Toss My Bouquet? I’d Rather Toss My Cookies!

Toss My Bouquet? I’d Rather Toss My Cookies!

September 7th, 2011 @ 1:20 pm by Mrs. Parasol
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From the beginning of our wedding planning journey, there was one thing I was totally adamant about: there would be no bouquet or garter toss.

Image via 5th Floor Photography

The tosses are lovely traditions, and I think it’s so fun and cute when other couples do them. But the tosses so don’t feel like Mr. Parasol and me at all. I can’t really explain it, but I just don’t think there’s any part of me that would ever want to toss a bouquet or allow Mr. Parasol to publicly feel up my leg and remove a garter.

I really don’t mind when other couples incorporate these traditions into their wedding day, and I actually feel kind of sad when I go to a wedding that has a bouquet toss but no garter toss. But the tosses would be so out of character for us Parasols, so these are two traditions we will be forgoing on our wedding day.

While Mr. Parasol and I could probably just move forward with the reception sans bouquet and garter toss, we decided that we wanted to find some sort of fun replacement activity. And after I heard about the Shoe Game from another friend’s wedding, I knew we had to do this. Tossing a bouquet and garter may be a no-go for us Parasols, but give us public humiliation and downright cheesiness, and we’re there!

For those of you unfamiliar with the Shoe Game, it’s essentially just a variation on the Newlywed Game. Basically the bride and groom sit back-to-back with a shoe in each hand, one from the bride and one from the groom. They are then asked a series of questions, i.e. “Who made the first move?,” “Who falls asleep first?,” “Who is more likely to use up all the hot water?” In response, the bride and groom lift the shoe of the person each thinks is the correct answer. It sounds a little bit corny, I know, but Mr. Parasol and I love this kind of thing and are ridiculously excited to play this game at our wedding reception.

Still don’t get what I’m talking about? Then check out this super cute video from another couple’s wedding:

Video via YouTube

Are you and your SO doing the bouquet and garter toss? Or are you forgoing these traditions in lieu of something more silly?

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19 Responses to “Toss My Bouquet? I’d Rather Toss My Cookies!”

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Miss Ladyfingers (message) 1,119 posts, Bumble bee

I really really REALLYYYYY didn’t want to do a bouquet toss OR a garter toss, mostly for the same reasons you didn’t. I eventually decided to do a bouquet toss, but I was adamant about the garter toss. I’ve been to some weddings where it’s super raunchy. But Mr. LF kept telling me, it doesn’t need to be raunchy at our wedding. So we’re doing a garter toss (I’ll admit it: it’s because I found an awesome beautiful garter on Etsy that I love). But I had to make him promise not to take it off with his teeth.

That shoe game sounds AWESOME! I hope you have some video to show us!

9/7/11 @ 1:29 pm (reply)

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Leila

I went to a wedding Germany where they did the shoe game, and it was so fun! My FI is European and so I think we are going to definitely go with it. I especially loved it when things don’t align with stereotypes (i.e. the guy taking longer to get ready). I can’t wait to see the recap of this.

9/7/11 @ 1:38 pm (reply)

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Leila

9/7/11 @ 1:38 pm (reply)

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anna4041 (message) 226 posts, Helper bee

Ugh… I’m with you on the raunchy garter toss. Something about my husband doing intimate-looking acts while watched by a couple hundred people has me cringing…unless I am trashed, which I will not be at our wedding. I keeping reading new ideas on here every day! The shoe game sounds awesome!

9/7/11 @ 1:42 pm (reply)

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Typewriter (message) 12 posts, Newbee

We’re not doing either as we are having a small wedding and there won’t be many single people there. Also, because I hated being forced out for the bouquet toss as a single female. Those traditions just aren’t me. I like the idea of an alternative.

9/7/11 @ 1:50 pm (reply)

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Coffee cup (message) 1,839 posts, Buzzing bee

I’m with you in the garter toss thing; it just feels weird having him throw something he just took from your leg and having one of his friends catching it!!

9/7/11 @ 2:41 pm (reply)

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2bMrsG (message) 858 posts, Busy bee

We definitely won’t be doing the bouquet or garter toss at our reception. There won’t be many single people there and we really aren’t fans of those traditions. We are planning to do an anniversary dance instead where the dj asks married couples onto the dance floor and keeps announcing couples that have been married so long to leave the floor until the longest married remains on the floor at the end. We will then present a gift to them.

9/7/11 @ 3:07 pm (reply)

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pookiepie (message) 317 posts, Helper bee

I am not sure yet if I will do the bouquet and garter toss either, I am planning to give my bouquet to a very special lady in my life.

9/7/11 @ 3:26 pm (reply)

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futureMrsCPT (message) 589 posts, Busy bee

The shoe game sounds like a lot of fun! We will have the garter/boquet toss. We actually know a lot of single people so it should be fun

9/7/11 @ 3:26 pm (reply)

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LibbyLoo (message) 188 posts, Blushing bee

We are also going to forego the tacky (to us) toss events - luckily, one of the upsides of being the last to get married in your group of friends is that there isn’t anyone to toss these items to! No garter for us - I will be dedicating my bouquet to the couple that has been married the longest - my grandparents (55 years and counting!)

9/7/11 @ 4:11 pm (reply)

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june42011 (message) 3,019 posts, Sugar bee

I was very very very against doing the toss. However at the wedding I had so many of my friends come up and ask when I was doing it. I got wrapped up “in the moment” and ended up throwing a BM bouquet! it was awesome and made for great pictures. Turned out to be a wonderful thing.

9/7/11 @ 4:18 pm (reply)

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dustywrath (message) 65 posts, Worker bee

I’ve heard of the shoe game, but never actually seen it. So I just spent the last 15 minutes watching youtube video after video. It looks like a lot of fun! A lot of them used the exact same questions though. Who will be writing your list of questions?

9/7/11 @ 5:23 pm (reply)

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Future Army Wife (message) 1,110 posts, Bumble bee

I love the shoe game. And I was thinking of getting a “toss” bouquet and garter. Another Bee posted a link to a lady who turns your bouquet into art, and the garter is a surprise for him

9/7/11 @ 5:46 pm (reply)

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The shoe game just looks like so much fun for both the sweethearts and the guests. And for a wedding celebration it should be fun, sometimes the tosses end up being a stressful and somewhat violent affair as people either reluctantly or frantically scramble about in the most pit. The shoe game seems to be an delightful alternative as a reception set piece. Who are you getting to read the questions Ms. P?

9/7/11 @ 9:55 pm (reply)

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Miss Pony (message) 4,175 posts, Honey bee

The shoe game sounds so much fun and so entertaining for your guests!

9/8/11 @ 12:17 am (reply)

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mrstobeeisme (message) 649 posts, Busy bee

We’re not doing either toss!! I think at a big weding with lots of singles and a younger crowd it’s nice but it has no place at our very small family wedding…lol. Can you imagine a nephew putting a garter on his auntie?!….LOL…no thank you. I love the idea of the shoe game but dont think FI would go for it.

9/8/11 @ 8:30 am (reply)

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stephbonthego (message) 687 posts, Busy bee

I’ve never heard of the shoe game before but it sounds like fun! We too are passing on both the garter and bouquet toss so I am going to bounce this idea off the mister tonight and see what he thinks =)

9/8/11 @ 12:31 pm (reply)

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