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Mrs. Ladyfingers, Saint Petersburg, FL Age and Occupation: 30, Marketing Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Sports Writer Engagement Date: December 24, 2010 Wedding Date: November 2011 Venue: Palma Sola Botanical Park About Me: I hail from Oklahoma, he was born and raised in Long Island. Fate brought us together, and now we live in a cute little rental house with our nutty dog, and our aloof cat. We both love to read, watch movies, explore our town, and laugh like hyenas. When I’m not obsessively wedding crafting, I enjoy stalking style and decorating blogs, making collages and painting, napping, thrifting, rearranging our bookshelves, and being a total weirdo with my friends. Hi!
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He Has Our Cake and Eats His, Too :  wedding cake saint petersburg Lady1 lady1

I always wanted to surprise Mr. LF with a groom’s cake, but it stayed in the back of my mind for some time while I tried to sort out the logistics. The only wedding I’d been to with a groom’s cake was my cousin’s reception in Atlanta a few years back, but I thought perhaps there would be too much cake to do it the night of, what with our six-inch presentation cake and 84 cupcakes taking center stage.

Yes. I just said “too much cake.” Check my temperature, ’cause I must be coming down with something.

The groom’s cake is most well known as a Southern tradition, though its origins may date back as far as early Rome. Word has it that in the Victorian era, and later the 19th century South, bridesmaids would wrap the pieces of the groom’s cake and hand them out to unmarried female guests, who would then sleep with the slice under their pillow to help them dream about their future husband. And in 19th century England, the groom’s cake was made of heavy fruit soaked in liquor, being that it was before the invention of the modern icebox. This way, the bride and groom could enjoy a slice of the groom’s confection on their first anniversary without having to eat buttercream frosting that tasted like it had been sitting in a poorly ventilated British basement for 50 years.*

We’re not Southern (or Victorian, or living in 19th century England), but I still love the idea of gifting LF his own dessert. Plus, it gives me an excuse to have some fun with cake concepts and do something a little different that will surprise him and guests. Surprise desserts = always a good thing.

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Image via Jessica Otwell Photography / Cake by Angels Cake and Confections

After we booked our baker, I stuck “call her about a groom’s cake” on my to-do list—and kinda forgot about it until LF booked the rehearsal-dinner location and told me that they asked if we’d be bringing in a groom’s cake.

Of course! It makes so much more sense to do it at the rehearsal dinner. For one, that’s more traditionally the groom and his family’s turf, since the groom’s family tends to host, present toasts at, and foot the cost of that event (and in our case they actually are, kindly enough!). But more importantly, since there was no other dessert plan in place for the rehearsal dinner, it seemed like the perfect time to surprise LF with something that’s his. It will also allow us all to preview a bit of the tasty sweet goodness to come at the following evening.

So I contacted Lyndsy at Pastries by Design and explained my plan.

“He’s a huge Yankees fan, so I was thinking something having to do with that?”

“Yeah!” she started, immediately brainstorming (why I love her, reason 528). “We could do a baseball…or we could do like a 3D Yankees logo, the N and the Y?”

“The logo sounds good!” I said.

And then the money shot.

“Oh!” she said. “We could also do a little caricature of him hugging the logo. Do you have a picture of him you can send me?”

Oh, Lyndsy, it is so ON! I’ve seen their artsier work, and I’m super excited and confident they can make this pretty awesome. And it’ll be nice to have something a bit more dressed up (though humorously so) since our cupcakes at the reception will have a basic rough finish with not much adornment or decoration, aside from a few flowers here and there.

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Images via Pastries by Design / Also, now I want nachos.

Did you embrace the idea of a groom’s cake, or did he have to eat the same drek as everybody else? If you did/are doing one, what concept are you going with? Do you like nachos as much as I do?

*Name that scene.

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14 Responses to “He Has Our Cake and Eats His, Too”

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Miss Tattoo
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Miss Tattoo (message)  7,521 posts, Bee Keeper

We are not. It’s a cool idea, but probably a waste of food. Maybe I will get a cool cake for his birthday.

