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I had been hoping for a proposal for a couple of months (specifically since his brothers had both just proposed to their girlfriends), and I hinted. OK, I hinted heavily…I’m a bit ashamed of myself for that. I KNEW he was going to propose at some point. The man had moved across the country for me! A proposal was coming, it was just a matter of when…
Patience has never been my strong suit…
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During one of our “hinting” conversations, the topic of ring prices came up. My jaw not only hit the floor…it passed through the carpet, beneath the concrete, and into the dirt. Mr. Ticket’s expectations of what he should be spending on a ring for me more than tripled the number I had imagined! He was going off of a calculation FSIL Ticket had given him: three months’ gross salary. Well, after he had moved across the country and was trying to survive on a barely decent wage in expensive Southern California, I in NO way expected a number even close to this. I knew how much money he made, I knew how much he had in savings, and I was thinking of a far more modest number. Oh, I’ll just give you the numbers already because all of this “hinting” is confusing me.
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Poor Mr. Ticket was under the impression that he should be spending $7,000–$8,000 on my ring. I was hoping he would spend $2,000–$3,000. See the massive difference there?! I even thought my figure of $3,000 was really high and I would be extremely lucky to receive such an amazing ring. After this talk it was pretty clear that Mr. Ticket was warming up to the idea of proposing sooner rather than later. Apparently his extreme hesitation came from the fear of how long it would take to save up for a ring.
First Second obstacle conquered. Yay! (Cross-country move counts as first obstacle.)
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Did you and your SO ever have talks about ring prices before getting engaged? Were your numbers as far apart as ours were?
Oh yes! I describe the prices in terms of vehicles in my ring post…a car vs. a scooter 
Can’t wait to see your pretty!
I was thinking less than $1000 and he told me he was thinking … $50. FYI guys, if a girl doesn’t want diamonds, that doesn’t mean she doesn’t care. It means she doesn’t want diamonds.
I wasn’t too worried about the price. I got a relatively inexpensive ring, as mine was only $500, but the ring isn’t important to me, it’s the symbolism. I don’t want him spending that much money on that. I’d rather we use the money to take a trip where we can have fun and quality time.
I don’t know how much mine was, or want to know - it’d be like seeing the price sticker on a christmas present for me, but good on you if your more mature and sensible than me 
Although I did make him promise that he wouldn’t spend loads, because I spend a lot of my day faffing about with plants and flowers, so I didn’t want something that’d break the bank if it got caked in crap.
We were both agreed that $3000 was a good price. When we went to look at rings I fell in love with a $5500 ring. The jeweler was able to knock $2000 off the price and the fiance paid $3500 for it. =)
I was a “no diamond” girl. I think that helped me get proposed to sooner. We did discuss price and I was pleasantly surprised with what he intended to spend on my non-diamond engagement ring. That’s why my rock is a larger size than I could have imagined.
We didn’t discuss price. I don’t know what he paid, nor do I want to. I am a no diamond kind of girl but we never really discussed that either. I was amazed when he proposed with a beautiful emerald ring. It was exactly what I would have picked if I had picked it myself! My sweetie knows me well
@Miss Teacup - I loved your ring post haha. I think you used the car analogy very well.
@Future Mrs. Christian - I definitely know what you mean. The symbolism behind my ring is so much more important to me than the ring itself. The few times I have had to take the ring off I start freaking out because it feels so unnatural to be without that little symbol on my finger now.
@thelastbumblebee - I know because Mr. Ticket accidentally handed me the receipt along with all of the Diamond Info we had to keep with our safe records. I didn’t actually bring up the price of the rings in the first place either, he did haha.
@klreynol - That is so incredibly awesome! I’m so glad you got the ring you wanted and it still fell into a reasonable price for both of you.
@Miss Kettle - I applaud you for being a no diamond girl. I always envisioned having one (though I certainly didn’t demand one) and I’m very grateful to have gotten one. But I often still feel poor Mr. Ticket over spent simply because there is a beautiful diamond in my ring.
