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Mrs. Sparkler, Chicago Age and Occupation: 27, Communications Aficionado Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Publisher Engagement Date: July 21, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Chicago Illuminating Company About Me: I’m a Southern lady living in the big city of Chicago. Well, lady may be a stretch, but I’m working hard to keep some Virginia charm in our sleek, urban, wedding-palooza! I’m addicted to marathons, not-so-famous bands, Chicago restaurants, and Mark Twain. I cry during SPCA commercials, and I think LOST was the best show to ever hit television. Mr. S and I met at a classy college mixer and, 7 years later, he’s still by my side. He’s the only child, laid back, free spirit... I’m the oldest of five kids, type-A, organizer. It doesn’t work on paper, but we’ve never paid attention to that stuff anyway. Somehow it works. And like they say, sometimes when you know…you just know.
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Awwww, Freak Out

May 25th, 2011 @ 6:28 pm by Mrs. Sparkler

Why does it seem like whenever I cross something off our “To-Do” list, 10 other things pop up in its place? Why can’t I seem to accomplish anything during the week? Why are there so many decisions to be made? Why can’t Sparks pick a suit?* Why?

WHYYYY???

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If you couldn’t tell, that was me… freaking out. And it seems to be happening a lot lately. In place of wedding nightmares, I’ve been having full on, daytime freak outs. It’s lots of fun, let me tell you.

Here’s what I think the problem is:

Sparks and I are at the point in our planning where we’ve made a lot of decisions and we’ve written a lot of checks (eek), but we still haven’t really seen the end result. Yes, we’ve TALKED about the flowers and seen the separate stems… but we won’t see a sample arrangement until June. We’ve TALKED about the exact food we’ll serve and the specialty cocktails we want, but our menu tasting isn’t until July. All I have are crippling thoughts of “What if it isn’t right??? What if they didn’t understand my vision??? Will there be time to fix it???”

Sigh. It’s all very, “hurry up and wait.”

I’m also feeling a little bummed because I’m making most of the big decisions on my own. My mom, sisters, and best friends are all on the East Coast. And it turns out that planning a big wedding in a big city, all by yourself, isn’t really that fun. Don’t get me wrong… I’m still enjoying the planning process A LOT! I just get a little down when I can’t drag my sister to a meeting or try on shoes with my bridesmaids.

Is anyone else stuck here in the planning process? Am I the only one who has “daytime nightmares”?

*Oh yeah, that’s right. Sparks STILL hasn’t picked a suit for the wedding! I’m calling him out in hopes of giving him a little kick in the butt.

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19 Responses to “Awwww, Freak Out”

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kristin

Urgh, we are totally at that point now. Our wedding is in October, and I thought getting all the “big” stuff done, I’d feel so relieved at this point. Definitely not. I feel like I should be doing things, but not sure what, so I just second…third….fourth….guess EVERYTHING!!!!

 
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xtatic1
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xtatic1 (message)  778 posts, Busy bee

don’t freak out, I am getting married in September too and feel like we are at the same planning stage. My FH hasn’t had a tux appointment and I haven’t even talked about my flower vision yet. Our tasting is in July and we don’t have our wedding bands yet either. And when I look at the food expenses as each RSVP rolls in it makes me cringe. All the money just keeps going out but in the end it will be a gorgeous day with people we love no matter if every project was finished or not…but the mister BETTER be in a suit! That is one to-do that has to get done! ;)

 
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Erin

All will be right in the end. My wedding is beginning of August and my guy still has no suit either! I’m not particularly worried though… although maybe I should be.

 
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mittens111211
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mittens111211 (message)  1,749 posts, Bumble bee

Same boat! I still have one major thing to do which is dress shopping. I knew that I was going to do this later (rather than sooner) in the process. So I’ve been getting small things out of the way so that - just in case - there is dress drama I can focus on that and not have to worry about other things.

But with three weeks until dress shopping and some things out of the way, I’m twitteling my thumbs second guessing everything and wondering if I’m missing anything.

 
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Miss Pony (message)  4,174 posts, Honey bee

We have a lot of major things that still need to get done, so I feel ya. This is why I make lots of lists with easy and fun things on it just so I can feel accomplished. It will get better Sparkler!

 
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PeppyRed

Being recently engaged I am in the planning process…my mother is already driving me crazy. We have a very limited budget, which is stressful enough, but then when she calls me at 7:30am asking if my venue includes tables, chairs, and linens - when I haven’t officially got the placed booked yet! She surprised me at lunch Monday with a garter - I have been engaged less than a month! She is definitely going to test my patience all the up to April!

