whole STD phenomenon, or should I join the masses of other brides who fall victim to the excitement of kicking off wedding festivities many, many months in advance?


Mrs. Snow Cone

Pittsburgh/Johnstown, PA
Wedding Date:
August 2011
The Honeymoon”“--Check!
IKEA = Love!


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    lady brett, Guest @ 10:12 pm

    so, i’m not going to dog save the date cards because i am an avid fan of both anything in print on paper and of mail. they fit that bill, so i can see the draw.

    that said, another point against is that i have often heard from folks of an older generation (my mother, among others) that they seem presumptuous.

    we didn’t do them because, um, they were one more thing to do that didn’t get done and i wasn’t clear if we wanted. but i did contact some out-of-town friends and family otherwise to note the date in advance.

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    Ms. Anemone 624 posts, Busy bee @ 12:56 am

    We are for-sure doing them – I just love the whole idea.

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    yume1013 37 posts, Newbee @ 2:08 pm

    You can always create one and then send it as an email attachment :) We created one since our wedding date is in the summer and on a Friday. We wanted to make sure that people would actually make it :)

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    gazelle 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:56 pm

    Since so many of our guests have to travel to our wedding I did send save the dates out. It was also a great way to get the word out about our wedding website (i.e. where to stay, where we are registered at, things to do, fun pictures). It was also a great way to use engagement photos! We didn’t spend a ton of money on ours. Less than $40 including postage thanks to an awesome deal through Vistaprint.

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    snowcone 1141 posts, Bumble bee @ 10:27 pm

    @angeebride: I’d be lying if I said my thought process on STDs in general wasn’t swayed by the bees :)

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    droidlizzie 60 posts, Worker bee @ 11:43 pm

    I did them and people thought it was the invite >.<‘

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    MegHow 22 posts, Newbee @ 4:53 pm

    I didn’t do them mainly b/c I think they would have been a waste of money in our case. (But I think they can be so stinkin’ cute!) Everyone, for the most part, that will be invited to our wedding knew when it was right when we set the date….so why spend extra money on the STD’s and postage????

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    anna4041 247 posts, Helper bee @ 3:56 pm

    I can’t justify these either. Only if it is friends parents who have to book places to stay. But I do love the idea of using our engagement pics…I just had a great idea of sending them out as our Christmas cards, even if it is 9 months before the wedding.

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    RedSergeSpouse, Guest @ 8:32 pm

    Nope! We’re STD free!! ….AND no save the dates either. XD

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