Take My Sweater: Dinner

After Mr. Cardigan and I made our way to our seats with our bridal party, it was time to eat! I was looking forward to having some time to sit surrounded by all the people I love most and just relax and talk with everyone. The day had been so hectic and emotionally-charged up until that point, and it was wonderful to have some time to unwind and enjoy ourselves!

Mr. Cardigan’s grandfather started us off with a word of prayer”¦


And then dinner began! As you can see in the above photo, our day-of-coordinator was absolutely wonderful and made sure to set a few plates of the hours d’oeuvres at our table so we could enjoy them. And oh, did we ever enjoy them. YUM!


We sat and chatted with our friends for just a few minutes, and then the food started coming. Now, I feel totally cliche saying this because I’ve heard it a million times from other brides (and I never thought it would happen to me) but I just could. not. eat. anything. I had been extra careful not to eat much throughout the day, because I really wanted to be hungry for dinner, but I was so excited and had so many emotions surging through me that my stomach refused to cooperate. I think I had maybe 5 bites of dinner, total, which was disappointing because it was WONDERFUL!

I didn’t talk about the food at all before the wedding, because we didn’t have a tasting (crazy, I know, but that’s just how it worked out), but the food completely exceeded our expectations. We started off with a Caesar salad”¦


And then we had lasagna and Tuscan chicken with Alfredo pasta bundles for the main course ”“ and yes, every guest got both of the main entrees instead of having to choose just one!


Just looking at that gorgeous food is making me hungry. Why, oh why, didn’t I eat more of it?!

While everyone was eating (and I was trying to convince myself that I was hungry”¦and failing), there was a lot of love, laughter and talking going on throughout the room. We got hugs from family members”¦


And in-between courses, Mr. Cardigan and I made the rounds to say hello to all of our guests.



My nieces enjoyed their chicken strips!

Once the entrees had been served, I noticed that some specific guests were getting a bit antsy”¦



The kids completely swarmed the cupcake table and started circling it like they were preparing their plan of attack. Luckily, I was sitting just a couple of feet in front of the cupcakes, so none of our guests (kids included) swiped any of the cupcakes before it was time. We let the kids drool over the cupcakes for a few minutes, then I let them know that it was time to sit back down because we had one more thing to take care of before we could cut the cake ”“ the toasts!

But, there’s one thing I feel I should mention before we get to that portion of the night.

We had a lot of no-show guests.

Like, an entire table’s worth, plus a few more. I’d say we had about 10 guests just not show up at all.

Was I upset? A little. Did I let it get to met? Absolutely not. We had a couple of guests that had been seated at a table where no one else showed up, and I didn’t want them to sit alone, so I quickly talked to the DOC and had her shuffle a few people around, and just like that the problem was solved.

And, instead of having a completely empty table in the middle of our dining room, the vendors ended up taking that table so they didn’t have to eat separately from everyone else ”“ I loved that they got to join in on the fun in the dining room, because I got close to most of them throughout the wedding planning process, so having them there with us felt very natural.

Plus, it helped that I didn’t have to stare at an empty table all night long.

We still haven’t heard an apology or explanation from the no-show guests, and we doubt we will. I’m still a tiny bit bitter about it, but in the end we had all of the people that truly matter to us, and we were so blissed out on our wedding day that we barely even noticed that anyone was missing.

We just spent our time focused on each other and the people who were there to support us ”“ and it all worked out in the end.


Did you have any no-show guests? How did you handle it?

(All photos by She-N-He Photography)


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Mrs. Cardigan

Wedding Date:
January 2011
Fly Me to the Moon (And Back)
Starting to Plan: The At-Home Reception
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    jedeve 1079 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:37 pm

    Man, I definitely ate! I was starving. But then the DJ asked if we were going to go around to people’s tables so we had to go do that and didn’t get a chance for seconds.

    We had some no-shows too. It didn’t really bother me, but it is a little odd!

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    SophiaPetrillo 359 posts, Helper bee @ 2:38 pm

    Cardigan, I love your recaps! You had such a beautiful day! The food does look delicious, but I was the same way on my day…I just couldn’t eat more than a few bites.

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    lisaelanna 530 posts, Busy bee @ 2:39 pm

    One of my good friends had HALF of the people who’d RSVP-ed not show up for her wedding. She said they were eating leftover cake for a month. She doesn’t seem particularly upset about it, but I think I would be devastated if that many people just opted not to come to my wedding.

