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Back when our wedding was just a glimmer in Mr CCandy’s and my eyes, we never envisioned our final month before the wedding to be so hectic, stressful, and downright heartbreaking. The past two weeks have been an emotional one for the Cotton Candy family. On Thursday June 2nd, Mr CC received a phone call from his step dad informing him that his mother had been complaining of severe pain and was taken to the ER but was stable. Since his step dad had assured him his mother was stable, Mr CC wasn’t too concerned when he took off for the hospital and declined my offer to tag along. About an hour later as I was on my way to work, I received a phone call from Mr CC: his mother had suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm and due to its location in her brain stem, she would most likely not survive.

The next few days were a blur of hospital waiting rooms, bad cafeteria food, and lots and lots of tears. On Saturday June 4th, Mr CC’s mom passed peacefully surrounded by those who loved her and was laid to rest this past weekend.

I have no words to describe the feeling of loss we are currently feeling. Mr CC’s mom was an incredible woman who was the matriarch of the family and held us all together with her wonderful hospitality and devotion to her family and friends.

Mr CC and his mom circa 1979

To describe what an amazing woman Mr CC’s mom was is currently beyond my ability, so for now I’ll quote Mr. CC’s beautifully written eulogy:

The story of Patricia cannot be told without going into the story of Daniel, my father, and my grandmother Mica (may they rest in peace). You can’t go far after that without starting to talk about my aunt and my cousins. If someone manages to leave them out, then I dare you to speak of her without bringing up my brother and little sis. And in the last 15 years, can anyone name a more inseparable couple than Patty and Fidel? I know I could go on with an example for nearly everyone here, and that’s my point: Mom was kind of like a great big beautiful tree. She didn’t just have good roots, she had branches that reached out far enough to touch us all.

Mr CC’s mom Patricia gave me the best gift possible: she gave me Mr CC, and along with him she gave me a future brother in law with her wonderful ability to tell it like it is without hurting my feelings and a future sister in law who, even at the age of 14, possesses the poise and maturity of someone twice her age. She accepted me into her family without prejudice and never once judged me for my actions, and for that I will always be thankful.

Patricia and Mr CC grandma on her wedding day

As for our wedding, we plan to move forward as planned. No doubt some people will judge us for celebrating our marriage a mere three weeks after her passing, but those who matter most (Mr. CC, his brother, sister, and step father) agree that she would not have wanted us to change our plans. It’ll definitely be a different celebration than we originally planned but we’re moving full steam ahead with the help of our friends and family.