Weddingbee Blog

There is a place that every bride seems to hit in her wedding planning at one point or another. It’s called the in-between. It’s that place where you have most of your wedding planning and inspiration done, but you have also got to the place where you have done what you can and what you haven’t done has to wait. My friends, I have hit that spot. With my recent project of my shoes done, and with my imminent move to a different state, I am stuck in my wedding progress.

And believe me, it’s kind of frustrating that I am at a stand-still. I want to go, go, go. I want to get stuff done. My type-A personality demands it, my Virgo qualities are compulsively driving me towards it. But I can’t. I already have to move two-years worth of accumulative stuff in my tiny Mazda. I do not have room in Walter (I like to name my cars old man names, some of my other past ones have been Brutus and Wilbur), for another tote of wedding stuff.

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So I have to wait until I am fully moved back to begin again. Instead of obsessing over the things that need to get done in the next 7 months (which is what my subconscious is telling me to do), I am going to take a step back and remember why I am doing all of this in the first place.

I’m doing it for my love of this wonderful, beautiful, amazing man:

Personal Photo (He may or may not be inebriated in this picture)

The wedding is just a day to celebrate the joining of two people, but the marriage, the actual joining of those two people is so much more important. On that day I get to marry my best friend, the love of my life, the man that takes my breath away with regularity, the partner that God has made specifically for me. And like Miss Seal recently wrote “wedding planning is short, marriage is forever.”

Instead of focusing on what kind of tissue paper to use for the flowers, I should be taking this downtime to remember why I am doing this in the first place. I’m doing it because of the way that Mr. D unabashedly will play pretend games with me (for example, we have a pet T-Rex who lives in the closet and we will often wonder what he is doing in there), because Mr. D has been there in the best of times and in the very worst of times, because Mr. D not only makes me a better person, but because he makes every single day of living even better.

So, when you hit these in-between periods in your wedding planning, take a time out and remember the reasons why you are doing this. Remember the big things and the little things about your relationship that make it so special. Remember why your love is like a fairytale. Forget about the tissue paper—it can wait another day.