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An Absent Fiance…

September 9th, 2011 @ 9:17 am by Mrs. Skunk
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Mr. Skunk is the most amazing, fantastic, involved, loving man in the world. Sure, I’m biased. But he really is awesome. Which makes it so much harder that he left at the end of August to be over 800 miles away for a couple weeks. We’re hoping he gets to come home at the beginning of October, but there’s no telling.

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I know many of you are in long-distance relationships and six weeks is nothing. And it’s to further his career. Buuuuut, it’s still hard. And for the record, Madison isn’t a cheap place to fly into. I checked into possibly going to visit him and, on my farmer’s market budget, that won’t happen.

Walking away from him at the security gate, tears started to well up and my chin started to quiver. I’m usually pretty tough, so I was very surprised with myself. I know I can manage and I’m hoping to not have a total meltdown.

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I need my hair for the wedding, after all! How do y’all manage when you have to be away from your significant other for a long period of time? I’m worried that this third bowl of ice cream isn’t a great coping mechanism…

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18 Responses to “An Absent Fiance…”

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KatieJean (message) 371 posts, Helper bee

A glass of wine and Sex & the City, Scrubs, or Buffy help me when I’m spending long nights alone…

But I suppose calling the girls for a few nights out might be a good idea, too

Or!! Plan your own little getaway with some friends.

9/9/11 @ 9:19 am (reply)

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Crabbabs (message) 724 posts, Busy bee

That sucks! FI and I had a long distance relationship for about a year (between Madison and St. Louis).

If you check how much it costs to fly into Milwaukee and that’s more affordable, you could always take the bus to Madison (its about 45min - 1 hr)! Or I’ll come pick you up and take you to visit your beloved!

9/9/11 @ 9:32 am (reply)

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Christeeny

My fiance is in the military and I know its very hard. After finally re-uniting from a long overseas deployment, he had to move to his new duty station which is also overseas. He’ll be there for 2 years. Its very challenging, but I just look forward to the day when we’re married and I can be closer to him more often. And I try to make the most of the time we have together, and stay busy busy busy when he’s gone. Trust me- if I can make it through 6 months with not so much as a phone call, you can do this and keep your hair! Hang in there

9/9/11 @ 9:33 am (reply)

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SweetRaines (message) 32 posts, Newbee

Letters! Real live paper letters are a life saver! My fiancé and I were long distance for over a year and they really helped. Good luck! Also you should totally check out the Madison farmer’s market some day. It’s pretty amazing.

9/9/11 @ 9:43 am (reply)

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mousegirl (message) 1,238 posts, Bumble bee

Friends help a lot. Phone calls. E-mails. My husband and I were 1,800 miles apart for 17 months. We managed to see each other about every 2 months, he either flew to see me or I flew out to see him. And I cried at the airport every single time. It’s not easy, and by far those who have spouses/FI/SO in the military have it rougher because they don’t always get regular phone/e-mail contact. Hang in there!

9/9/11 @ 9:48 am (reply)

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moorelove (message) 58 posts, Worker bee

My fiance is in the military so we’ve been separated for about 1.5 years and still have over a year to go when he’s in Afghanistan. But honestly, just keep yourself busy! That should be easy with wedding planning : ) I know it sucks but the time will fly by. Oh and Skype!!

9/9/11 @ 9:49 am (reply)

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msbadger7 (message) 154 posts, Blushing bee

Long distance is hard, no matter the distance or the length of time. My fiance and I are long distance right now while I’m attending law school…in Madison! We are originally from Wisconsin, so it’s possible for him to drive here or me to drive there, but it’s hard not seeing each other every day. We make time to talk on the phone every day even if we don’t really have anything interesting to say. Skype has also helped a lot when you need that “face time.”

I agree with @Crabbabs that it’s much cheaper to fly into Chicago or Milwaukee and then bus to Madison, if that’s an option for you. Good luck counting the days! (And I recommend at least 1 trip to Madison if you can swing it…it’s really a great town!)

