Reality vs TV

It’s official. The production company for Four Weddings wanted the Bacons to be on TV!! Woot woot! Party! Party! YAY! Fireworks! Champagne! More fireworks! Happy dance all around town!

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Whew, now that I have that out of my system, I have more news.

I went to college in the great no man’s land that is the District of Columbia at the most politically active school in the nation and have gads of friends that majored in political science or criminal justice or both. This means that I have lots of friends, also known as invited guests, who work for the government in one way or the other. Um, Miss Bacon, this post is about the coolness of being on a TV show. Right, so here’s the deal: government employees with any kind of security clearance aren’t able to be filmed. That means that many of my nearest and dearest could be fired if they end up on the show, and they love my lots, but that’s not really a risk worth taking.

So the options are: be a part of Four Weddings or having my friends at the most important day of my life. No contest, the friends will always win. They are the ones that have been at my side through everything, the highs and the lows, the very best memories and the very worst ones. So with that, the Baconator and I decided to pull out of the show, and have promised that we’ll save money to take a great trip next year. I’m not going to lie and say that I wasn’t bummed out by the situation, but I know that I would have been distraught if I had chosen 15 minutes of fame over the people I love.

How would you have handled the situation? Do you think we made the right choice?


Mrs. Bacon

Wedding Date:
September 2011
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    ThePinkPeony 264 posts, Helper bee @ 2:54 pm

    Ugh! Talk about a rock and a hard place! But, I think you did the right thing – no trip, no matter, how kick-ass, will make up for not having some of your closest peeps with you on such a big day! (Plus, I always feel a little sorry for the brides on that show, I think I would cry if some of those comments were made about my wedding!!)

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    OpalGirl333 129 posts, Blushing bee @ 2:56 pm

    I think it’s for the best-most of the show is each bride trashing all of the other brides’ weddings, lol, and it would be hard for me to watch complete strangers pick apart my wedding on TV, lol.

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    puntacanabride 1938 posts, Buzzing bee @ 2:56 pm

    I think you made the right decision. Your friends/family are most important. However, I’ve seen on four weddings when people didn’t want to be on TV and they block out their faces, that might have been an option.

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    cannon 513 posts, Busy bee @ 2:56 pm

    I’m bummed we won’t get to see your wedding on TV (and you totally would win!), but you absolutely made the right choice. Also, seconding ThePinkPeony on how catty and mean some of the ladies can be on there.

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    GreenGables 812 posts, Busy bee @ 2:57 pm

    Absolutely made the right choice – it’s what I would have done too. Bummer about not being on the show, though – I love that show! It sometimes cracks me up, the things they score each other down for. I think one bride scored another down on the food portion because something she tried was too spicy for her. (Seriously??)

    I didn’t know that about government employees, by the way – no filming at all, even if they’re not identified? Wow. Any idea whether that’s just a federal thing?

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    Kelsey, Guest @ 2:58 pm

    Couldn’t they just blur out your friend’s faces? And in the case that someone inadvertantly got missed, they would be safe from repercussions because they didn’t give consent.

    Bummer to miss out on such an opportunity!

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    lovekiss 7059 posts, Busy Beekeeper @ 3:01 pm

    We have a similar situation and will be asking our photographer not to blog photos that include certain people.

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    bunting 687 posts, Busy bee @ 3:01 pm

    First off, congrats at being accepted, but I definitely think you made the right choice! As cool as it is to be on a TV show, and as entertaining as that show can be, I would never EVER actually want to be on it. Why? They turn your wedding into a competition where others will critique every little thing. And that subtracts from the true joy and celebration of such a meaningful day. The trip, as fun as it would be, is not at all worth sacrificing your friends and potentially some of your happiest memories.

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    mspony 9265 posts, Buzzing Beekeeper @ 3:03 pm

    Aw, it would have been so cool to see your wedding on tv, but I think you made the right choice. Your wedding wouldn’t be the same without your friends there. And now you can watch the ladies who you would have competed against and declare to everyone that you clearly would have won if you had been able to be on the show. At least that’s what I would do :)

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    meerkat 3257 posts, Sugar bee @ 3:05 pm

    Aww B! I am so sorry but you made the right decision. *hugs*

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    bacon 695 posts, Busy bee @ 3:11 pm

    @PuntaCanaBride & @Melanie11: I think there is some weird clause about being “knowingly filmed” even if they are blurred out :(
    @lovekiss: Wow! I should check and see if that’s going to be an issue. I hadn’t even thought to ask!
    @Mrs. Bunting: I was starting to notice that I was making little concessions to help me win, like buying more alcohol and adding more seating. Too much competition would have driven me nuts!
    @Miss Pony: Haha! I should totally be like “I declined because it wouldn’t be fair to the other brides to win by such an embarrassing landslide!”

