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I’ve mentioned before that Mr. Cannon and I have wanted to get married for a long time now. I also mentioned that we were pretty set on getting married in 2011. What I haven’t mentioned yet is the reason—we want to have another baby sometime soon and want to get married before I get pregnant again.
How is this relevant to finding my bridesmaids? Timing! See, my maid of honor (AKA MOH Bombshell) is my sister. She’s four years younger than me and also planning her own wedding. She got engaged in July 2010 and is getting married in October 2012 (one of you long-engagement brides!). This is totally awesome. I love my sister and am so excited for her. I am going to be her matron of honor. I love her fiance and am so glad he is going to be a part of our family.
Bombshell and her fiance
But, in the world of brides, you can probably see that this is a bit of a sticky issue. In the time between my sister’s engagement and wedding, I got engaged and am getting married. Although we have a legitimate reason for doing it when we’re doing it, I have to admit that I sort of feel like a huge jerk. I feel like I’m stealing her thunder. And when you add that to my other guilt, I was feeling pretty weird about the whole thing. But I knew I wanted her to be my maid of honor, and I knew that I wanted to ask her in person, so I waited for the next good opportunity to pop up.
Bombshell and me when I wasn’t feeling like a guilt monster
Bombshell was in a play, so Mr. Cannon and I went to see it while my mom watched Cherry Bomb. Afterward, Mr. Cannon and I took her and her fiance out for drinks to celebrate her birthday, which had been the week before. While at the bar, we talked a lot about being kids and gossiped and all the usual sisterly things. After a couple of drinks, I threw my arm around her and very seriously said, “Bombshell, will you be by maid of honor?” She, of course, ridiculously over-exaggerated her excitement, acting as if she were going to cry and said yes. That was exactly the reaction I was going for, and it made me feel a bit better about things. After we got to wedding talk, she told me that she was glad that I was getting married first because she thought it would be fun to have a matron of honor instead of a maid of honor. Plus she was glad that I would have already done all the legwork of acquiring our family’s addresses for invites.
While I’m sure there are still a few awkward feelings in there (I know she wishes she could marry sooner, but has to wait until she finishes school for financial reasons), I feel much more comfortable with the situation. Now I just have to hope I get pregnant quickly after the wedding so I can give birth in the spring and be able to drink at her bachelorette party! Especially since I was pregnant with Cherry Bomb during Bombshell’s 21st birthday (which I flew her out to Vegas for). I don’t want to miss out twice!
Are any of your friends or relatives getting married near your wedding date? Is it causing any issues or is everybody as cool as Bombshell?
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Aw, well when you’ve got priorities you’ve got to do it how you’ve go to do it. So nice that Bombshell is happy and excited for you too! 
Sisterly love! Yay!
I think that possibility just comes with a longer engagement, nothing that should be upsetting. I had a friend get engaged and married between the time I got engaged and our wedding and it was great to be able to take part in a wedding and gain some tips for my own wedding
My one girlfriend and I got engaged within two weeks of one another and we are getting married within 2 months of one another. It has definitely made the process difficult because we can’t be as excited and involved in the others planning because we are doing everything at the same time but I will be standing up in her wedding and she will be standing in mine.
I think that’s a pop culture thing (like the bridezilla concept and “Bride Wars”), that people think the later-engaged girl somehow is “stealing thunder”, but it’s ridiculous - one of my best friends, and bridesmaids, got engaged very shortly after my now-fiance told her when he was going to propose (seriously, everyone in the world knew I was getting engaged before I did, did you guys know too??!) and she’s having a very VERY short engagement, so her wedding is about eight months before mine - we’re both in each other’s wedding and both couldn’t care less about the “order” we’re going in (we think it’s actually more fun, because we get to do all our planning together when we’re both excited about weddings) - but other girls I know casually, thought that I should have been mad she “stole my engagement year” - to which I say, WHHHHHAAAA? People. I do not need a whole year all to myself. it’s all just ridiculous. I say, the more weddings, the better! Congrats to you and your sister for rising above the silliness!
My sister got engaged after me and is having her wedding after mine. She was very excited about my wedding and helping with it, but since her engagement it’s all about hers all the time. But whatever. I’ll get over it.
