What I Think and Thought

What I Think and Thought

September 1st, 2011 @ 1:35 pm by Mrs. Cannon
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So, our RSVP due date was August 20. By then, 26 out of our 64 invitations had no RSVP sent in. We had a few late ones come in and a few people who called, texted, Facebooked. emailed, or whatever, to let us know. There were a few we knew would be coming without them saying anything (*cough* Mom & Dad *cough*). Now we’re tracking down the last few we aren’t certain about and should have final numbers by then end of the week.

So, I’m trying to figure out exactly how many tables we’ll have, how many linens we need to rent, how we’re going to arrange everything, and whether or not we’re really going to do escort cards. It’s weird. The closer the big day gets, the less worried about it I seem to get, despite the fact that I have a ton of stuff to do. It’s like, I’ve realized that my time is finite, and whatever isn’t done just won’t be done and somehow, I’ll still get married. It’s a real relief.

I’m going to do my best, get things done and be satisfied. I’m going to be honest—I’ve been worrying about this wedding a lot, and for all the dumbest reasons.

My number one worry has been, “What will everyone else think?”

I’ve been so worried about what my friends will say, and what the hive will say, and what other people will think, and how my wedding might not be enough, or what people expect. And I’ve finally come to realize that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. If people think my wedding is tacky or ugly or unsophisticated, who cares? It’s going to be bright and make me happy, and it will be fun.

I will be surrounded by people I love more than anything and they will be happy for me. My pastor is going to give me church-sanctioned permission (nay, encouragement!) to make more babies with Mr. Cannon and then I will eat tasty food and shake my ass with a drink in my hand. My sweet baby girl and I are going to dress up in poofy dresses, my best friends will all look sexy and fabulous, and my husband (HUSBAND!) will look dashing and proclaim he loves me, and everyone we care about will cheer. Woohoo!

I no longer want the wedding to hurry up and be over, I want it to hurry up and be here. I’ve realized all my worries and fears are totally lame and stupid. I’m awesome, and our wedding will be amazing and filled with happiness. Nothing can mess with that. I’m ready for you, wedding. Bring it!

What little things are you worried about when it comes to your wedding?

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23 Responses to “What I Think and Thought”

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Miss Sunhat (message) 865 posts, Busy bee

I love your attitude! I hope it is contagious - I know we all need reminding not to worry so much during this time. It’s so hard not to!

9/1/11 @ 1:40 pm (reply)

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ookbob (message) 284 posts, Helper bee

OH Cannon, how I relate to you. I have stressed the entire wedding process about what people will think (even though deep down I KNOW 100% what’s important about the wedding itself–the marriage), and finally put my foot down. My wedding is in two days, and I could not be more anxious–but it’s a different kind of anxious. I’ve got backup, the people at the wedding will be our closest family and friends, with a couple extras thrown in. If something goes horribly wrong (LIKE THE MOH’S NAME BEING SPELLED WRONG ON THE PROGRAMS ACK!), no one will notice/no one will remember. If they do, it’ll make one heck of a story. In the end, I will be a wife and FI will be a husband.
That’s ALL that matters.
<3

9/1/11 @ 1:46 pm (reply)

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vintagemodernbride (message) 403 posts, Helper bee

“I’ve realized that my time is finite, and whatever isn’t done just won’t be done and somehow, I’ll still get married. It’s a real relief.” AMEN. I’m finally starting to realize that too as my big day draws closer. It’s a good feeling to have instead of feeling stress for, what should be, an amazing day!

9/1/11 @ 1:57 pm (reply)

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Arr6 (message) 4 posts, Wannabee

I’m really glad you wrote this, I’m dealing with the same exact issues. RSVP stress and trying to please over 200 people… trying to brush of the “well most weddings…” and the “I thought you were going to….” the best that I possibly can.

9/1/11 @ 1:57 pm (reply)

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natbug21 (message) 1,452 posts, Bumble bee

Good for you!! I understand people want their guests, family, friends, etc to love their wedding but sometimes you just gotta do what YOU want! You only do it once an hopefully it is a good presentation of you as a couple!!

9/1/11 @ 1:58 pm (reply)

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skihop (message) 11 posts, Newbee

Oh Miss Cannon, I have been freaking out about what other people will think and feeling self conscious about every decision I make. My FI is so supportive and he doesn’t care what anybody thinks as long as we become husband and wife. And deep down thats all I care about too but it is hard when everybody is giving us their opinions and suggestions before the big day. I just want everybody to have fun and love the wedding.

9/1/11 @ 2:02 pm (reply)

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Amber

Miss Cannon, how I love thee! You are so upfront and honest it makes me smile, and you have such a good way of looking at things. Plus you have the best wedding colors in the world. (Which just happen to match that of my own.) Keep up the awesomeness!

9/1/11 @ 2:05 pm (reply)

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future.mrs.awe (message) 90 posts, Worker bee

love this post!!! this is kind of how i feel too. i just need to get over the hump and start feeling excited rather than anxious.

9/1/11 @ 2:11 pm (reply)

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Miss Pony (message) 4,184 posts, Honey bee

So true Cannon and very well said! I can’t wait for our wedding to hurry up too!

9/1/11 @ 2:25 pm (reply)

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Maricr (message) 21 posts, Newbee

Oh my God!!! I so understand how you feel. I am worried that the wedding will not meet other people expectations, that not everyone will be able to come and then we will only have a tiny wedding, that Mr. K is going to be unhappy, that my family will not behave….jajaja… so stupid, at the end who cares if we have a very intimate wedding, it will be ours, only ours.. and no one can take that away!!!

9/1/11 @ 2:27 pm (reply)

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Maricr (message) 21 posts, Newbee

Thank you for your post…

9/1/11 @ 2:27 pm (reply)

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MarthaRocks (message) 11 posts, Newbee

Love the new found attitude…..and I totally get it…thanks for putting into perspective.

9/1/11 @ 2:32 pm (reply)

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Miss Teacup (message) 621 posts, Busy bee

Yay! Great post, I’m right there with you It’s gonna be wonderful!

9/1/11 @ 2:35 pm (reply)

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Miss Ladyfingers (message) 1,119 posts, Bumble bee

This is a great attitude to have. I was worried about little things here and there - would people think my decorations are dumb? Will people notice the little glue gobs and frayed ends of ribbon on our invitations and programs? But yeah, I’m basically where you are now - who cares, I’m friggin’ getting married in two months!!

9/1/11 @ 2:36 pm (reply)

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xtatic1 (message) 779 posts, Busy bee

I only have 2 worries now that it is so close….#1 not to make ugly cry face and #2 not to screw up our dance. Other than that I know people will have fun and I get to marry the man of my dreams!

9/1/11 @ 2:48 pm (reply)

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pookiepie (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

wonderful post Miss C! I think every bride feels the same way you do! You are not alone! we have to remind ourselves that every bride is unique and every wedding is different

9/1/11 @ 2:54 pm (reply)

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KellyBee (message) 56 posts, Worker bee

Lol! I can totally see Pastor Bob (who I assume is marrying you) telling you to go make more babies!

The best weddings are those that aren’t generic and where you the personalities of the bride and groom shine through…and from what I’ve seen yours is going to be SO much fun! Plus, I don’t think you could go wrong having a fall wedding at Wildwood (so gorgeous this time of year!)

9/1/11 @ 3:35 pm (reply)

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Future Army Wife (message) 1,110 posts, Bumble bee

Love your attitude. I hate when brides talk about how they want the wedding to be over or they’re glad when the ceremony is over. Umm, kind of missing the point.

9/1/11 @ 4:04 pm (reply)

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