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I’m not a very decisive person. I certainly have my moments where I know right away what I want. That has happened more with this wedding than anything else in my life, which is a relief. However, I do have a problem making firm decisions unless I have a gut reaction.

My gut hasn’t had much to say about what our musical selections should be for the wedding, unfortunately. You’d think that because I’m marrying a musician, the choices would be easier, right? Nope! He and I have complementary, but still quite different tastes in music. We’ve run across a number of options for our wedding music, but we don’t have any choices firmly selected.

I won’t go into overkill and talk about ceremony music and all that (at least not yet), but I will talk about our first dance. It’s a very important moment in the wedding day for Mr. Kettle and I because we break into dance quite often. We were waltzing, literally waltzing, after his gig at the Bucktown Arts Festival last Saturday. Don’t judge us.

We don’t want to do a full choreographed dance because that’s not our style, but the song choice is of the ultimate importance. Don’t ask us if the DJ or the jazz trio will play it because we don’t know yet. Want to hear our options we’ve gone over?

There are these two songs by Brian McKnight on his album Ten that I love. I played the album for Mr. Kettle and he loved it too. We thought one song would be a good option for our first dance. It basically got ruled out later simply because Mr. Kettle couldn’t recall it. Not a good sign for a musician with a great memory. It’s really the lyrics to The Rest of My Life and the pretty music that make it a great first dance candidate, though.

Okay, up next is another song that’s tied into when we first decided we would try dating again. It’s this song by Mayer Hawthorne called Shiny and New. Again, the music and lyrics really just do it for us.

There’s another I wanted, but Mr. Kettle and I never really discussed it. It’s a song by Maxwell call Whenever, Wherever, Whatever. If you’ve ever heard this song, you know why it’d make a great first dance song. Again, great lyrics and music.

Currently, the choice we’re thinking of going with is a jazz song Mr. Kettle and I can’t help but get up and slow dance too if he plays it in our apartment. It’s a lovely song by Roy Hargrove called Trust. The melody just makes me feel romantic and very wedding-like.

The only downside to this selection is that Mr. Kettle feels like it would be a bit, um, on the nose if he, a jazz musician, dances to a jazz song. I saw we should be rebels and do what we want!

Was your first dance song selection a difficult choice? What did you choose? What should we choose?