 
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Miss Bunting (message)  458 posts, Helper bee

We’re finally at the point where we’ve been able to see some concrete results from every aspect, yet they’re all still so isolated from each other. I continue to find myself worrying that it won’t all come together smoothly, but that won’t change until I actually see it all together, haha.

Stay strong! You’re at an awkward planning stage but you’ll soon start seeing things go from vision to physically-in-front-of-you-reality, and when that happens it’s a breath of fresh air!

 
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lisamarieloves (message)  446 posts, Helper bee

Hey Sparks! You still have a few months. Take a deep breath and prioritize! Everything will be great!

 
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Miss High Wire (message)  754 posts, Busy bee

I feel ya Sparks!! We’re definitely in the hurry up and wait phase. I hate it!

 
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kimbee23
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kimbee23 (message)  191 posts, Blushing bee

I’m totally in the same boat! All of the big stuff is booked, and getting into the smaller stuff just seems to make more stuff pop up! All of my wedding party and fam live elsewhere, so I’ve been doing it all on my own. Which I don’t really mind since I’m a control freak :P just wish I had more time!!!

 
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MCC919
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MCC919 (message)  506 posts, Busy bee

If it makes you feel better…. my husband got his suit 2 weeks before the wedding! I stopped stressing and let him worry about it!

 
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oct15
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oct15 (message)  9 posts, Newbee

for a second there i thought i was reading my own blog .. but then i was like, wait a minute, i’ve never written a blog! i have major, what you call “daytime nightmares.” it usually starts by the time i wake up until around 10′ish when all the stores are closed and i’ve exhaused all wedding websites.

i live in a big city too (toronto area) while my WHOLE family and best friends are back at home which is like over 3 hrs away. i feel like i’m all alone in the whole planning process. my fiancee, bless his heart, is trying but i know it’s all on me. ikeep giving out deposits left and right and the funds are depleting by the second.

my therapy used to be putting off the wedding planning to another day but then things start to build up. so now i have to do little by little everyday. it’s mentally and even physically exhausting. getting married in a courthouse and having a small dinner in a restaurant sounds good right about now.

 
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NYCcaliBRIDE
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NYCcaliBRIDE (message)  344 posts, Helper bee

I’m still 11 months away and I’m already freaking out… There is no hope that it’s going to get better is there? I feel for you because I’m on the east coast away from family, MOH, bridesmaids, planning my California wedding. Sometimes I just want someone to come over and sit with me and let me talk their ear off about ideas… Unfortunately my FI isn’t the right candidate for the job…

 
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NYCcaliBRIDE
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NYCcaliBRIDE (message)  344 posts, Helper bee

I’m still 11 months away and I’m already freaking out… There is no hope that it’s going to get better is there? I feel for you because I’m on the east coast away from family, MOH, bridesmaids, planning my California wedding. Sometimes I just want someone to come over and sit with me and let me talk their ear off about ideas… Unfortunately my FI isn’t the right candidate for the job…

 
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NYCcaliBRIDE
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NYCcaliBRIDE (message)  344 posts, Helper bee

Blah double post

 
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Miss Snow Cone (message)  1,026 posts, Bumble bee

I totally feel you on this… and the best part is that, overnight, you switch from hurry up and wait to OMFG HURRY UP AND HURRY. (at least I did!)

 
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mrsbowieii
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mrsbowieii (message)  692 posts, Busy bee

I have been freaking out for a while because my FI is the over-analyzing type so everything is a drawn out process. I understand how you feel completely.

 
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Mrs. Meerkat
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Mrs. Meerkat (message)  3,216 posts, Sugar bee

I remember the whole hurry up and wait thing. It was awful! I spent those days mostly blogging. ;)

 
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Jenlon (message)  287 posts, Helper bee

That’s exactly where we are right now! Florist booked, caterer booked, dress is in, etc… but everything is waiting until JULY! At least I have grad school to distract me a little bit

 

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Mrs. Sparkler, Chicago Age and Occupation: 27, Communications Aficionado Fiance's Age and Occupation: 26, Publisher Engagement Date: July 21, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Chicago Illuminating Company About Me: I’m a Southern lady living in the big city of Chicago. Well, lady may be a stretch, but I’m working hard to keep some Virginia charm in our sleek, urban, wedding-palooza! I’m addicted to marathons, not-so-famous bands, Chicago restaurants, and Mark Twain. I cry during SPCA commercials, and I think LOST was the best show to ever hit television. Mr. S and I met at a classy college mixer and, 7 years later, he’s still by my side. He’s the only child, laid back, free spirit... I’m the oldest of five kids, type-A, organizer. It doesn’t work on paper, but we’ve never paid attention to that stuff anyway. Somehow it works. And like they say, sometimes when you know…you just know.

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