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I don’t really know how it happened, but our relationship is vastly different from what it used to be. Thinking back over the last (almost) four years to when we were college students, then new graduates, then knee deep into our job fields makes me realize how much has changed in such a short period of time. They don’t make it up when they say your 20s will be some of the most roller-coaster years of your life.

Mr. High Wire’s Graduation – December 2008

So what is so different now? We know we’re in it for the long haul. We’re not boyfriend and girlfriend anymore, at all. In some areas, sure, we may have gotten a little lazy knowing that we have our whole lives ahead of us. But in other ways, the more important ones, arguably, we have really bonded together and built a really strong, stable foundation to rely on. And we definitely lean on each other in times of stress, sorrow, happiness, and excitement.

We’re at a really wonderful stage where we’ve put in the time to develop something really great, but have this whole new chapter heading our way as a married couple. It is like we get a fresh start, but don’t have to worry about starting over. It is the best of both worlds. I know we will have some great years and some very difficult years ahead of us, and by no means am I saying our relationship is perfect, because it isn’t. But we do consciously work at it. And will continue to do so.

Puppy School Graduation – Summer 2010

The last few months have had quite a bit of unexpected small-scale upheavals. A broken-down car, a dog-related impasse with a neighbor, a huge increase in responsibility at my job, and unexpectedly putting an offer on a house and having that offer accepted. Oh, and we are also still planning a wedding!! It has been an absolute whirlwind.

But one thing hasn’t faltered in the slightest—us. Relying on each other for advice and opinions and having someone to vent to has been an irreplaceable source of comfort during these times. People fall in love and get married and all of that, but these events have really made me realize, “Oh, that’s what being married is like.”

Having a soon-to-be-husband in my corner fighting for my new transmission, and me listening to the apartment staff yell after a nasty neighbor complains about our dog are just the beginning of the types of things we are going to do for each other. We’re a united front.

Rome, Italy – November 2009

All photos are personal

Is anyone else having a tumultuous spring? How do you handle crazy times?