Weddingbee Blog

I swear we had it all worked out. The rules were simple. And there was only one rule. *Everyone* gets a +1, regardless of whether or not we’ve ever met the +1, no questions asked.

Here’s a (poor quality, obvs) image of the wrap-around labels for our save the dates, which were mailed last December. See you if you can catch my oversight.

{Does that look like it indicates “+1″ to you???}

{How about this one? Would you think you could bring a guest if you received this?}

When we were printing these labels, we clearly didn’t consider our rule. I don’t know what happened—maybe we thought the rule only applied to invitation labeling, or maybe we were just exhausted and wanted to finish these things and get them out. Whatever it was, I didn’t think about it at all until I was in Georgia over the holidays talking to one of my cousins who was trying to politely, and subtly, see if her boyfriend could come to the wedding. Of course he could come! That’s the rule! But how the hell would she possibly know that since we stupidly sent the save the date addressed only to her??

I mean, sure, when she gets the invitation it would have said “and guest” on the label. But the invitation won’t be mailed until about two months before the wedding, which is pretty last minute to plan a cross-country trip for two people that will require taking at least one day off work. Wasn’t that the point of the save the dates in the first place—to give people almost a year of notice, so they’d have plenty of time to plan and thus be more likely to come?! Now I’m stuck sending pitiful emails along the lines of, “By the way, you can totally bring someone to the wedding if you want to. But if not, or if you can’t come, that’s cool too. Whatevs.”

Moral of the story: Do as I say, not as I do. However you intend to label your invitations, DO THE SAME for your save the dates.

What “oversights” (or, as some would call them, mistakes) have you made in your process, and how did you fix them?