Weddingbee Blog

Once we were engaged, we really didn’t talk too much about the wedding itself for probably about six months. Which, to be honest, is very impressive of me, considering I had been waiting almost six years for the wedding date to actually be set. It was probably because we were still living apart and I was so happy when I got to go home and visit him that I didn’t want to weigh the conversation down with wedding talk. It wasn’t until February 2011 while we were on vacation in Kentucky that we really started to talk about our vision for the wedding.

Mr. D and me in Kentucky in February 2011. This was during Mr. D’s shaggy-hair days while he was in between jobs.

I wanted something whimsical and colorful. I wanted our colors to be dark purple with touches of light pink and chartreuse. I wanted flowers everywhere with dragonflies and lace, and everything fun and girly. Mr. D shot that down right away. He said that he understood that the day was traditionally about the bride, but he just wouldn’t feel comfortable making his groomsmen wear purple or pink, nor would he be comfortable around all the frills. He wanted something clean and modern. No girly fonts or flowers dripping from here and there.

How are you supposed to combine these different style perspectives?

Mr. D’s idea of little color and clean lines:

Image via Lounge Appeal Event Furniture Rentals

My idea of color and fun:

Photo from Karen Tran Florals / Photo by Darin Fong

In order to keep us both happy, we were going to need to figure it out. So we started talking about what we absolutely would not budge on. As far as the palette went, I would not budge on the color of chartreuse. It’s my favorite color in the world. Mr. D would not budge on using “feminine” colors. So to compromise we decided on the following palette:

I ended up liking this palette more than the original I had always envisioned. Especially now as I am getting DIY stuff done and am seeing the colors working together. He also did not want a theme. He was fine with having colors to unite everything, but Mr. D, for the life of him, could not understand why we needed a theme to get married to. So no theme (though in my head I call it a CRAFTING EXTRAVAGANZA! theme).

Surprisingly, other than the colors there were few things that we were not willing to budge on. And even more surprisingly, there were a lot of things that we both wanted to see in our wedding. I’m sure you will see how we are blending our styles and visions as the projects start to roll out. I will say one thing: it will certainly be very interesting decor-wise.