Splitting Hairs

I’m experiencing a bit of hair indecision. (Confession time! I haven’t had a hair trial yet. I booked my hairstylist without meeting her!) Don’t worry—I will have a hair trial, eventually. But because I haven’t tried any of the hairstyles below, I’m not sure which is best for my gown, hair flower, and personal style. So, I’m looking to you ladies for recommendations and advice! You can weigh in at the end of the post.


Image via 100 Layer Cake / Photo by Eric Lundgren

Detailed, interwoven updos

Pros: Texture (!); lots of visual interest; matches rosette details on my gown

Cons: Seemingly time intensive; would lose some structure as the night goes on; where to put hair flower?


Image via Style Me Pretty / Photo by Jeffrey & Julia Woods





Above four images by Bliss Wedding Studio via Style Me Pretty

Loose updos

Pros: Softer, romantic look; beauty is in the imperfection; will look good as the night wears on and the bun loosens

Cons: No set spot for hair flower


Image via Julie Morgan Hair & Makeup / Hair by Julie Morgan Hair and Makeup


Image via Style Me Pretty / Photo by Traci Dennis & Kellie Finch of Anne Marie Photography / Hair by Lucie Marie


Image via Brides Magazine / Original source: Anna Maier Ulla-Maija Fall runway show / Photo by Kyle Ericksen

Tighter, knotted buns

Pros: obvious spots for hair flower; simpler style

Cons: If the bun falls apart, the whole style goes with it; bun size may compete with similarly sized hair flower



Images via Style Me Pretty / Photographer: KT Merry / Hair: Alesha Oak


Image via Style Me Pretty / Photo by Leila Brewster Photography/ / Hair by La La Luxe Salon


Image via The Knot / Photo by Grey Zisser



Both images via Martha Stewart Weddings

(Mr. PaC: Skedaddle! Gown pic ahead!)

Here’s another look at my gown:

Image via The Ringer Bearer / Gown: Melissa Sweet Wallis (Priscilla of Boston)

Hive, which way would you go with my gown and hair flower?

Option 1: Detailed, interwoven updos

Option 2: Loose updos

Option 3: Tighter, knotted buns


Mrs. Pain au Chocolat

Wilmington, DE
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June 2011
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    B, Guest @ 8:18 am

    I love the tighter knotted buns if you’re wearing a hair flower! You can even go a little looser around the sides while still keeping it structured in the back. :)

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    lox 1465 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:26 am

    First of all, I think you can put a hair flower in any of those dos! Having said that, I am crushing on the loose updos.

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    PinkMagnolia 3442 posts, Sugar bee @ 8:33 am

    I like the looser updo.

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    candy apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 8:33 am

    I love those Bliss Wedding images – the interwoven dos. But I also like the looser updos. Beautiful, PAC!

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    hesmywatermelon 251 posts, Helper bee @ 8:34 am

    I think that blonde one nar the end is to die for!

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    mrsbowieii 704 posts, Busy bee @ 8:46 am

    I say if you are set on a hair flower that the tight updo is the best…

    Although my favorite is the loose updo because it has a more romantic look to me…

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    pinkdiamonddolly 17 posts, Newbee @ 8:50 am

    Miss PAC, I LOVE your dress, I think option 1 would look fantastic, you have to remember that all of those curls are going to be secured individually, of the 3 styles that one will be the most secure. There are so many places for that flower in that do, but my favorite would be right side behind your ear. Any hairstylist with a clue will be able to style your hair in a way that will hold the whole time, no fears they have mad skills (I would also invest in a can of Freeze it hairspray) Seriously girly, you will SHINE!!!

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    Cotton 354 posts, Helper bee @ 9:02 am

    I think you could definitely add the hair flower to any of those hairstyles. I love the loose updo.

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    ktisthatbees 1686 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:24 am

    Loose updo all the way!

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    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:26 am

    I like the looser updo – I think it’s more romantic. Put the flower wherever it looks right!

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    kayely88 263 posts, Helper bee @ 9:27 am

    I love the loose updo! And I definitely think you can put a hair flower in any of those.

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    Cee-Bee 62 posts, Worker bee @ 9:31 am

    I love the loose updos. The soft romantic look is definitely what I’m going for, and I intend to throw a hair flower in there… or a headband, haven’t quite made a decision yet.

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    snowcone 1141 posts, Bumble bee @ 9:45 am

    I would do the first style… I’m guessing it’s not as time-intensive as it looks, and a good stylist should be able to make it so that the structural integrity lasts the entire day. Plus, you can nuzzle in a hair flower pretty much wherever you choose!

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    tartlet 3227 posts, Sugar bee @ 10:02 am

    I have a feeling I’m going to be in the minority, but I love the look of the tighter, knotted bun with your flower and dress. Because your dress is so romantic and has those lovely rosettes, in my head a knotted bun would play off of that so well! Whatever you decide, you’re going to look beeaauuuutiful!

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    pookiepie 317 posts, Helper bee @ 10:14 am

    your dress is beautiful! I like the loose hair updo, it’s more romantic and for the reception, you can probably let your hair down :)

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 10:18 am

    I think the loose updo would look so beautiful with your dress and looks so romantic.

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    johnhj20 39 posts, Newbee @ 10:37 am

    I am in LOVE with the loose updo’s (specificially the first one). I believe it is very soft and romantic! A flower can easily be placed and if you have a great hairstylist, they will ASSURE you that your hair will be good for the whole night! :)

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    Courtnee 153 posts, Blushing bee @ 11:11 am

    I’m a mixed bride–love the look of the loose updo but want it to be secure like the tight bun. So what I am doing is buying a hair piece to make my bun look more full, soft and romantic but it will still be secure like the tight bun

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    dreamocracy 1570 posts, Bumble bee @ 11:49 am

    Loose updos! You can put the hair flower in the same spots as those shown in the tighter buns.

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    Kcoleybear 683 posts, Busy bee @ 1:22 pm

    Okay I am not going to be much help because I love them all, but if wearing a hair flower I personally love the look of a tighter knotted, bun off to one side. Oh and btw, I am totally bookmarking this post and taking to my hair trial. I am sure my hairstylist is going to hate me, because I honestly have no idea what I want.

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    elephant 6339 posts, Bee Keeper @ 2:10 pm

    I really like the loose up do photos!

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    Fortune Cookie 29 posts, Newbee @ 4:00 pm

    I had a “loose” updo for my wedding and my stylist sprayed the shite out of my hair and it didn’t move. I danced like crazy and it didn’t fall. If you really want the texture, go with the loose one and seriously, they’ll shellac it to your head and then secure it with millions of bobby pins.

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    oatmealpie 155 posts, Blushing bee @ 4:13 pm

    Loose updo! Your stylist will find the perfect way to place your hair flower.

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    gazelle 1019 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:27 pm

    They are all so pretty! I think ultimately pick a couple of your favourites and talk with your stylist about what will work well with your hair type and with what you want to put in your hair.

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    msseal 1179 posts, Bumble bee @ 8:53 pm

    I love the loose updo. I think it would compliment your dress beautifully AND I really actually think a flower would settle in nicely!

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    hurricanejessi 26 posts, Newbee @ 12:30 am

    Eek! That first photo is by my photographer!! :-)

    As for your hair, I agree with @Miss Gazelle and your stylist will have the best insight on what’s best.

    Personally, I’m always drawn to the loose updos :-)

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