 
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mightywombat
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mightywombat (message)  3,311 posts, Sugar bee

We did a “groom’s pie,” since my husband doesn’t like cake that much. :)

 
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curlyk2006 (message)  15 posts, Newbee

That’s a great Seinfeld reference! The episode where Elaine eats the cake that Peterman bought at auction from the wedding of Prince Edward and Wallace Simpson. One of the best episodes, I think.

 
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PeacocksAndCandy
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PeacocksAndCandy (message)  158 posts, Blushing bee

I am doing a cake with a zombie coming out of the top of it and a tombstone that says “Rest In Piece Single Life” as my grooms cake. My fiancee and his friends are kind of obsessed with all things zombie. I am also going to see if i can have the venue set up his table like a cemetery. Dry ice, black tablecloth, the works. I am very excited! I think he’ll be so happy! I am happy to do something just for him since the wedding tends to be bridal-centric.

 
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Miss Pony (message)  4,171 posts, Honey bee

Those little people are so cute and will look perfect for the grooms cake! We’re definitely doing one (was never a question for Mr. P, being from the south), but I’m OK with it, ’cause I love me some cake.

 
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Miss Parasol (message)  2,132 posts, Buzzing bee

I can’t wait to see Mr. LF’s groom’s cake! It sounds awesome! I hadn’t thought of doing a groom’s cake for Mr. Parasol, and now I feel like I should!

 
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Miss Honey (message)  1,069 posts, Bumble bee

That MJ cake is amazing. We haven’t even discussed a grooms cake and Honey is from the South, guess I should put that on the list…

 
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Mrs. Elephant
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Mrs. Elephant (message)  6,182 posts, Bee Keeper

We did a groom’s cake and everyone loved it! That nacho cake is awesome!

 
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Mrs. Tartlet
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Mrs. Tartlet (message)  3,207 posts, Sugar bee

I love the tradition of a Groom’s cake, and in retrospect wish I had done something like this for the rehearsal dinner! Looking forward to seeing how his cake turns out. :)

 
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Miss Ladyfingers (message)  1,119 posts, Bumble bee

@mightywombat: Mmm… pie

@curlyk2006: I agree!

@PeacocksAndCandy: Haha I LOVE it!!!

 
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organicgal (message)  259 posts, Helper bee

ooo LF, great post!! I had ditched the idea thinking it was silly to have another cake at the reception - but i LOVE the idea of having one at the RD!! I think I need to put a call into our baker! you rock!! :)

 
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JessiTask
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JessiTask (message)  77 posts, Worker bee

I need to start brainstorming a groom’s cake idea…perhaps a keg of beer! I love the Yankees logo idea, can’t wait to see a pic!

 
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Miss Cucumber Sandwich (message)  569 posts, Busy bee

I can’t decide about the grooms cake. I was thinking about having one at our rehearsal dinner too but there is nothing he is so in love with that he would want it on a cake (except me of course). I don’t know although those nachos are making me seriously hungry!

 
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DaniSue13
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DaniSue13 (message)  130 posts, Blushing bee

I’m surprising him with a groom’s cake that looks like an antique dive helmet (he is a commercial diver) my baker is the Sugar Suite who made the iPhone cake you have pictured! I am so excited for the moment when he sees it. We are going to have a ton of extra cake between the groom’s cake and the wedding cake, but I got cute little boxes for our guests to take some home with them!

 

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Mrs. Ladyfingers
Mrs. Ladyfingers

Mrs. Ladyfingers, Saint Petersburg, FL Age and Occupation: 30, Marketing Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 33, Sports Writer Engagement Date: December 24, 2010 Wedding Date: November 2011 Venue: Palma Sola Botanical Park About Me: I hail from Oklahoma, he was born and raised in Long Island. Fate brought us together, and now we live in a cute little rental house with our nutty dog, and our aloof cat. We both love to read, watch movies, explore our town, and laugh like hyenas. When I’m not obsessively wedding crafting, I enjoy stalking style and decorating blogs, making collages and painting, napping, thrifting, rearranging our bookshelves, and being a total weirdo with my friends. Hi!

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