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    reese, Guest @ 3:18 pm

    Couldnt some sort of creative editing be done by the TV station to get some of those people out of the shots? :( I feel bad that you had to give it up at all, but you did make the right decision.

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    teacup 631 posts, Busy bee @ 3:20 pm

    It is a bummer to miss out on the TV appearance – that would have been awesome! At the same time, you totally made the right decision and it’s a testament to your values and priorities :)

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    hyena 2537 posts, Sugar bee @ 3:23 pm

    Aw, I’m sorry this didn’t work out Bacon. It would have been so much fun to see a bee on Four Weddings!

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    Hisbahamamama, Guest @ 3:34 pm

    Ok as I was reading this I thought “SWWWWWEEET!” I get to watch this on TV and not just read about it..and then I thought “NOOOOOOOO” as my dreams slipped away – But I’m not selfish and neither are you (obiviously) I think you did a great thing and you can always say you were choosen – who can say that? P.S. Hello your a bee! Your super famous (without the negative feedback) :)

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    Hisbahamamama, Guest @ 3:34 pm

    Ok as I was reading this I thought “SWWWWWEEET!” I get to watch this on TV and not just read about it..and then I thought “NOOOOOOOO” as my dreams slipped away – But I’m not selfish and neither are you (obiviously) I think you did a great thing and you can always say you were choosen – who can say that? P.S. Hello your a bee! Your super famous (without the negative feedback) :)

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    bacon 695 posts, Busy bee @ 3:42 pm

    @Hisbahamamama: Haha. You crack me up – I’m SO not famous in anyway. Just a regular gal with some awesome wedding karma!

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    msseal 1179 posts, Bumble bee @ 4:09 pm

    Awwwe, I think you made the right decision Miss B. I will admit that I *am* bummed I won’t get to see you (and your gorgeous wedding) on TV but that’s me being selfish 😛 I really do maintain that you made the best choice for you and your guests :)

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    CurlyRN 355 posts, Helper bee @ 4:10 pm

    I can’t wait to watch it!!

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    bbbride2010 49 posts, Newbee @ 4:19 pm

    You’re a great friend and I definitely think you made the right decision…although I was really looking forward to seeing the baconators on TV!

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    vmblai1019 863 posts, Busy bee @ 4:34 pm

    This speaks volumes of your character. Way to go lady :)

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    elephant 6339 posts, Bee Keeper @ 4:36 pm

    I think you made the right decision, definitely friends over 15 mins of fame.

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    honey 1684 posts, Bumble bee @ 5:18 pm

    While we would have all loved to watch the Bacons on TLC, I think you for sure made the right decision!

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    CurlyRN 355 posts, Helper bee @ 5:19 pm

    @CurlyRN: Duh…my excitement as too much, I totally understand.

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    painauchocolat 2298 posts, Buzzing bee @ 5:34 pm

    You made the best choice given the circumstances. A 1-in-4 chance at a paid honeymoon or having your friends attend? Friends, any day all the way! They’re the ones who are going to make your wedding day (and night) an awesome event to remember.

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    kristophine 303 posts, Helper bee @ 6:00 pm

    I 100% think you made the right call. Your friends will be there. That’s what matters.

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    earrings 2611 posts, Sugar bee @ 6:12 pm

    That’s a bummer, but I think you definitely made the right decision. You’re a great friend! :)

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    tartlet 3227 posts, Sugar bee @ 9:12 pm

    Aww, poop! I’m sorry you were put in such a tough position, but I also think you made the right decision. :)

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    TamJam 211 posts, Helper bee @ 9:53 pm

    Awww that really suck but you made the right choice.

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    Lauren, Guest @ 1:03 am

    Awww such a hard position. What a great person and friend you are. Great decision!

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    miss.qwerty 206 posts, Helper bee @ 2:43 am

    Sounds like you made the right choice. Hope you have a fabulous time celebrating with your friends!

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    PandaPanda 33 posts, Newbee @ 1:07 pm

    Great decision…though I’m sure it’s dissapointing. I was at a wedding with a similar group of people and I’m just imagining how difficult it would’ve been to NOT film some higher up in the Department of Defense in the middle of the dance floor wearing a sombrero…

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    Miss Ariel 83 posts, Worker bee @ 9:44 pm

    What an awfully choice to have to make. I do think you made the right decision, after all how do you pick being on a reality tv show over friends. But it’s still too bad you couldn’t have worked something out where it was possible to not have them filmed at all or even blurred out on tv.

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    cucumbersandwich 604 posts, Busy bee @ 7:45 pm

    Go Colonials!

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