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I would like to take a scheduled break from Pretzel Recaps for a little tutorial on how to deal with wedding crashers. Before our wedding I did have some fears about crashers. We had an unfortunate situation where a messy divorce caused us to not invite a couple people after they had already received save the dates (horrible I know…). I was afraid that the man in the relationship might show up and cause a scene (he has a history for being a loose cannon and can do and say some pretty outrageous things). Thankfully our awesome ushers promised to play double duty and serve as “bouncers” if this person showed up. I am happy to report that he stayed at home and didn’t cause a problem.
What about crashers that you don’t know? The random guy stumbling upon your reception and joining in the fun? How would you feel about that? Some bees have invited the crashers to join the party and had a blast. In my last post Mr P and I were curious about the Punk concert going on across the street from our venue so we went over and visited—I guess you could say that we “crashed.” Apparently some folks in the area were curious about our party too and came to check it out. Can you really blame them? Our band was rockin’!
Guest Photo
I heart my family. My uncles kept a vigilant eye out during the reception, when there were people walking around our cars in the parking lot they moved outside and kept an eye on things, and when Mr P and I snuck off with some mohawked character they concerned. So when the two guys pictured above showed up at the bar, they were concerned.
My uncles immediately pointed them out to me and asked if I knew them. I didn’t and I figured that I would rather handle the situation myself. I moseyed up to them as they were getting glasses of our AWESOME beer.
Mrs Pretzel: “Hiya! Are you having a good time?”
Crashers: “Oh yeah!”
Mrs Pretzel: extends hand and says playfully ”I’m the bride, who the fu©k are you?”
Crashers: “Umm.. yeah.. ummm…”
Mr Pretzel joins the conversation
Mrs Pretzel: “Yeah, you need to get the fu©k out.”
Mr Pretzel: “Well, they can at least stay and finish their beers.”
Mrs Pretzel glares at Mr Pretzel playing “good cop” and then has a great idea.
Mrs Pretzel: “OK, you can finish your beers but for payment you have to take some photos in our photo booth.”
Crashers: “Oh ok!”
Photo by Usnaps.com
Mrs Pretzel: No, you need to hold this sign.
Crashers read the sign, are none too pleased, but oblige.
Photo by Usnaps
Mrs Pretzel: K thanks bye!
Let’s be honest, the only reason that I decided they needed to go was that one guy had a messenger bag. Our gift table was a not in the main area of the reception and the card box was brimming with cards. The fact that he had a bag made me uncomfortable. I am glad that I handled it directly and with some humor. Sure I could have had the DOC or a member of the wedding party handle it but it was kinda fun to call these guys out. My suggestions:
Did you have crashers? What tips can you share with the hive for dealing with crashers?
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You were so calm. I would have flipped!! 
I can’t believe people actually do this…
Good tips! I would have been nervous with the gifts too - who cares about the beer they “stole”! Great handling Pretzel!
I love it! And now they’ve been exposed as crashers on the internet!
I love how you handled this! We didn’t have any crashers, but I probably would have done the same thing!
I love the way you handled this, P! Embarrassing for them, while giving ya’ll a good laugh.
I cannot believe you had wedding crashers!! I love how you handled it. What a cool, calm chick you are! Also, very sneaky - having them take photos in case the crashers were also thiefs!
You are hilarious! I love how you handled that! I honestly don’t know how I would react but like you my main concern would be gifts/cards. Our venue is sort of in the middle of nowhere so I hope we won’t have to deal with crashers.
Oh man, I can’t believe that happened! I love the way you handled it though.. hilarious!!
Our wedding will be inside a private building with a doorman, so thankfully I don’t think we’ll have to deal with any crashers at our wedding!!
Haha, I love that you made them take a pictured with that sign! Too funny! Way to stay calm!
That’s HILARIOUS!! So cool that you guys made them take pictures!!
Our wedding reception was at my parents house, 10 miles away from the nearest town, 1 mile away from the highway, and down a quarter mile driveway. So we didn’t worry about crashers.
On the other hand, our neighbor’s dog showed up and hung out for dinner. So I guess he crashed!
We did! That’s so funny, I totally forgot about our crashers until just now. Our reception venue doubles as a historic site during the day, and the couple in question (well dressed, probably mid 40s) must either have stayed late after the site closed or sneaked (snuck?) in a side entrance. I spotted them, complete with furtive looks and drinks in hand, as I was walking into the venue. I was all ready to hand them a nice, awkward “Hi there! Who are you!?” moment, but someone snagged me and they were gone by the time I looked around again. Oh well! I took it as a compliment on the party
You’re friggin’ awesome, P. Thankfully we didn’t have crashers at the reception since our room was tucked away from the rest of the hotel!
I’m worried we’ll have crashers at our wedding…Our venue is a fully functioning restaurant and our reception is on the 2nd floor so I’m certainly worried we’ll have people wander up to see what’s going on
I wasn’t worried until I saw this! It hadn’t occurred to me that people might crash our wedding, but since we’re having it partially outdoors at a public park (probably: not booked yet), it’s definitely a possibility.
I’m thinking I’m going to need to devise an elaborate-yet-easy-to-do-quickly revenge. Maybe something involving a dance with my sister, who’s certified on every firearm up to and including grenade launchers. (Thanks, Air Force! We really needed her armed and dangerous!)
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Mrs. Pretzel, Seattle Age and Occupation: 32 Learning, Training, and Development Specialist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 28 Manufacturing Engineer Engagement Date: September 2, 2009 Wedding Date: July 2010 Venue: Catholic Church & The Engine Room at Georgetown Studios About Me: I’m just a thirty-something girl who never dreamed of weddings, poofy dresses, or ritzy receptions. I am a rabid knitter, except recently, wedding projects have replaced my yarn and needles. I’ve been fiercely independent since the age of 2 and 30 years later I think my family and friends had given up on me settling down and getting married. Ironically, I had to go all the way to Seattle to find a boy from Purdue. We fell in love over Seattle Beers and cooking together. I love NASCAR, he loves Legos. I can talk like a Muppet and he can fit a whole McDonald’s cheeseburger in his mouth. We are a two reception couple, currently planning a brewery inspired bash.
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