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Hive, I have a confession. I am getting married on Saturday and I haven’t written my vows. Not one word. I kind of… um… forgot that I needed to write them. OK, maybe forgot isn’t the right word, but I just haven’t done them yet.
I’ve had them on this big long to do list of wedding greatness for months, but they still aren’t done. Now it’s down to the little, insignificant things on the list like ordering lunch on the day of so that we all don’t faint during pictures, wrapping wedding party gifts, printing inserts for the out of town bags. Oh right, and that one, big, huge, super important, cannot be ignored, reason that people come to the ceremony in the first place thing: vows.
The Baconator wrote his back in June. JUNE people. Really? How am I so incredibly under prepared? To get an idea of how long mine are supposed to be, I started sniffing around about his. Oh his? They’re roughly 2 pages of double spaced prose. Yep, the Baconator pretty much has vow poetry and mine go something like this: “Uh, ditto.” I have a feeling that’s SO not going to fly.
It’s just that I haven’t really had any time alone where I’m not freaking out over work or the wedding when I’m not on a bus or with the Baconator to actually sit and write them. Those are terrible excuses, I know, but I’m really, really down to the wire here and I kind of feel like I’m majorly missing the mark.
Now that I’m so close and they still aren’t written, I’m totally intimidated by the whole thing. What if I simply haven’t had enough time and now they are going to seem super thrown together and slapdash when I’m at the altar?
Please tell me I’m not the only one who has done this. Please??
You’ll be fine. I had a moment of clarity the night before the wedding and was finally able to do it. You’re almost there! Go, Bacon!
Mr. G started writing his vows the moment we got engaged. I took my paper to the NKOTBSB concert the night before the wedding then finished my vows the morning of the wedding. You aren’t the only one! We followed Mrs. Jam’s advice and organized our vows the same way: Intro, I love you because, Because I love you I promise to, Grand Finale. Mine were a little longer but it worked out just fine in the end! So long as you say what is in your heart, that is all that matters.
We were kinda last minute also. We did, as Ms. Gazelle mentions, followed a format so that they were aligned and it took the pressure off of both of us. It will come together Bacon!
We were kinda last minute also. We did, as Ms. Gazelle mentions, followed a format so that they were aligned and it took the pressure off of both of us. It will come together Bacon!
You are SO not alone. My vows were completed at 7:30am, the morning of the wedding, after a sleepless night thinking I would pull a Larry David and say we are “pretty….pretty….good…”.
Where as my Mr wrote his a month before when I gave him Mrs. Jam’s step by step for writing vows.
In the end the both turned out great and had a lot of people crying but I can completely sympathize with the stress you are probably feeling right now!
@that girl: LOL pull a larry david. I could see FI doing this to me…
You’re so close! I know you’ll get them done and they will be wonderful if they’re from the heart.
I wrote mine the week before. DH had churned his out in ten minutes flat at least a month ahead (and they were great) and I found myself being way overcritical trying not to sound like a carbon copy of his with some word substitutions. Hence my extreme writer’s block until the week before.
Don’t worry, though, you’ll find a beautiful way to say just what you mean, I know it.
I’m getting married on the 17th, and also still need to write my vows. FI says he’ll just “wing it.” This doesn’t make me nervous, because he’s great at just saying how he feels in the most eloquent way possible.
I, on the other hand, need to write it down, but I think I’m thinking about it too much.
You can do it! As long as it’s from the heart that’s all that matters. So close now!!!
DH and I both started our vows about 36 hours before the wedding and finished them at 2 a.m. the night before. Apparently we work well under pressure, because all our guests commented on how much they loved our vows.
When he had some trouble getting his started, I encouraged him to pretend he was writing only to me and that no one else would hear them. I started mine by writing just a few things that I loved about him and about our relationship, and as I wrote those few, more started coming to my mind.
You can do it!
I had writing my vows on my to do list too, and I sort of forgot/sort of was putting off writing them. Blurbs of sweet words started to come to me at night when I was in bed, so one day at work (I was incredibly bored) I started to write down single lines of things I wanted to promise to my FH. Then I started writing out why I love him, things I love about him, and how he makes me feel. I begun with how we met and how I felt then compared to how I feel now. After a little while I was able to piece it together to form awesome vows. Ta da! I also cheated, I took a quote from The Notebook as my ending because I couldn’t come up with one for the life of me. 
You are almost there!! I found some moments of clarity right before the wedding, even though most of it was a hectic blur. Try to give yourself a minute of quiet time and it will come to you.
I can’t speak for myself…yet, but my great friend got married in July and didn’t write hers until a few days before and they were phenomenal. They will be great, don’t worry!
I vote for “Ditto.” And maybe write them when y’all are together this week. Seeing him might inspire you to put in words how you feel for him and why you love him. OR just wing it and forget about the stress of writing them haha.
After our rehearsal dinner my husband and I started to write our vows, he finished his before midnight. But I didn’t finish mine until 4am.
Yeah, in retrospect we should have just done standard vows to save ourselves some stress. But since I had wrote the ceremony, writing vows didn’t seem that hard until we actually had to write them. I don’t think my vows really reached their full potential, we should have collaborated better so our vows would have been more cohesive.
Yeah, my husband and I wrote our vows after the rehearsal dinner! They turned out well, and we have a printed copy stuck on our dining room wall in the center of a spiral sculpture. They still make sense, too. (mostly)
We were the same, mine were totally last-minute, and he’d been ready for months!
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Mrs. Bacon, Chicago Age and Occupation: 26, Digital Advertising Manager Fiance's Age and Occupation: 25, IT Client Services Engagement Date: June 17, 2010 Wedding Date: September 2011 Venue: Ravenswood Billboard Factory About Me: I'm a Midwestern girl that can't seem to commit to staying in one place for too long and is constantly daydreaming about my next adventure. I am an aspiring foodie with a weak spot for the unusual and I love semi-reality food television. My other loves easily include laughing as a form of exercise, a book that I can't put down, summer baseball games, espresso with whipped cream, couch potato days and nights with the ridiculous Mr. Bacon, and our two kitties, Lincoln and Sawyer. We're planning a faux-destination wedding for 150 of our closest friends and family in the city we've both adopted as home that has a modern, yet whimsical twist and as many personal touches as we can manage.
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