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    amariem25 3753 posts, Honey bee @ 2:43 pm

    We did not have any no-shows, and that made me very happy.

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    highwire 1021 posts, Bumble bee @ 2:47 pm

    That is tasty looking food!!

    I love that you absolutely did not let it get to you about the no-shows. I can’t say I would have been able to hold it together that well.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 2:49 pm

    It sounds like you handled the no-show guest situation very well, but that’s a bummer that they never offered you an explanation.

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    KCheer 370 posts, Helper bee @ 2:53 pm

    I also couldn’t eat on my wedding day! It was like my body could only process so many things at once and hunger was just not one of them!

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    candy apple 1877 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:56 pm

    Ha, that penultimate pic is awesome. Love it!

    That sucks about the no-shows :( I’m sorry you’re upset about it, but at least the vendors were able to fill the table so it didn’t look all empty and sad.

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    corgitales 11391 posts, Sugar Beekeeper @ 2:59 pm

    We had a few no-shows. Two were dates of invited guests, which annoyed me but not so much that I really spent much time thinking about it or will hold it against them in the future (at least the invited guests attended).

    The one that really bothered me was a friend of mine from law school. I invited her and she didn’t RSVP. I had to track her down and then she said she couldn’t decide if she was coming alone or bringing someone. She FINALLY let me know she was coming alone (at least a week after the deadline) and then no-showed and never called, texted, emailed, nada. I haven’t heard a word from her since and its been 2.5 months. Just yesterday actually i unfriended her on facebook. I figure she made it pretty clear she doesn’t value or friendship so I’m kind of over it/her.

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    vintagemodernbride 437 posts, Helper bee @ 3:10 pm

    i’m sorry you had no shows. it’s sad when people don’t consider your time or money when it comes to weddings. knowing that you’re paying for food and cake is important and everyone should be kind enough to rsvp and come or not come if they said so (unless it’s an emergency).

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    culby cheese 193 posts, Blushing bee @ 3:14 pm

    I’m glad you didn’t let it get you down! Eff them. :)

    My uncle’s stepson rsvp’d for two the Monday before the wedding (three weeks late) and then didn’t bother to show up that Saturday. I’m actually glad he didn’t show up, because I hadn’t wanted to invite him anyway, but there his dumb name is at the top of my seating chart. Whatev.

    Hopefully you get some plausible explanations, and if not, you know where you rate to those people. I’d take it as you are hereby allowed to ignore any forthcoming invitations/grab for gifts from them. So there.

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    elephant 6339 posts, Bee Keeper @ 3:19 pm

    We had about 8 no shows. I didn’t notice that night except when we were making the rounds. After the wedding I was a little ticked about the waste of money, but since there was nothing we could do about it I just let it go.

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    KMA, Guest @ 3:25 pm

    My whole attitude going into the wedding was that if people no-showed, I wanted a “good reason/explanation” or I may not be friends with them anymore. I’m willing to forgive if you had an emergency or were super sick or something but if you just don’t show, that’s really nasty. We only had 1 couple no-show though and found out later that the husband was in the hospital, so they were forgiven… plus they gave us a nice gift (not that they had to but it was still considerate). But yeah, I’d want an explanation. Esp. since you spend so much on people, the least they could do is tell you why they weren’t there – but yeah, they would not be a priority anymore to me if they can’t make you a priority on your wedding day…

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    Kcoleybear 683 posts, Busy bee @ 3:26 pm

    I love the photo of the kids desperately waiting for the cupcake. I am sorry about the no-shows. Why would people do that?

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    snowcone 1141 posts, Bumble bee @ 3:27 pm

    I would have been circling the cupcake table too :)

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    meerkat 3257 posts, Sugar bee @ 3:40 pm

    Everything looked delicious! And I am sorry you had no show guests. Now they can see all the awesomeness that they missed!

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    xtatic1 783 posts, Busy bee @ 3:42 pm

    Your food pics are making me so hungry! I am worried about no shows too…I mean, do people not realize that you still have to pay for them? Rude.

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    TheFutureMcBride 4485 posts, Honey bee @ 3:45 pm

    Sorry about the no-shows who gave no reason. Know that Bee love filled all empty seats.

