Weddingbee Blog

First, I would like to thank you bees for your advice on our rehearsal dinner dilemma. The majority of your advice emphasized the importance of Mr. Cannon’s opinion and that I need to reduce my stress as we get closer to the wedding. Considering that advice, I made the decision to delegate. I told Mr. Cannon that he and his mother were officially in charge of the rehearsal dinner. I have complete faith in Mr. Cannon, and his mom is a tough lady, so I knew they would come through and they did. He says his mom got everything set up at Pizzapapalis, and I’m taking his word for it and am not worried at all.

Can I tell you how good that feels? Just making the decision that something is not my problem was such a relief. I have had such a hard time delegating wedding tasks for two reasons:

1. If I’m doing something, the only person who can screw it up is me, so I don’t have to worry about anyone else acting responsibly
2. I don’t want people to think I’m some Bridezilla slave driver forcing them to work on my wedding

Both of these reasons are absolutely ridiculous. I’m not the only responsible human being alive, and no one thinks I’m a Bridezilla. All my close friends and family have volunteered to help, so I’m hardly being a slave-driver. It’s time that I relax and let people help. Easier said than done, but I’m working on it.

Back to the point of this post:

I’m once again asking for your help, Hive.

This time, it’s something even more silly and pointless than last time—shoes! I am having a heck of a time finding shoes. Color-wise, I want either white or bright pink shoes. I want a heel, but not a huge platform. (I’m tall with giant boobs. When I get into major platforms I start looking like a drag queen.) Style-wise, I want a peep-toe, and would prefer not to wear strappy sandals. Cost-wise, I want them to cost less than $200, and preferably much less than $200. I don’t really like slingbacks. (I’m certainly not picky, right?) Since I’m wearing a short dress, my shoes will be visible the whole time, so I’d like something eye catching and fun. I kind of know what I want, but I just haven’t found THE shoes.

Seychelles I Do in white/ Via Zappos

These puppies are my front runners right now. They’re ugly-cute, and I kind of love them. I’m just worried they aren’t fancy enough for my wedding. I might get these to try on with my dress when it’s finished just to see how they look together.

Promiscuous Ryan in Fuchsia Glitter / Via Zappos

I actually think these ones are a bit too much and definitely pushing into drag queen territory, but I love the irony of wearing shoes called Promiscuous at our wedding.

Nine West Kailee in White Patent Leather / Via Zappos

I think these ones are so cool in the back, but it looks like the guy-who-was-designing-them’s pizza showed up when he got to the front and he was just like, “Uh, a rectangle or something. Whatever, I don’t care, I’m hungry.”

Steve Madden Haylow in Black Patent Leather / Via Zappos

I LOVE these. I’m obsessed with t-straps. If these came in white or hot pink, they would be my shoes. I actually think black shoes with a white dress look really cool (see Mrs. Mouse and Mrs. Stripes) but I feel like my dress just wouldn’t work quite right with black shoes and a bright pink crinoline. I think there would be too much competition to be the main attraction.

Pour La Victoire Cristella 2 in Fuchsia Satin / Via Zappos

I think these are awesome, but I think the platform might be too high in relation to the rest of the shoe. I love the bows on the back, though!

So I’m sure you’re looking at these and thinking, “I have no idea what you’re looking for, Miss Cannon. These are all over the place!” And yeah, it’s true. I’m just one of those “know it when I see it” people, and while I really like all of these for one reason or another, I just haven’t got the “those are IT” feeling yet.

So what do you think, Hive? I know my taste usually runs from ridiculous to hideous, but I know what I like. I just don’t like anything enough to wear it for my wedding yet. Any suggestions?