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I will be carrying a bouquet down the aisle and posing with it in photos and having it sit pretty next to our cake on our cake table and at the end of the night. I would really like to partake in tossing it! Slight problem, though—there aren’t many people coming to our wedding who aren’t engaged or married.
Originally I thought there were like two or three, but counting the numbers up and assuming all unengaged and unmarried women attend, there will be 12 young unmarried women! We have another two to three older women, but it is not likely that they will participate. So, even if we have some more engagements—there are probably two potentials before our wedding—we still have 10 women!! Most of them are in relationships but, honestly, that is the best time to catch the bouquet, isn’t it?
Next problem: As a single woman, I wasn’t the biggest fan of the bouquet toss! Especially when you would hear Beyonce belting out “all the single ladies”! Sure, it is a bit of fun and a glimmer of hope for the waiting-to-be-engaged ladies, but is it a tradition that I want to incorporate into our day? I’m really not sure.
The second wedding that we attended after our engagment was in Dublin, Ireland, and these girls love their rugby! They took a modern spin on a likely outdated tradition and did a line-out for the bouquet!!
Winner! The bride’s gorgeous sister! Second wedding this year where the maid of honour has caught the bouquet!
As you can see, I have arguments both ways on whether to toss the bouquet or not. I think I have another solution to the age-old question of who will be the next to get married without involvement from Beyonce!
All photos in this post are personal.
I was not a fan of the bouquet toss, so I chose to give the one that I would toss to my grandmother, and we made a matching one for my grandmother-in-law. We thanked them for always supporting us. It was a very special moment for us.
I’m not doing a single ladies bouquet toss. I’m having all the men who are currently married, dating, or see (saw) someone that night whom they would like to be dating to line up. They are to give the flowers to the woman in their life. I hope it’s a hit! And then there will not be a garter toss.
I was in the same predicament as you…i think we had maybe 11 single ladies and I never liked taking part of the toss so i did not want to make any of my friends do it.
Instead I clipped some scratch tickets to the boquet and had ALL the ladies who “wanted to get lucky” come up. There was no embaressement, no singling out and the floor was packed!!
(on a side note we did the same for the garter….just pinned lottery tickets etc. to it and got all the men to come up!)
I hated hated hated the bouquet toss and never even considered doing it at my wedding. I didn’t even ask for a toss bouquet and honestly, I was too in love with mine to give it away. I watched it slowly wither and die 
Anyhow, that’s my take on it. Oh, and I am in my 30’s, not a lot of single women left in my group.
Hilarious pics! I also am not doing a traditional bouquet toss - I think there will be….. um, TWO single women, and only about five unmarried women at our wedding, plus, I would always hide during the bouquet toss at other people’s weddings when I was single - too much attention!! Instead, we’re doing an anniversary dance and I’ll present my bouquet to the couple who has been married the longest (which, barring anything dreadful, will be my aunt/godmother, who i just adore!) I definitely stole this idea from another bee, I just don’t remember who!
What I’ve seen in vintage movies is that the bride used to toss the bouquet during the exit (when they run through the rice).
If anything, I might do that. But not a single ladies bouquet toss. No no no!
A friend started a non-traditional, tradition for the bouquet toss that I think I will be adopting. Rather than using a typical toss bouquet, she used a bunch of flowers that appeared to be a single bouquet, but burst apart on tossing so that each “single lady” gets a flower. My fiance is anti-garter toss so this works for us!
I saw this fantastic idea at a recent wedding. Instead of a garter throw and bouquet toss, the bride and the groom invited all married couples to partake in a special dance. Throughout the song, they asked all couples who have been married for 5 years or less to sit down. Then they asked for all couples who have been married for 10 years or less to sit down. This went on until they had one couple left- this will be the couple who have been married the longest. (At this wedding it was 52 years!). The bride and groom gave the couple their bouquet and garter as a ‘congrats’. I thought it was a fantastic alternative and a kind gesture celebrating a lifetime of love.
I hate tosses…I have two non-engaged friends and then a bunch of divorced women from our families….awkward. I do not want to do it, but Mr. P is set on it. These alternative ideas are great!
@legallyengaged: the boquet was fake so i just pinned them on 
Honestly it never even occured to me to toss mie and no one missed it. We were way to be busy dancing.
Ok, the line-out is awesome.
We didn’t do it, mostly because there weren’t too many single ladies there, and some of them are happily single, not waiting. And, no way was I throwing my handmade bouquet anywhere!!
We didn’t do it - it’s been awkward at the last few weddings we’ve been to, we hardly had any singles left, and I loved my bouquet way too much.
@Baileyh: Love it! Who doesnt want to get lucky?
@Joanne1984: You read my mind!
@Mrs. Jaguar: Its completely awkward right? Hence no go for us…
We decided not to do a bouquet or garter toss. I don’t really know why. For some reason, when it came down to deciding for my own wedding, I was like, “You know, I kind of hate the idea of doing these. We don’t have to do them, right?” Mr. P didn’t argue.
That line-out is wild! We chose not to do a bouquet toss because there were only a couple gals at our wedding who weren’t married.
I don’t want it..it’s always made me feel akward for family to force me to go out on the floor and I didn’t want to wrestle for it so I ended up just standing there looking uncomfortable… there are nice alternatives everyone posted
Although I love some of the pictures from bouquet and garter tosses, I just don’t know if it’s something I want to do. I always felt so awkward at other weddings when they did them. I think when the time comes, I’ll just ask my girl friends and sisters if they want one or not and let them decide since they would be the ones participating.
I am definitely doing a bouquet toss, but that Beyonce song is going on my Do Not Play list for the DJ. We’ll come up with something else for the toss. I love those photos of the line-out!
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Mrs. Teaspoon, Sydney, Australia Age and Occupation: 27, Medical Scientist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Banker Engagement Date: June 4, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: St Aloysius' College, Milson's Point About Me: I am a mad scientist who enjoys swimming at the beach in summer and skiing powder in winter. Our favourite times together are spent with the sand between our toes, cooking up a storm, re-watching and re-reading every Harry Potter ever made, and spending time with our dear friends and family! We have travelled the world together in our 6 years of dating, from Paris, to Thailand, to Las Vegas, and we are tackling the many challenges of planning our special day the best way we know how---together!
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