@doodlebug15 - I know exactly what you mean with the, “It was exactly what I would have picked if I had picked it myself!” in fact sometimes I think Mr. Ticket knows me better than I know myself. Because the ring he got me was better than anything I had ever seen or liked. It is absolutely PERFECT.
We discussed prices and went ring shopping many, many, MANY times. I knew how hard it would be for him to save at several points in our relationship and felt it was just never going to come. I showed him what I really liked, what I didn’t like and what I would love to have if he didn’t have the money to spend on something crazy. In the end we went the custom route from all of the ideas I had given him and I love it more than anything else I could’ve seen in a store!
My ring was orginally 1100 but FI got it on sale for 695. I love it. All I wanted was a single stone, princess cut. Not to big, not to small. Just right.
The cost of the ring wasn’t important to us. We put more money into the wedding and furnishing our home.
We were off as well..but I was thinking around $500 and he was thinking less…what made it difficult was my friends and family putting emphasis on how much he spends equating how much he cares…It makes me feel good to read there are other no-diamond girls
Saving for the ring was a HUGE obstacle for us too…. Especially since when we started talking about rings we got a letter in the mail from His past - he owed $3000 in medical bills from 2005 and a lawyer had put a judgement against him!! I was able to negotiate the debt down to $2000 and paid in full - but I was distraught that night thinking I just blew our ‘ring fund’ on something that wasn’t even my fault!! But part of our journey together is making up for his past mistakes just like he understands that I am $40,000 in debt from school (roughly 20% of the total cost)..
We went shopping for at least a month after I decided I wanted a marquise solitaire but we never could find the right ring for us… When we were visiting his family we stopped in to a local pawn shop with the largest selection of guns and happened upon the perfect ring. Judging from it’s size we paid half of what it would cost retail
We didn’t discuss price, but I had emphasized that I wanted a small ring–otherwise I wouldn’t be able to wear it at lab under my gloves!
We talked a little… when I told him I wasn’t expecting anything over $600-$800 I think I saw relief wash over him! It’s the meaning. Not the size. Plus, I’m not to keen on glitz for glitz sake. My ring is perfect!
We talked over all those gory details… like you I hinted (OK, more than hinted) but we had both worked super hard to be able to graduate and go to residency together so it was time! I even picked out the ring; not super romantic but it took all that ring shopping to decide what I wanted! It was 8,000 at the end, I think. I justified it by the fact that I have lived a very frugal life so far, and we are both going to be doctors… I definitely love my splurge! And I’m glad he agreed to get it!!
We didn’t discuss price, just aesthetics of the ring itself. I didn’t want to make Mr. P feel he had to spend a certain amount if that wasn’t what he wanted.
Glad that you conquered the second obstacle. Saving for a ring has delayed many a proposal among friends of mine. Its good you guys were able to talk about it. I know there is supposed to be an element of surprise in the proposal, but I always like the idea of ring shopping together.
oh we talked about the price!!! Both FI and I are students, i told him at first that he could buy me a “little” ring and we can upgrade it whenever we could afford a better one…nah! FI was adamant about me keeping “whatever” ring he got me as a symbol of “little beginning.” Okay so i insisted it must at least be a symbol that i could smile at when i’m old and grey! Thankfully he found a $5000 ring for half the price and a military discount yay!
We didn’t really discuss ring price but he has been sure to mention on more than one occasion how it too him so long to put a ring on it because he was saving…. oops
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Miss Ticket, Riverside, CA Age and Occupation: 25, Executive Assistant Fiance's Age and Occupation: 24, HVAC Technician Engagement Date: November 14, 2010 Wedding Date: October 2011 Venue: Crestmore Manor About Me: I'm a lifelong So Cal gal, a chocoholic, a closet gamer, and a television enthusiast (love me some Vampire Diaries!) who adores playing in the kitchen and lives in flip flops. Mr. Ticket and I are best known for singing and dancing in the car, our World of Warcraft addiction, adoring food, crane game playing, and our general homebody ways. Oh, and GO STEELERS!
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