Banding Together

Banding Together

June 9th, 2011 @ 2:41 pm by Mrs. High Wire
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We have now been engaged for over six months, and I still stare for inappropriately long amounts of time at my engagement ring.

Lately I’ve been daydreaming about the addition of the beautiful matching wedding band. Besides it being pretty (and shiny! and sparkly!), I am so excited to wear it because of what it represents.

I’ve had moments lately where I realize with sheer excitement that we really are getting married. I know I blog (and think) about it constantly, but there are random waves of super-high excitement. The comfort of knowing someone is out there that loves you and wants to be there for you for the rest of their life is powerful stuff, people!

Here is what I’ll be sporting (with my engagement ring, for reference):

Image via Ben Garelick Jewelry / Designed by Simon G

I’m already talking about my second ring, and my poor fiancé doesn’t even have one yet!

He has decided to go with a tungsten band that will look similar to what a large majority of our guy friends are sporting these days:

Photo by BM Rivae

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BM Lisa and GM Jerrad (Photo by Jerrad’s brother, Justin)

There’s been lots of talk lately about husbands who elect not to wear wedding bands. *cough* Prince William *cough* I believe that choice is a personal one to be decided by each individual couple.

A lot of the consensus, I’ve noticed, has revolved around the other men in the couple’s life. If a dad didn’t wear a ring, a lot of times a bride won’t be bothered if her husband decides not to wear one either.

My dad wears a wedding band—so surprise, surprise, I always imagined that my husband would wear one as well.

FFIL actually gave his wedding band to FMIL to wear after her wedding set was stolen (how sweet of him!).

I’m glad we are on the same page as far as wedding bands go. Growing up, it was always something I noticed in adult males and made the assumption that ring=married, no ring=single. It has been a learning experience for me to no longer make that kind of assumption, and giving up assumptions and judgments is always a good thing if you ask me!

What does your wedding band mean to you? Do you have any strong feelings toward grooms who wear (or don’t wear) wedding bands after the wedding?

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14 Responses to “Banding Together”

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Lone Star

My Dad doesn’t wear one, but my fiance is definitely going to have to wear one!

Also, it’s always nice to see Texas Ranger-related gear on Weddingbee Go Rangers!

6/9/11 @ 2:47 pm (reply)

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txbride115

My Dad didn’t wear a wedding ring, and I think that’s why it was so important that my future husband DOES wear a ring. While my parents have been happily married for over 30 years, I love everything associated with the reminder one gets when they look down and see the ring on their finger. I know that my fiance is really excited to wear his ring, so I guess it wasn’t much of an issue!

6/9/11 @ 3:10 pm (reply)

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Margarita

Apparently, when my parents were first married and in the soviet union they both had weddin bands. But they sold them before we immigrated and never got around ti replacing them. So I grew up w my parents not wearing weddin bands. My sisters however wears a set, but her husband, although he has one, ratley wears one bc of his job. My fi also grew up w a dad who doesn’t wear a band (Which is funny bc they’re in jewelery!!). But you can bet that my fi will for sure be wearing one!!!! Mainly bc like for you, wedding band = married! But who knows- maybe I won’t care years down the line….

6/9/11 @ 3:11 pm (reply)

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Miss Cinnamon Bun (message) 1,100 posts, Bumble bee

I keep getting giddier and giddier thinking about wearing my wedding band as the day gets closer!

6/9/11 @ 3:13 pm (reply)

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Miss Marmalade (message) 191 posts, Blushing bee

I love my bands and I can’t wait to wear them! I’m ambivalent to men wearing bands, especially since some claim they get hit on MORE often when they wear them!

6/9/11 @ 3:51 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Lox (message) 1,128 posts, Bumble bee

I believe it’s a choice for each individual couple and that everyone should do whatever floats their boat.

Mr. Lox didn’t wear a ring in his first marriage (she never got him one). But I was adamant that he wear one now. To me, it’s an outward symbol of our relationship and I want it on him. I joke and tell him I’d pee in little circles around him if I could. But the ring is the closest I can come to that.

6/9/11 @ 3:53 pm (reply)

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TheFutureMcBride (message) 4,479 posts, Honey bee

I didn’t think a ring would be a big deal, but seeing it on him is. Every day I see it and remember he’s my husband. My. Husband.

6/9/11 @ 4:07 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Elephant (message) 6,182 posts, Bee Keeper

My dad doesn’t wear one but Mr. E does!

6/9/11 @ 4:27 pm (reply)

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Miss Bunting (message) 458 posts, Helper bee

Daddy Bunting had to stop wearing his ring years ago because it was a hazard in his field of work at the time, and he got so used to not wearing it that his finger is still bare even now that safety isn’t an issue. It’s odd, it never bothered me (or my mother) growing up, but I do feel like the husband should wear a wedding band. I guess my dad is just an exception to my silly mentality.
@TheFutureMcBride: That just made me go ‘awwwwwwww’!

6/9/11 @ 4:28 pm (reply)

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lisamarieloves (message) 446 posts, Helper bee

I hope my guy wears a wedding band. He is so physically active during the day that i don’t know how it will work out. But I will encourage (yet not demand) it!!

6/9/11 @ 4:50 pm (reply)

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Mrs. Tartlet (message) 3,207 posts, Sugar bee

Beautiful ring set! I love seeing Mr. T with his wedding band on (he also went the tungsten route).

6/9/11 @ 5:14 pm (reply)

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eeper (message) 485 posts, Helper bee

Your rings are gorgeous! I am lucky - my husband likes wearing rings and only stopped wearing them a few years ago when he started feeling too old for them. He was excited to get a wedding band!

6/9/11 @ 5:23 pm (reply)

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Miss Pony (message) 4,171 posts, Honey bee

My dad never wore a ring and I never understood it (well, I understood that his hands got fatter and couldn’t wear the one he had, but I never understood why they didn’t get it resized or just buy a new one, but I digress), but I want Mr. Pony to wear one. I like the symbol of our marriage being displayed for the world (yes, cheesy, but true).

6/9/11 @ 10:00 pm (reply)

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Miss Snow Cone (message) 1,026 posts, Bumble bee

My dad wears a ring, and until a few months ago, I didn’t really realize it was “a thing” for guys to sometimes not wear them. Mr. SC’s wearing one, which makes me pleased as punch. I told him if he didn’t, I was having his sized down so I could wear it… I paid too much for it to be left on a shelf, unworn!

6/12/11 @ 8:26 pm (reply)