9/9/11 @ 9:51 am (reply)

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Miss Bug (message) 79 posts, Worker bee

My fiance is in the military and has been living in Cali and Chicago the past year while I’ve been In NJ so I know a bit about distance :).

The first couple of days are usually the hardest to adjust to, but it gets easier with time. I usually put a lot more time into my work, I try to pick up hobbies, catch up with friends, and devote major time to working out so when FI comes back he can “enjoy” my hard work.

Hope the time flies by

9/9/11 @ 9:52 am (reply)

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Miss White Pearl (message) 195 posts, Blushing bee

aww, thinking about a skunk with a quivering chin is SO CUTE. what was the skunk’s name in bambi?? FLOWER!! oooohmigoober, you’re icon makes so much more sense now.

while my FI was deployed, i did P90x and ate whenever i thought about things that were possibly edible. so, i guess simultaneous masochism and indulgence is my method

9/9/11 @ 9:57 am (reply)

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TinyTina (message) 3,312 posts, Sugar bee

Awwww! **hugs** An LDR is difficult no matter how long you are apart for! The first time I left my FI was to study in Italy for 5 weeks. You bet your butt I cried when he dropped me off at the airport! Then we were in an LDR for a year. We saw each other about twice a month, so we were very lucky compared to others… but it certainly didn’t make the goodbyes any easier! I can’t imagine being in an LDR while wedding planning. I hope the time goes by quickly for you!!

9/9/11 @ 11:12 am (reply)

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MrsCatWoman (message) 65 posts, Worker bee

@Crabbabs: I was going to say the same thing! Fly into Milwaukee and then take the Badger Bus! It is usually much cheaper than flying into Madison.

9/9/11 @ 11:42 am (reply)

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amethystmeg (message) 135 posts, Blushing bee

I am just finishing up my 6 weeks long stay in Finland. I had to leave my fiance in New Jersey for work/school. It goes by faster than you think! We tried to use the time to test ourselves as individuals in hopes that when we got to see each other again that the whole experience would only make us stronger! I hope everything turns out great for you, too!

9/9/11 @ 1:06 pm (reply)

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Sarah

Or fly into Chicago and you could spend a weekend in the city! There is a $25 bus that goes to/from Madison multiple times a day.

9/9/11 @ 1:44 pm (reply)

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Sarah

Or fly into Chicago and you could spend a weekend in the city! There is a $25 bus that goes to/from Madison multiple times a day.

9/9/11 @ 1:44 pm (reply)

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Future Army Wife (message) 1,102 posts, Bumble bee

My fiance is deployed. We’ve been together 2.5 years and have spent about 7 months physically together. Maybe y’all could look at meeting up somewhere in between? Chicago is a large airline hub.

9/9/11 @ 5:16 pm (reply)

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Coffee cup (message) 1,839 posts, Buzzing bee

Skype and extremely long phone calls, and reading a lot. Stay away of romantic movies and keep yourself busy.. Best of luck

9/9/11 @ 8:34 pm (reply)

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Miss Kettle (message) 909 posts, Busy bee

He went to Europe for a month right after we first started seriously dating. That ended up being a rough patch after the fact in our relationship. But if he left now, I think it’d be easier with all the technology we have at our disposal. If you both have internet access, Google, one or both of you has a laptop with a webcame, and a cellphone, the options are endless!!! We video chatted, e-mailed and talked on the phone for free almost everyday he was there. Google is my best internet friend!

9/12/11 @ 7:55 am (reply)

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Mrs. Cinnamon Bun (message) 1,100 posts, Bumble bee

Mr CB was away this summer, but not as a far - just an hour and a half drive, but he was working most weekends and those were my days off, so I didn’t get out there too much. Honestly, while I did miss him, I also enjoyed having the house to myself!
I could leave craft projects out and not worry about things being in his way, I could have cereal for dinner if I wanted, watch podcasts on the big TV…. it was fun. Plus we’d phone each other at least once a day, so we still had ‘us’ time.

9/25/11 @ 4:45 pm (reply)