Weddingbee Blog

Recently, one of my amazingly beautiful friends, Miss O, announced she is engaged! I couldn’t be happier for her and her wonderful future husband, and I cannot wait to support her in any way possible throughout her wedding-planning journey. The only issue? Miss O and her fiance are getting married six days after our wedding.

When I first got her save the date, it didn’t register with me that our weddings are so close together. I was too busy jumping up and down exclaiming how excited I was for their wedding to even focus on what was written on the card. After I calmed myself down, I realized that our weddings are going to be super close together, and scheduling and other issues are bound to arise.

First, I selfishly worried whether Miss O would be able to come to our wedding. I love Miss O and her fiance, and I would be very disappointed if they were not able to come.

For a brief moment, I entertained the possibility that Miss O chose this date knowing and hoping that we would not be able go to their wedding. About 30 seconds later I realized that this was a ridiculous, narcissistic thought and got over myself because, really?…really? I knew better.

As reality set in, I realized that Mr. Pony and I originally planned to leave on our honeymoon immediately following the wedding festivities. If we leave immediately after the wedding, there would be no way we could get back in time for Miss O’s wedding. Which would make me a sad panda.

Although Mr. Pony and I have not yet made a final decision about our honeymoon, we are considering postponing our honeymoon by a week or so in order to attend Miss O’s wedding. We will still have the romantic, magical sendoff we imagined, but it will just be a week later instead. We can spend our days packing for our honeymoon, relaxing as newlyweds, and enjoying the wedding of our very dear friends.

If I weren’t planning a wedding, well, this wouldn’t be an issue, but I also would not be nearly as understanding about the date Miss O and her fiance chose. Making wedding decisions sucks sometimes. You can’t please everyone with your choices, but it doesn’t matter. If there is one thing I’ve learned while planning our wedding, it’s that the only people that you have to please with your wedding choices are you and your partner. Realizing this, I could never judge Miss O’s decision.

Life is full of complications, marriage is full of compromise, and our wedding has made me appreciate how often these things can change our expectations.

I got to visit Miss O last weekend with another great friend. Sadly, we didn’t take any pictures because we were too busy talking weddings, drinking margaritas, and laughing at ourselves to bust out a camera, so you’ll have to settle for this old picture of the three of us:

I love these girls! And George Foreman! {Pony (old) personal photo}

I can’t wait to have the best year celebrating again, and again, and again with these ladies this year!

Did your wedding planning change your views on anything?