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I haven’t touched on this too much, but Mr. High Wire and I are not from the same religion. For some families, this can become a hot-button issue, especially when planning a wedding. What type of ceremony will you have? Who will be officiating? Will the marriage be religiously recognized? These are weighty, emotionally charged questions that can turn an otherwise pleasant planning experience into a nightmare, with lots of hurt feelings and devastated relatives.
My grandmother has been our next-door neighbor for the past two years, and it has been wonderful to be close to her and learn some of the vast wisdom that she’s acquired over the last 86 years. She has also been the matriarchal anchor for our family for my whole life.
Picture taken by BM Rivae
This wedding would not be happening without her, and she has generously contributed toward making the day exactly what we want.
She moved into a retirement community last month. I went to her place next door to us one weekend for the last time, and we sat down to talk for a little while.
It was one of the first times the subject of our differing religions had even been brought up in conversation. (Both of our families are very accepting of our differences.) But what she had to say was so warm and loving, you wouldn’t have even known this causes some families such a deep disturbance.
She told me that what religion Mr. High Wire and I choose to honor in our home and raise our children in is our business and our decision alone. If I wanted to talk it over with her, I was always more than welcome, but she would never ask. After spending time with his family and seeing us together over the last three-and-a-half years, she knew that there was so much love between all of us that it didn’t matter the choice we made. We would obviously come to an agreement that worked for us. She knew we would always love each other and our children would always feel like they had a place in the world.
Having her as my grandma is something I will always cherish. Calling myself lucky would be an understatement.
Your grandmother sounds like a wonderful person. My fiance and I are from different religions, while some in my family have their doubts, they have kept them to themselves. However, my father is not happy about this difference but his mother, my grandmother, fully supports my fiance and I. You and I are both blessed to have such wonderful grandmothers!
Your grandmother sounds like a lovely woman! She reminds me of how my grandmother always seems to know the exactly right thing to say. You are so blessed to have someone like that in your life…though I’m sure you already knew that 
Your grandmother sounds like a great person, so loving, accepting, and honest!
I think it is so wonderful that you have a great relationship with your grandmother.
On a fashion-related note, where did you get the dress you are wearing in that picture? It is fab and you look fantastic! I have been scouring the web for dresses like that.
what an awesome lady - so few individuals have hearts of gold and accepting mindsets like that! You truly are one lucky bride, HW!
Oh lucky lucky lucky! My Grandma didn’t go to my cousin’s recent wedding because it wasn’t Catholic- and therefore not a “real” wedding in her mind. My own mother will not come to my wedding if it isn`t Catholic (and also will not contribute financially) even thought my fiance is not Catholic. They are all okay with him not being the same religion… but only so long as we have the wedding in a Catholic church and raise the kids Catholic. Its been the hardest part of the wedding plans by far and I`m surprised how vocal my aunts and uncles have been as well, including telling us that we are `bad role models` to younger family members since we live together now. I long so much to have a parent or grandparent who is understanding and on my side 
@Wendy: The designer is Kay Unger and I found it at Nordstrom Rack.
Here’s the closest one I could find for sale:
Hope that helps!
Oh Miss High Wire, please give your grandma a hug from all of us here. I wish she could discuss this topic with my grandma, who says its such a shame, is convinced we’re probably going to hell, but hopes we’ll ‘come around’. It won’t stop her being at the wedding though.
How lucky that you had that time next door to her. Enjoy every minute you have with her. Mine did not live to see me get married and I missed them so much. Your grandmother sounds like a wonderful person. The world could probably use more grandmas like her.
This is wonderful. My grandfather passed away last week and he had this same mentality. He taught us all to be independent thinkers and to approach differences with an open mind and heart.
Having a grandparent to teach us these lessons is invaluable. Cherish this relationship while you can!
Genuinely kind-hearted people like your grandmother are such rare treasures. I agree with Georgia Bee, the world could use more grandmas like her!
This is so sweet. We are also of two different religious backgrounds and this is the part I am dreading most about wedding planning. Hopefully our families will be as understanding and supportive as yours!
Your grandmother is a wonderful lady! Love this post!
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Mrs. High Wire, Dallas Age and Occupation: 23, Legal Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Director of Communications Engagement Date: October 9, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Clark Gardens About Me: My loves include yoga, anything spicy, our eccentric cat, our rambunctious dog, and Mr. High Wire, of course! Like the steadiness act of the tightrope walker, this gal is busy balancing life while planning a wedding to the man of her dreams. We’re hosting a laid-back, vintage-inspired, bird themed wedding with heavy doses of love, good eats (did someone say tacos and margaritas?), and endless Texas charm. Mr. High Wire and I are so happy to have you along for the walk across the tight rope.
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