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I have become one of those women. You know the ones—they cry when they watch the dog-food commercial on TV, they cry when they hear their wedding song, they cry when the jeweller’s wife tells them they are going to make a beautiful bride, they cry when it rains and their Ugg boots get wet, and they cry when they don’t cut the onions quite straight. (OK, so that last one I’m going to blame on the onions.)
How on earth am I going to make it through our wedding day?
Why, after all these years of never crying, am I all of a sudden so emotional? Is it a sign of getting old? Is it possible that all those years of not crying are all of a sudden bubbling over when insignificant events happen, like Dumbledore dying or getting to the end of Marley & Me and knowing what was going to happen and “skipping over” that part?
So, in an effort to not be a bubbling mess on our wedding day and avoid a number of pictures with me and my ugly-cry face, I have decided to make a conscious effort to embrace the emotion in me and not turn up with an ugly-cry face a la Dawson:
Image via Slyde’s Blog
No, that will definitely not do for our wedding day! I will need to practice smiling through it, and I already have a few friends who I have asked to position themselves down the aisle and are instructed to “do something funny!” if I look like I’m on the verge of tears!
I will be strategically placing a few of my trusty hankies—one (or ten)—in both my dad’s jacket and in my fiance/hubby’s pocket!!
My massage therapist also recommended getting out Harry Potter or Marley & Me a few days before the wedding and just having a big old cry. Apparently it’s very good for your chest muscles and just generally relaxing everything? Who knew?
Best Advice: If you feel a big, ugly cry coming on prior to the wedding day, GIVE INTO IT!
The night before the wedding, I totally lost it. DH and I had spent the day decorating the reception hall, then quickly running home to change before the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner.
During the rehearsal, EVERYONE had something to say, and it was all terribly overwhelming and frustrating… oh yeah, and it was raining!
And to top it all off: DH and I still had to pack for the honeymoon! We were leaving the morning after the wedding!
So, we got back to our apartment so I could grab my things and head off to the hotel, and I laid down on our bed, and I just lost it.
Big, giant, ugly crying, all because I was beyond exhausted and just wanted to go to sleep, but couldn’t.
DH was wonderful about it, holding me and cheering me up, then driving me to the hotel and sending me on my way. What a trooper.
But the next day I was SO relaxed. I had gotten all that crazy emotion out, and I could just have fun.
Oh I am a big cryer…sad, frustrated, tired, hormonal, you name it so I am terrified about the wedding day. I will give in the day before but I SO don’t want to lose it the day of. My face gets red and stays that way for at least a half hour. Not cute at all.
@tinylittlebird: seriously great idea.
marley and me + a HP marathon (especially goblet of fire) would definitely get it done for me too!
I tried to smile through the cries and sometimes it worked and other times it didn’t. You will still have beautiful, emotion filled pictures 
This whole thread and OP is so funny and endearing because I can totally relate!! I cry at EVERYTHING these days!! LOL. Love this, and I will have to remember some of these tips on my own day!
Love it Teaspoon! I think I cried at everything in the weeks leading up to the wedding as well - even tv adverts could send me over the edge! It all worked out though as my emotions were completely in check on the wedding day. There were a few teary eyed moments but no big ugly cry bursting to come out. I think your massage therapist is on to something here…
What an interesting tip from your massage therapist, I’ve never heard that!
I really expect to cry so bad. I’m so overly emotional, it’s ridiculous, and the whole event is going to be laden with emotions, so I don’t stand a chance!
I’m the same. Fiance said he melted my heart of ice when we met. And I get really ugly (not James Van der Beek trying to act ugly), like all red and splotchy. Def considering the wedding week emotional breakdown.
I sure am glad I am not alone!
@tinylittlebird: I fully intend on giving in to it! You arent the only one with that suggestion, which is very sound advice!
Oh man! I have an ugly cry face… I just finished blogging about this too! lol
Hahah when you google image ‘ugly cry face’ Dawson pops up all over the place! Also farrah from teen mom
I definitely had a couple of big giant sobfests before the wedding, and was a little bit afraid of what the actual day would be like, but other than one point during the ceremony when I teared up, I just couldn’t stop smiling the whole day! I was so happy!
I can relate big time. Im so afraid that when I walk down the to meet my DH im going to be boohoo crying. When I start crying there is no stopping me. I really enjoyed this article because you feel my pain. Thanks!
Marley and Me would work a charm. I held off seeing it untill a few weeks ago, because I wanted to read the book first but never got around to it. I cried so hard my eyes puffed up, my nose blocked up, and I had to take 2 codral and go to bed at 8.30 with a killer headache. I woke up feeling hung over. I’d try to cry it out a few days before the wedding, in case you get a crying hang over like me.
@Roux: Oh no! A crying hangover! You poor thing, I didnt know that could happen. It is an incredibly sad movie and made me miss my puppies that Mr Teaspoon never met. They were such cool little dudes.
Embrace the cry-face! I still maintain that there is no such thing as an “ugly” cry face on your wedding day. 
I’m intrigued by your massage therapist’s suggestion!
I was just telling a friend about this last night! I don’t know what’s happened to me. I cry. at. everything. I can’t even write my vows or organize our ceremony without tearing up, so we can only imagine what will happen the day of. But yes - give into it! You won’t have an ugly cry face. And I love the happy-tears photos. Also I’ll have to try that massage therapist tip
Lol @ the ugly cry face pic! I too have suffered from a recent surge in emotional out-pourings. If the “big old cry” is cathartic and calming, I say go for it.
@Miss Ladyfingers: I tried to write our prayers of the faithful last night - disaster. Ugly sobbing tears running down my cheeks. Not funny.
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Mrs. Teaspoon, Sydney, Australia Age and Occupation: 27, Medical Scientist Fiance's Age and Occupation: 30, Banker Engagement Date: June 4, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: St Aloysius' College, Milson's Point About Me: I am a mad scientist who enjoys swimming at the beach in summer and skiing powder in winter. Our favourite times together are spent with the sand between our toes, cooking up a storm, re-watching and re-reading every Harry Potter ever made, and spending time with our dear friends and family! We have travelled the world together in our 6 years of dating, from Paris, to Thailand, to Las Vegas, and we are tackling the many challenges of planning our special day the best way we know how---together!
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