Weddingbee Blog

I know, I know…my post title isn’t original, but this song has been stuck in my head for the past few weeks, always while I’m super stressed. And then I think of GOB and his “illusions,” which causes me to laugh and stay sane.

via Joystiq.com

A lot has been happening and with one week to go with my planning, everything is now coming to a head. Plans are finalized, and my grandiose vision is slowly turning into reality. However, some stuff that I’ve previously blogged about just didn’t work out. Surprisingly enough, all of my DIY is coming together nicely despite my numerous rides on the DIY fail ship.

No, these issues happened due to my–albeit high–expectations. I’ll go through the list with you, and give you some solutions to help you all out who aren’t currently on the wire time wise.

Dilemma #1: Our cake.

The beautiful idea I had just didn’t work out. Our baker cannot recreate the lace work I desire. I was only able to pick from three bakers, and I chose the one that provided me with a cake made of edible products and didn’t give me indigestion. So, the cake will still look cool and taste great, it just isn’t what I originally envisioned.

Solution: Martha Stewart Weddings may not be the place to look at cakes, especially if you have limited bakers to choose from. Also, don’t just assume that if you could teach yourself to do something (i.e. I do know how to create elementary meshwork on cakes) that your baker can do something more extravagant.

Dilemma #2: Our beverage situation.

Mr. Biscuit had a big mis-communication with the food and beverage vendor at our venue. We only get one microbrew instead of three. So, we’ll have Great Lakes Commodore Perry, Sam Adams, Corona, Yuengling, and Bud Light served at the wedding (in addition to wine). I’m incredibly disappointed about this one, and to be honest, I probably would have just had liquor if I knew this would happen. Mr. Biscuit is still pretty firm on not wanting liquor—as are my parents—because he doesn’t drink it. I’m disappointed, even though I am ecstatic that one of my favorite beers (that just happens to be from the same city I spent four years in during undergrad) will be served.

Solution: Don’t trust your FI to properly relay messages. The end. And don’t care what other people think. We are providing more than enough alcohol for everyone and paying pretty much the same amount of money as a liquor, beer, and wine bar. If someone thinks we cheaped out, that’s their own problem.

Dilemma #3: Our ten day forecast.

Solution: Have your wedding indoors (woo hoo!). Oh, and make sure you give all of your relatives large metal poles to hold outside. Tell them that it is a very important tribal ritual in your SO’s family, and it is rude to question culture.

Dilemma #4: Keeping track of guests.

We’ve been having some problems with my rather large Excel spreadsheet. I haven’t been saving it as much as I should have, and some people have been getting deleted. Trouble ensues.

Solution: Save your damn spreadsheet. On a MacBook, you simply press Command S. Or File–>Save. I don’t think it could be easier. Sigh. Oh, and save all your RSVPs and double check everything. This is really not a realistic problem. I have never heard of anyone having any issues with this before. Probably because everyone is much smarter than I am.

Dilemma #5: Our honeymoon

We were supposed to do a whirlwind trip to Europe. It didn’t work out, because my parents talked to some of our family who are fairly high up in the military and suddenly equivocated traveling to Tuscany with taking a pleasure trip to the African Congo.

Solution: Don’t care about appeasing your parents. That’s the only one I could come up with on this one. We’re still doing something, and it will still be fun, but it won’t be Europe. And I’m not telling you all yet. It’s a surprise! We’ll let you know once we’re back (with a billion pictures, I promise!).

Dilemma #6: Having fewer than 250 guests, meaning I could have had my wedding at a different—read: more aesthetically pleasing room—at our venue.

Solution: Have a B list, instead of a billion people on your A list, and plan accordingly. I knew the droves of 85 year olds I was inviting wouldn’t be able to make it, but there was that thought in the back of my mind.

I’m also looking on the bright side. We’re still having around 230 guests, and we won’t be cramped in a smaller room. Also, our uplighting wouldn’t have been as dramatic with windows, since it doesn’t get dark until about an hour before our event ends.

So there you have it. The five plans I had that were dashed. Are they that important in the grand scheme of things? No way! Are they disappointing? Of course. I’m glad most of these issues occurred in the last few weeks, when I didn’t really have time to dwell on it. Going to school full time and trying to finalize wedding plans doesn’t leave much time to do anything else with my brain.

What were some of things that just didn’t work out for you during planning? How did you deal with your disappointment?