We’ve got 5 other weddings happening within two months of ours and every single couple got engaged after we did. Sometimes the logistics are a nightmare, but we’re all so excited, it is just like a summer of love (or weddings).
My sister got engaged 10 days after I did and put her wedding 7 weeks ahead of mine. I’m trying hard to be the bigger person about it but it does bother me. We originally planned on getting married in September this year but moved the date to October after she decided to put her wedding in August. I feel like everything I do or want to do is getting compared to her wedding and I am trying to find ways to ensure our wedding is different from hers. Just as an FYI our engagement will only be 12 months long. I wish we had pushed our wedding further back just so I don’t have to live in the shadow of her wedding. Also the financial burden we are putting on our parents bothers me. They are contributing a significant amount of money to each wedding. Also, my cousin just got married this past weekend…that means our families have to attend 3 showers and 3 weddings in about a 4 month span. Sorry to be a Debbie Downer…I still can’t wait for our wedding day though.
You’re so sweet, Cannon! And yay for more Cannon babies! I suppose I am in your sister’s shoes. I got engaged in December ‘09 and started planning our November 2011 wedding. Big brother Seal got engaged in June 2010 and he approached me to ask how I’d feel if he got married first. I’m not going to lie, I was initially a tiny bit selfishly worried, but that faded almost instantly. I, of course, told him I didn’t mind one bit and was excited to have a wedding planning buddy. Anyhow, they ended up settling on a date in 2012 afterall…but it was nice that he, like you, was so considerate of his sister’s feelings 
Mr. Hyena’s sister is getting married in three weeks! Neither of us really cared that much about our “thunder” — I was just glad to have someone to talk details with!
My bro got engaged 9 months after FI and I did, and they will be getting married a little less than two months before us. At first when my bro told me when they were getting married, I was a little upset (thinking it would “steal our thunder”), but I quickly realized that was quite silly and does not bother me one bit! I am so excited to celebrate at his wedding shortly before ours!
So glad you two are excited for each other! That can be a tough situation for sure.
I’m so glad I’m not facing a similar situation, but it sounds like you two navigated it marvelously!
I got engaged in October 2010 and my sister got engaged in December 2010. Originally my fiance and I had planned to get married once I graduate college which will be in December of 2012. I got impatient so we set the date for July 2012. My sister is getting married this November. It’s fun to have someone to talk details with, but I also feel like it’s a huge financial burden for my family to take on. My parents are being fair and paying for similar things for both of us, but I keep trying to figure out DIY things to help cut the cost of my wedding. My mom told me that just because my sister is getting married close to me doesn’t mean that I have to skimp on my wedding, but I still feel that it’s necessary. Besides, I’m too addicted to wedding bee to stop looking at all the amazing DIY projects I could do!
my fiance and I will have been together for 5 1/2 years when we get married in August. His brother got engaged last year and married this March (they were together for 2 years at the time). His sister got engaged last November and is now getting married this weekend (they were together for a year when engaged).
While it has only been awkward on occasion, I will admit that I have had my bitter moments. Mostly b/c we took our time and didn’t rush anything. It has also been frustrating because a lot of his family members aren’t willing to make a trek down to our wedding (my home state), but have been going to the others…I don’t know. I was also pretty upset because I went and participated at both of their bridal showers and bachelorette parties, but they didn’t come to either of mine. Little things hurt…but just make sure she’s included and that you are totally supportive and involved for all of her moments!!!
forgot to say that I was engaged first of the bunch 2 year engagement here!
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Mrs. Cannon, Toledo, OH Age and Occupation: 27, Financial Analyst Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28, Assembler Engagement Date: February 28, 2011 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Epworth UMC & Ward Pavilion About Me: I'm the curious combination of being a go-with-the-flow, laid back, obsessive planner. I try desperately to stay as busy as possible at all times (and am succeeding big time right now!) My biggest loves in life are Law & Order: SVU, Community (the show, not the concept, although I like that, too), ice cream, white cheddar popcorn, beer, hiking, knitting, decorating, writing, being outside, spending time with friends and family and musical theater. Mr. Cannon is pretty sweet, too. We've had a lot of fun traveling and having adventures all over the country, but have finally moved back near our hometown to settle down. We're planning a low-key, colorful, fun wedding and an awesome-to-the-max reception.
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