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Mr. High Wire sent me this link the other day. If you don’t feel like clicking over to read, or want to read it later, here is my (biased) review:
A bride e-mails the best man to provide guidelines and rules for her soon-to-be husband’s bachelor party. One rule is that the party may only be a one night/day event. She suggests he plans nothing out of town because she doesn’t want her fiancé traveling without her. She says it makes her sad when he gets to explore a new place and she doesn’t get to go. She proposes that instead of spending a bunch of money on a bachelor party, they buy the couple some Kate Spade dinner plates since they are her fiancé’s favorite (yeah, sure they are) and the couple feels guilty registering for something so expensive. She would rather her fiancé’s friends pick up the tab for the plates instead of their other guests.
Maybe these are the Kate Spade Plates he loves?
(from Bed, Bath, and Beyond)
I’ve seen/heard a lot of stories like this one, but this particular story is exceptionally gross.
Maybe I’m confused, but isn’t the host of the party the one who dictates the event details? Not someone who isn’t even invited to that event, right? I also think that her opinions needed to be expressed to her fiancé more clearly and leave the best man out of it. Also, what dude wants to spend his hard earned money on some Kate Spade plates instead of showing his good buddy a fun night out on the town? Very few guys, I’d gather to say.
I would be floored if Mr. High Wire sent an email to my MOH suggesting we only do certain things the night of my bachelorette party because he was jealous that he didn’t get to go do whatever activity we had planned. That’s odd. And immature.
What do you think of the article?
I think that could be the one last thing that makes your groom reconsider the wedding, haha. My FI just got back from his 4 day bachelor party in Tahoe where the spent a bit of money on beer, food and a beautiful house. The only “rules” I sent his best man was #1 no broken bones and #2 no scars above the neck.
I couldn’t even read the girl’s entire letter. It was driving me nuts. Sometimes I wonder what is wrong with some people.
Is it a joke?! haha.
My rules for Mr CAs Bach were 1) come home when it is over, 2) nothing in the back room, 3) no drugs.
The sad thing is, obviously there are some trust issues with the bride and her grooms! Hopefully they get it worked out. If that is indeed a real letter, that is 
That letter was ridiculous…the poor guy can’t even leave the city without her. RED FLAG!!!
Hmm. That’s weird that Johnny likes plates. The way I see it, is that the commitments in your relationship and future marriage should remain constant. If you have a strong relationship where you understand the expectations and needs and are willing to compromise if need be, then there shouldn’t be a problem with bachelor/bachelorette parties. If part of your commitment means no touching other women’s lady parts then the commitment should stand during your bachelor(ette) parties. However, it is kind of crazy to me that you would want your partner to commit to only exploring the world with you. I am going to Finland without my guy (sadly) for 6 weeks and I would be really sad if my partner didn’t support me in that adventure.
that is terrible!
I have to admit, I was jealous when my FI said he might go to Amsterdam for his bachelor party. I knew that my own bachelorette would be in-town (in Seattle). it seemed unfair that he’d get to travel overseas and have fun w/o me. however, if that’s what the boys planned, then let him do it! it’s his night!
That is actually the most horrible thing that I’ve ever heard of a bride-to-be doing. What could get worse than that, and what guy would have the ability to stand up and marry a woman like that afterwards? That would make me seriously push the wedding back a wedding, and then call it off.
I think that’s too much. I did ask my FI not to go to any strip clubs, but other than that, I didn’t care. She’s being WAY too controlling - it screams of insecurity to me.
WOW! That’s totally ridiculous. I would be forwarding all of those e-mails on to Johnny if I were that best man so he knows what kind of crazy he is marrying. This girl sounds like she has some serious dependence issues…. “wahhhhhh, he can’t be gone long or travel without me!” Poor guy.
Side note: My SO spends an unholy amount of time on reddit, daily.
I think it’s ridiculous, but I know someone who let his fiancee set the rules like that. She said he HAD to have the bach party at their house (she’d go over to a gf’s), no strippers, no leaving the house. Well, at least that gives him a LITTLE freedom right, with his own 4 walls? Wrong! She crashed it! She went home at 8pm with 2 girlfriends and then refused to leave! My fiancee called complaining, and asking to be picked up!
Control freak.
I hope that guy knows what he’s signing himself up for when/if he marries that girl. Ugh, I have never, and will never, understand clingy, controlling girls who have major trust issues. Poor guy.
Oh yes…please give the groom Kate Spade dishes instead of a shot because they’re his fav fav. Wow…my only instructions were, “Don’t kill him and don’t disease him.”
Haha WOW. That was amazing. The comments were pretty great, too. The mister’s groomsmen flew him into Baltimore, where his best man lives. Then they started driving and didn’t tell him where they were going. They ended up in Chicago. He was there 4 days. My rules were, “I don’t want to know what goes on.” Hell, I trust him. I just don’t need to hear about the innocent stuff that’s going to rub me the wrong way anyway. This girl’s a psycho.
Dude. I seriously hope this is a joke. Sparks leaves for his bachelor party this weekend, and I would NEVER think of doing something like this. Not in my wildest dreams. Who would WANT to do this to their future husband? What a crazaaaay lady.
For some reason, the thing that bothers me the most about that screed is that she never uses the word “wedding.” It’s an “event” or once a “ceremony/reception.” I already hate the phrase “special day” (um, it’s not your eighth birthday, it’s a WEDDING which is the one day that begins, you got it, a MARRIAGE) but this is a new low.
I am not setting out any rules for Mr. D. I trust him and I know he’s not going to do anything stupid or disappointing. Though I will admit, one reason I’m also not worried because his best man is a lawyer and one of his GM’s is a cop. I trust those guys to make good decisions 
I thought you were joking about the contents of the article. With that in mind… Wow. If you’re marrying the guy, then you ought to trust him. As an aside, I lurve those Larabee Dot plates!
@janie-janie: Even I’M jealous your FI went to Amsterdam for his bach!!! He owes you a trip
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Mrs. High Wire, Dallas Age and Occupation: 23, Legal Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, Director of Communications Engagement Date: October 9, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Clark Gardens About Me: My loves include yoga, anything spicy, our eccentric cat, our rambunctious dog, and Mr. High Wire, of course! Like the steadiness act of the tightrope walker, this gal is busy balancing life while planning a wedding to the man of her dreams. We’re hosting a laid-back, vintage-inspired, bird themed wedding with heavy doses of love, good eats (did someone say tacos and margaritas?), and endless Texas charm. Mr. High Wire and I are so happy to have you along for the walk across the tight rope.
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