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    MrsKitchenQueen 438 posts, Helper bee @ 4:05 pm

    Everything looked gorgeous and delicious! That is unfortunate about the no shows…my first reaction would be annoyed, and then I would switch to woryring that something had happened. I think if I were in that position, I might call them (post honeymoond) and say “I just wanted to check in to make sure everything was OK. We missed having you at the reception and I just wanted to check in to say hi.” We’ll see…when it is our wedding in a few weeks, I may feel differently.

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    ostrich 2402 posts, Buzzing bee @ 4:07 pm

    yum! the food looks like heaven and everyone looks like they’re having so. much. fun. the no shows missed out!
    i love the idea of incorporating the vendors into your guest tables. so thoughtful. :)

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    mssocks 1336 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:16 pm

    We had no-show guests too, Cardy. Your dinner was still beautiful and wonderful though and no one even noticed as they dug in to dinner!

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    a m., Guest @ 4:19 pm

    Totally don’t understand not showing up for wedding to which you RSVPed. But it looks amazing. All of that pasta would be my dream meal as a guest at a wedding!

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    AT, Guest @ 4:29 pm

    It is not just a waste of money!!! There are Many many people I cannot invite because we are at capacity. If there are no shows, or guest no-shows, I will be disappointed. Will I let it spoil my day–no. Will I be rude–no. But I will definitely notice… People have no idea what weddings cost or how much work goes into them or that their invitation may have meant sacrificing an invitation to another… What can you do?

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    Crabbabs 1030 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:03 pm

    My boyfriend has a friend that is notorious for not showing up to things. In fact, I used to joke that he didn’t exist because of the countless times he said he was coming to things and never showed up.

    We attended a mutual friend’s wedding last year. This guy was invited and RSVP’d but missed the ceremony. After a few texts from friends that were also at the wedding, he texted back and still said he was still coming, just late. He never showed up. He said he just got tired and decided not to go.

    Needless to say, I don’t want to invite him to our wedding.

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    earrings 2611 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:09 pm

    Those kids eyeing up the cupcakes crack me up. And those no-shows definitely missed out! We had some no shows too…and some people who left super early. I was peeved at first, but there were so many other people there enjoying themselves that it didnt matter so much in the end.

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    tartlet 3227 posts, Sugar bee @ 5:36 pm

    The no shows missed out on an amazing time–I’m sorry that happened, but you definitely handled it with grace!

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    knitting 1072 posts, Bumble bee @ 6:28 pm

    That’s crazy. I can’t believe that many people didn’t show up. I’m so glad you didn’t let that get to you!

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    miss.qwerty 206 posts, Helper bee @ 8:04 pm

    Way to be calm and classy about the no-show situation.
    Also, I can’t get over how gorgeous your dress is, or how happy you and Mr. Cardy look in your pictures.

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    ferriswheel 356 posts, Helper bee @ 8:25 pm

    That first picture of the two of you is just precious. It also reminded me just how much I adore your gorgeous headband I’m considering something like that for myself.

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    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:25 am

    The food looks sooo good!

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    ExtraCool Person 22 posts, Newbee @ 10:30 am

    i fear the no-shows.
    we have to give your venue our seating charts & final payments 1 week before the wedding, and considering we have to pay by the head; i would be pretty peved if no-shows had a stinky excuse.

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    eeper 129 posts, Blushing bee @ 10:52 am

    I am loving your recaps!

    I really truly thought we couldn’t possibly have any no-shows. Well I was wrong, though none of them were from my side. 7 people did not come, and we both were annoyed when we realized it, but we were able to brush it off on our wedding night. Had we known ahead of time, we could have saved over $1,000. UGH. So frustrating!

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    msbuttons 5014 posts, Bee Keeper @ 5:41 pm

    Yum – the food looks delish!

    So smart of you and your DOC to rearrange the guests who were alone/let the vendors use the empty table. I definitely understand why you’d be upset!

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    Just married!, Guest @ 1:07 am

    We had over a table and a half of no shows! Not only did I feel absolutely terrible about some of the guests sitting on their own in a corner, but I was a little upset about the thought that we paid for all of those empty seats! Like you though, I just kept in mind that all the people who really counted, those who love and care about us were there! I didn’t eat more then a couple of bites the day of either!

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